Originally Posted By crazycroc acting in a manner unbecoming for a young lady. Without going into too many details, I'll just say they are in eight grade and her friend is using her hand on multiple people. Should I tell friend's father? I don't know how you stop that behavior, and where it comes from. For now, my kiddo isn't allowed to hang out with this kid anymore. Advice? Help! (I've entered the scary single dad zone)
Originally Posted By crazycroc acting in a manner unbecoming for a young lady. Without going into too many details, I'll just say they are in eight grade and her friend is using her hand on multiple people. Should I tell friend's father? I don't know how you stop that behavior, and where it comes from. For now, my kiddo isn't allowed to hang out with this kid anymore. Advice? Help! (I've entered the scary single dad zone)
Originally Posted By CuriouserConstance Would you want another parent to tell you if you're daughter was acting that way? I think it's important for the parent to know. If the daughter continues to do this, it could have a negative impact on her in some terrible, lasting way. I'd tell the parent.
Originally Posted By mele Areyou friends with the parent? If so, be prepared for that parent to not be your friend any longer (or even to act out against you). But, you should tell them...just for the kid's sake. She needs some help or at the very least, supervision. Two of my daughter's classmates in the 6th grade were caught at 3 a.m. in a deserted park 2 miles away from their homes. They had sneaked out to meet some boys. Thankfully, the police caught them and not some freak. There are no houses nearby if the girls screamed for help. At least one of the girls has already begun having her period and has posted really suggestive things on her facebook page. Some of these girls are already called 'sluts' by their male classmates. Very frightening situations. I never like to blame the media but I can only imagine what kind of images girls get about the women they should be. Rarely do tv shows/movies show how promiscuous women are treated. Being sexy is so glorified but it rarely turns out to be as glamourous or carefree in real life. I'm sorry you're in this position, croc.
Originally Posted By tashajilek You have to first take into consideration how your daughter will feel if you tell on her and if the parents will believe you. See if your daughter isnt going to be her friend anymore then her parents find news out from you they might take their daughters side. I think you should still tell but just know what could happen. Some situations are really tricky.
Originally Posted By TheParsec I think you should go talk to the other parent's. I have a situation (not going into details) where the parents came and told me something about my 15 year old daughter. I am Really glad they told me, or I would of never known. Now we are handling it the best way we can.
Originally Posted By Mickeymouseclub Your first and only responsibility is to your child. I am sorry but you need to realize this other set of parents are not doing their job and do you think your telling them will make them better parents? Imagine that they approach this child with Mr. CrazyCroc said his daughter says...and your daughter will have problems at school and will probably never tell you anything again. I repeat this is a tough one but think about what is best for your child and you need to keep your relationship with your daughter as top priority. I know everybody is not going to like what I just said.
Originally Posted By 999HAUNTS This is a slippery slope. If you personally have not witnessed this behavior with your kid's friend, the parent probably will not pay any heed to it. The only thing you can do is make sure your daughter is no longer exposed to that behaviour.
Originally Posted By tashajilek I agree mickeymouseclub no kid wants to be know as the snitch. If there is a chance it can hurt his Daughter in the long run then it is not worth it.
Originally Posted By Mickeymouseclub Crazyvroc do you have full custody? I know when my children where this age I volunteered for every school function almost always had the pj party at my house. Just found ways for my kids to hang out and be around as much as possible without being obvious. It also helped me to know all the kids and for the kids to know me. It takes up a lot of time but it is worth it. It does sound like you have a good relationship with your daughter if she trusts you enough to have told you this. It is really shocking the things parents have to deal with nowadays. You have to have a trusting relationship and be prepared to discuss so much at such young ages. It is really sad. I know some people criticize Disney but what else is out there for family fun? Another thing that you have to figure out is explaining your decision(either way) to your daughter. I am still thinking about that answer.
Originally Posted By LuLu You have to bring this up somehow. Yes this girl's life is going to be adversely affected big time, if this isn't turned around soon. If you know the parent(s), you could say that you've heard that their daughter is acting up with boys, and they need to find out what's going on. If you don't know them and fear retribution, maybe an anonymous note? However, school is almost over, so any potential trouble for your daughter should be short-lived. It will blow over when school lets out, and next year will be high school (thank God) where the kids are less catty and cliquey. Good luck to you cc.
Originally Posted By Autopia Deb Wasn't that girl who committed suicide after being harassed over having dated the wrong boy in high school? I'm torn, the parents have a right to know. But in this communication age the bullying can go far beyond the school yard. Discuss this with your daughter, she knows better than you what her school mates are capable of.
Originally Posted By Mickeymouseclub Good advice. perhaps an innocent way would be to show her this topic since it has remained thoughtful and caring so far.
Originally Posted By Princessjenn5795 If it were my kid, I would want to know. I would tell the other parent that you don't want to cause any problems for their daughter but you are concerned and that you just wanted them to know. More than likely your daughter is not the only other kid that knows about her actions (that kind of thing spreads around pretty quickly, or at least it did when I was in school) hopefully the girl's parents won't reveal their source. Another option, if you do not feel comfortable addressing the parents directly, is to make an appointment to tell the school counselor. Tell them your concerns about the effect on your daughter and let them speak to the parents.
Originally Posted By Liberty Belle It's a hard situation. But as most people have said, if it were my kid, I would want to know.
Originally Posted By crazycroc Well, I told the dad that I was had heard that the daughter was doing some experimentation with boys, and although it was a difficult thing to do, I had to tell him because I would want him to do the same. He started crying and told that he daughter had been molested when she was younger by a grandfather and had been in therapy for doing this before. And that she will go back again. I feel pretty badly for the girl who is "acting out" past - abuse, etc. Ahhhh, hard situation just got harder.
Originally Posted By Mr X Sounds like you handled it well though...hopefully it will be helpful in the long run!
Originally Posted By Mickeymouseclub Lots of Respect to you crazycroc. Both of these young girls must have caring fathers and that is so important.
