Originally Posted By DVC_dad This one is about decisions... you know, "Who wears the pants in the family?" What decisions does your spouse make (men or women) without your consent? Maybe it was a big decision in the past, maybe lots of little decisions like what brand of ketchup to buy, maybe you just don't have any say whatsoever, ever, ever. Come on now. Confess... For me, and as an example, my wife took it upon herself to name 5 out of our 6 kids without any input from me whatsoever. I swear, women just don't know their place anymore!
Originally Posted By x Pirate_Princess x Another good thing about being a single mom... I make ALL the decisions, even the ones about the kids, because, well, their dad doesn't care.
Originally Posted By Autopia Deb My initials are DAD so my son likes to joke that I'm his mom and his DAD. I make ALL the decisions (including naming the boy, even though my hubby had some input). My son DID name the dog, so I guess he has some say.
Originally Posted By gottaluvdavillains I decide on pulling the kids out of school to go to DL - and I do it often - I tell him after I make my reservations - I went 10 times last year.... Oh yeah he stays home...
Originally Posted By beamerdog When I saw the list at left, it said "I wear". I thought for sure this was going to be about boxers or briefs, lol.
Originally Posted By RoadTrip My wife came to an agreement many, many years ago. We consult with each other on ALL decisions. But if there is disagreement she has the final word on things to do with the kids; I have the final word on things to do with our money. It works well... we've been married 29 years. P.S. Guys... don't tell anyone but go for the deal if you can get it. There won't always be kid decisions to make, but there will ALWAYS be money decisions to make!! ;-)
Originally Posted By Autopia Deb ^^^but if you make a major mistake with money, you can make more (one hopes) but a mistake with the kids... I don't even want to think.
Originally Posted By friendofdd DW handles the small stuff like how we spend the money, where we travel, what chores I will do, etc. I handle the big stuff like what the U.S. should do about Korea and how to improve Canada's health system.
Originally Posted By RoadTrip <<^^^but if you make a major mistake with money, you can make more (one hopes) but a mistake with the kids... I don't even want to think>> I know... I was just having a little fun. You can usually do pretty well with your money decisions by using a spreadsheet and the advice you get from a financial planner. That doesn't quite work for kids. What to do with kids is really rather unknowable to most guys although DVC_dad seems to have tuned in to it somehow. I let my wife make most of the decisions concerning the kids because she was infinitely better at it than I would ever have been. Must be tied in with having breasts or something... ;-)
Originally Posted By davewasbaloo Let's see. Me make all major decisions together. Any small things to do with the house/shopping etc. are Sarah's decisions with my feedback. With major financial plans, I draft them and run them past Sarah. And with the kids. well whatever one parent says first, we stand by each other (then maybe have a quiet chat after the kids go to bed if we do not see eye to eye. Overall, we share decisions and I hope in doing this I have a long happy marriage to look forward to.
Originally Posted By davewasbaloo >>>Me make all major decisions together.<<< Ooops, was that freudient? I meant we make joint decisions.
Originally Posted By sarahwithbaloo I had to come on when I saw Dave was the last poster to see what he put. Yes it is true we make all decisions jointly IF possible. When I went to look at my now car the garage had someone else wanting it at the same time and I had a really hard time making the decision alone as although I new I liked and wanted the car, and it would mainly be my car to replace the one I crashed I still so wanted Dave's input, luckily the Garage was owned by good friends of ours so I new that they would not be selling it too me if it was a lemon so I did make the sale and the guys let the other buyer down. They still let Dave test it out a few days latter to be sure. Dave will tell you I feel guilty about spending money except for Groceries or childrens clothes unless I have discussed it with him first and he usually runs things by me on his cell if he is shopping for somthing none esential and I am not with him too. The joke is before I go out shopping if he stays home that I have to make sure he knows where the phone is before I go for when I call him.
Originally Posted By wahooskipper I wear the pants in the family. Of course, my wife carries the belt. We make all of our major financial decisions together. Since she is a stay-at-home mom she sometimes feels compelled to ask me before she spends money on discretionary items but I don't feel like she needs to ask and I don't recall ever saying no.
Originally Posted By ShivaThDestroyer Tinkeroon and I are pretty much 50/50 on our decision making. Of course we tend to agree on many things so that's not a huge issue. She also knows our finances better than I do. On smaller things we seldom consult each other, on the more major ones it's sort a "who does it mean more to" sort of thing. Neither of us is extravagant but I tend to be the more impulsive of the 2 of us. I usually back down if she gives me *the look*.
Originally Posted By x Pirate_Princess x <<<<kids, because, well, their dad doesn't >>>>> Ouch! **sad, but true.**
