Originally Posted By jasmine7 Hi all. I got fired from my job. I fully admit it was my own fault that led to it. Other than the obvious being out of work, being single, having huge bills and no income worries, I'm also worried that this stigma of being fired will keep me from being hired by any one. Have any of you been down this road? Do you have any consolation or any tips to help me out? I've never been so scared before. If you could spare any good thoughts for my job hunt that starts in the morning (well, I guess it is the morning. . .), I would greatly appreciate it. I've already made my resume and applied for one job, and I do have my 401k coming to help tide me over, but it's still tremendously worrying.
Originally Posted By Mr X Oh, that sucks! Sorry to hear that! If I were you I'd get in touch with your old company and find out what their policy is regarding references. Many companies have a policy of non-disclosure, and if they are contacted they'll confirm only that you worked from X to Y dates and offer no information on performance or the circumstances of your departure. Good luck!
Originally Posted By Mr X ***I fully admit it was my own fault that led to it*** You'll want to avoid saying stuff like this (or even posting it online).
Originally Posted By Goofyernmost Why not. Honesty is always the best policy. If the company allows "references" they will find out anyway. If they don't, companies have a way of "coding" their responses but it is just from their side. We need to take ownership of our actions. We all know it isn't always someone else's actions that lead to our problem. If what happens can be explained in such a way that your prospective company can see that it might not be a problem for them, then it won't carry much weight.
Originally Posted By Mr X ***Why not. Honesty is always the best policy.*** I'm not suggesting she lie. Just not be quite so direct. You can say you got let go without completely crucifying yourself in the process.
Originally Posted By Lady Starlight Sorry to hear this as well J7, Everything for a reason. Have faith. It will all turn out for the best. It always does.
Originally Posted By MomluvsDisney jasmine7-I am sorry to hear about your job loss. I think the most important thing you can do, is keep up your self esteem/self confidence. The confidence in yourself will display when you take job inteviews. Conversly, if you are not feeling that, it shows as well. As Lady Starlight says, have faith! I would add "Dont give up hope!". In yourself, your abilities and the fact that you know yourself to be everything plus more for the next employer. I have a situation with my employer that may lead to something along your lines in the not too distant future. I actually have a game plan which begins with an all day visit the next day to Disneyland, and on from there. I will keep you in my positive thoughts!
Originally Posted By Marlin Perkins Jasmine, It is a scary time for a lot of people looking for work. You are not alone in the world. Get the process started regarding unemployment benefits, just in case. You were fired, so you are entitled to them. I was fired once many years ago. It's not a good feeling. It can make you feel like a total failure--even though you're not. So, it's important to remind yourself of all the things you have accomplished in life, set goals for your future, and move foward. Like LS said, things happen for a reason and you need to think positive. Things WILL get better.
Originally Posted By Sara Tonin My life experience is along the lines of,"God never closes a door without opening a window". Everytime something adverse has happened to me something better has come along. I hope the same happens for you.
Originally Posted By Labuda Wow, sorry to hear you lost your job, Jasmine! Best wishes on getting a new job before long! Oh. and I know my employer will only verify dates of employment and nothing more, fwiw...
Originally Posted By iamsally This is really too bad. And such bad timing. But get out there and fight. There are jobs out there. Just more competition. Sell yourself and good luck. DH and I may be out there pounding the pavement ourselves before too long.
Originally Posted By ecdc Sorry to hear this. My advice: don't despair. I got fired from a job and it turned out to be the best thing that could have happened. I'm not saying that will be the case for you (and maybe you're already sick of hearing that) but it's very possible. I know people who still work where I did eight years ago and they're miserable. My advice is also to just be honest about it. I told my next two employers what happened, and they hired me anyways. Obviously that can depend on what happened, but I'm sure you'll be fine. Take a day or two to relax, then start looking for something new next week.
Originally Posted By alexbook Three thoughts: 1. Be very, very careful with taking money out of the 401(k). It's easy to end up owing more taxes than you expect. (I speak from experience.) 2. Remember that potential employers may do on-line searches for things you've posted. Be careful what you post, especially about your former employer. 3. Keep Moving Forward. And good luck.
