Originally Posted By bloona My Grandad has been poorly for a while now, but it seems he has just given up now. He lives about an hour away from any relatives, and although his neighbours are beyond wonderful, he just shouldnt be living alone any more. He hasnt got out of bed for days now, when my Mum asked him today why when she visited, he said it was his only remaining pleasure to be comfortable. He gets carers in 3 times a day for 15 minutes at a time, which is clearly not enough. He is being re assessed on Monday to see if he needs more specialist care. He is getting all mixed up about things. His son died of cancer 10 years ago, he has told everyone that he died in a car crash 3 years ago with his daughter in law.( she died 3 years ago,as did my grandma ...(his wife)...not in car crashes) Its so sad, my step Dad said he looks to have lost about half a stone in weight since he saw him last weekend. They recommended that he go in a care home, but for some reason,after assessing him 2 weeks ago,they then said he would be ok at home... clearly thats not right.
Originally Posted By debtee Sorry about your Grandad bloona! It's so hard when they are this age and we went thru a similar experience with Barry's Nan. The thing we found is they have the ability to perk up when visitors come, so when they are being assessed they look and act normal, once they leave they are back the not being able to cope by themselves. It's so tricky and I'm sending you hugs to help you through!
Originally Posted By mele I'm so sorry, bloona. My grandma has changed a lot since my grandfather died, 5 years ago. She's 96 years old today. Hopefully your grandfather will get the care he needs.
Originally Posted By 4Disnee Oh bloona, I am so sorry to hear about your Grandad. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts. Im sending lots of love and hugs your way. I understand just what you are going thru. We lost my Grandfather 8 years ago and it was very hard.
Originally Posted By davewasbaloo Hi bloona, There are some real difficult decisions that have to be made in cases like your grandfather's and a care home is not a decision taken lightly. However, if you would like an alternaive assessment and some advice on how your grandfather can be supported, please feel free to give me a call. Also, what local authority does he live within?
Originally Posted By chickendumpling (((((((bloona)))))))) My brother in law went through this with his father in law. Very difficult times. I'm so sorry. I hope you take davewasbaloo up on his offer. I'm sending you lots of love and thinking good thoughts for your grandad. *hugs*
Originally Posted By bloona thanks everyone.Means a lot. He lives on the East Coast Dave, near Scarborough. Thank you for the offer, we will see what they say tomorrow first.They suggested a specialist team comes in to help him, the ones who come now cant get him to do things they know he is capable of. As I say it seems he has just given up .
Originally Posted By Labuda Best of luck to your Granddad, bloona. I certainly hope your family is able to get him the care he needs.
Originally Posted By RAM1984 I am so sorry to hear this. Sending positive thoughts and prayers out to your whole family. I know how difficult these times can be. Please take care. {{{{HUG}}}}
Originally Posted By bloona just a quick update for you, the meeting planned for Monday was postponed until Thursday. Then my Grandad got the gp to call as he said his bowels were blocked (sorry if youre eating!) so he prescribed a tablet, which made him have the runs so bad he has now been admitted to hospital.Hopefully at least whilst he is in there they will be able to help him.
Originally Posted By 4Disnee Oh bloona I am so sorry to hear that he is in the hospital. I hope that they will be able to help him. We are sending you and your family lots of hugs and love.
Originally Posted By chickendumpling Eek. Sorry to hear he landed in the hospital bloona but hopefully he'll be able to help him with alll his concerns.
Originally Posted By bloona thanks all. the hospital said yesterday that he is dehydrated. He has a blocked bowel and this is over spill....(sorry again if youre eating) my friend's son had that 3 years ago and is still effected by it. His cleaner rang my mum to say she had done her best at his house to clean, but my mum is taking the day off work today to go and help. She isnt looking forward to it obviously. At least now we know what is happening, he is booked to go for a scan.So hopefully he will get help. It explains why he has felt so bad and not been eating though.
