Originally Posted By Mary Poppins you don't know most of the people? I said I would go to a high school band teacher's 75 party in Vancouver. From looking at Facebook and the replies, about 30 people are going, two I know. (One is an old boyfriend but that's another story). Of the 30 more who haven't responded, I don't know anyone. So, should I just declare this party a bust for me and move on?
Originally Posted By DyGDisney I wouldn't...but I don't like big groups, especially when I don't know anyone. I think it depends on your personality. I know people who are very outgoing and can easily make friends in a group of strangers.
Originally Posted By 999HAUNTS I think of you like the person and you already said you would go, you probably should go.
Originally Posted By davewasbaloo I am with Haunts with this one. If you like the person, then I would pop in. Who knows, you might make new friends (I met my wife at a party where I only knew 2 people). If it feels uncomfortable after a while, you could always leave.
Originally Posted By Jim in Merced CA I think if you have a pretty good idea who is attending and you're not that excited about it. Forget it.
Originally Posted By mele I dunno, Jim, I've had at least two different experiences this year where I forced myself to go to out and was wonderfully surprised by the results. It was almost painful to drag myself out of the house but I ended up finding things that have changed and enriched me; things I would have completely missed out on if I had followed my impulse to stay home. You can stay home just about any night...take the chance to go out and meet life! You just might be happily surprised! (Or, it will suck...but if you go with someone else who thinks it sucks, at least you can make fun of it together.) ;-)
Originally Posted By amazedncal2 If I had already rsvp'd that I'd go, I'd go because I'm just too wimpy to change the rsvp or not show. I'd have a plan in mind to escape though. "I'm so happy to be here and I wouldn't have missed this for the world but I need to leave sooner than I'd hoped to (insert reason)"
Originally Posted By WestWind Do you know if all the other people know each other? Maybe a few do, or some, or most of them, but probably not all of them. You should try to get in a good mood to go, and go check it out. If it is not working for you, you don't have to stay long, but at least you will then know what it was like. This way you will not need to guess the next day what it was like.
Originally Posted By u k fan My brother phoned me one evening from a convention saying he was having a terrible time and was going to come home. He decided to see out the day and went to the evening event. He met his wife there and is so pleased he stayed. I'd say if you've already RSVP'ed that you should go!!!
Originally Posted By ophellia hey, it might be super fun and you'd make new friends and contacts....an old band teacher must know lots of musicians!
Originally Posted By Autopia Deb I'll be going to a party this afternoon where I'm only close to the host. The people I know who would normally be there won't be going this time. I figure I just won't plan on being there for the whole thing and it will give me a chance to at least see the hosts for a bit.
Originally Posted By Mary Poppins Intriguing that the 2 people from Britain on this post, posted about meeting future spouses at similar parties. Well, I do want to pay my respects. Thanks to my Mom's piano teaching and his clarinet teaching, I have enjoyed many a happy year of making music here and in Toronto.
Originally Posted By vbdad55 I woulkd definitley go, but then I am very outgoing. My kids say I would talk to a rock- and I probably would if I thought it would listen... I can see where if someone was shy though this could be an issue -- only you can decide what's right
Originally Posted By Mary Poppins Well, a good point, is I am going with my sister as we were both in band at school at the same time. Life is really fun with her. She doesn't look forward to being in a room with 30 strangers and the band conductor. It could be a small room. But, we'll have each other to talk to.
Originally Posted By Liberty Belle If you're going with your sister I'm sure you'll enjoy it! As Mele said, sometimes I "force" myself to go along to things I don't really want to go to, and end up having a great time. I would have an escape plan in mind, too, though!
