Originally Posted By wahooskipper So, Tomorrow we go in for a high level ultrasound and have the opportunity to find out the sex of the baby. I need some input. To find out, or not find out...that is the question. Some facts: This is our second child. We did not find out for the first child. We have a yellow nursery right now (a neutral color from the first.) Ok, give me some thoughts!
Originally Posted By TomSawyer Sex, please. I liked knowing - we could name her and start calling her by her name right away. Our nursery would have worked for a boy or a girl. It was exciting to know that Anna was coming and the she'd already heard her name in the womb.
Originally Posted By disneyfreaksk I don't know how people can stand not knowing. Just gives one peace of mind... arguing about a name can really ruin a moment!
Originally Posted By RagtimeGal Congradulations, Wahooskipper! I'd say find out the sex. With babies and kids you want to be as prepared as possible.
Originally Posted By RoadTrip I wouldn't try to find out the gender. Seeing your baby for the first time is one of life's greatest experiences. I think knowing the gender ahead of time would detract from that experience (though I can't say from personal knowledge... we never tried to find out).
Originally Posted By RoadTrip <<I don't know how people can stand not knowing. Just gives one peace of mind... arguing about a name can really ruin a moment!>> We had names chosen in advance for a baby of either gender. It was actually kind of fun to have to decide on both a boy's name and a girl's name.
Originally Posted By WorldDisney You know, I ***knew*** this topic was going to be sooo misleading, but I clicked on anyway hoping I was wrong . I honestly don't want to give advice as I don't have children. All I can say is **I** would want to know, but if my wife or girlfriend wouldn't, I guess I could wait (I was a big help there, wasn't I ).
Originally Posted By wahooskipper Actually, on the first I would have preferred to know but since I wasn't the one pushing the baby out of my, um, belly button, I deferred to the wife.
Originally Posted By Fe Maiden Don't find out. When our first was due I was Mr. Practical and thought we should know so we can get the room done a certain way, and all the rest. We didn't find out and I can't tell you how glad I was that we waited. In the midst of all that excitement, there's one more surprise. Our second son was born this past July, and admittedly it was harder to not find out than the first. But it was just as big a surprise because we all felt that it was going to be a girl. The doctor who delivered our second is actually my wife's best friend, they've known each other since they were little, and not knowing was hardest on her. Every time we'd go in for a check up she ask if we could find out. As far as names go, it was no problem. we had 2 sets of names for each sex and we waited until we saw them before naming them. BTW, when we took birthing classes, the first night everyone introduced themselves. There were 13 couples having babies. The first 12 all knew what they were having, we were the last ones. I got up told everyone who we were and that we had no idea if it was a boy or girl. By the reaction we got you could tell that a lot of others wish they hadn't known.
Originally Posted By wahooskipper Fe Maiden, The same thing happened to us at the birthing class. About a dozen or so couples and we were the only one's who didn't know. Others looked at us like we had two heads though.
Originally Posted By MissCandice I'd want to know, but that's just me. Candice works for a boy or a girl though, as a name
Originally Posted By Kar2oonMan I never wanted to know with either of mine. It's fun to listen to people with all their theories of which gender the baby will be. Plus, think of the office pool $$$ -- people can wager on the time of delivery, weight and gender, and usually they share the winnings with the little one! ; )
Originally Posted By RoadTrip <<Candice works for a boy or a girl though, as a name >> I'm sure you're right... ;-) <<Well, I grew up quick and I grew up mean, My fist got hard and my wits got keen, I'd roam from town to town to hide my shame. But I made me a vow to the moon and stars That I'd search the honky-tonks and bars And kill that man that give me that awful name.>>
Originally Posted By trailsend hmmmm, I've fallen prey to the topic. Just couldn't help myself. This is a hard (pardon me) question. It all depends on what your wife wants.
Originally Posted By Pixie Glitter It's totally personal preference, of course. But we chose not to find out the sex of our babies ahead of time. This probably won't make sense to anyone except me, but I found that having to wait to find out the gender made labor and delivery a little more bearable. I had very long labors with both kids, and it was somehow more fun to have that surprise waiting at the end of the ordeal.
Originally Posted By TiggerPooh1973 I didn't want to know when I had my son and if I were to have more I wouldn't want to know then either. I like the surprise.
Originally Posted By bloona Our local maternity hospital refuse to tell anyone the sex of the baby from a scan. I can clearly remember in the very final stages of labour thinking how weird it was that within the next few minutes I would know if I had a boy or a girl...lol. Although I guessed right it was a boy! shall I guess yours and you wont have to make the decision about asking at the scan then?
