Originally Posted By Labuda Well, LP family, I have big news. This morning Eric and I talked, and we've decided we're going to get a divorce. Part of me feels like a failure since our marriage lasted a mere 8 years, one week, and 2 days, but OTOH, Eric and I are both very happy with this decision. As some of you know, we haven't really been happy for quite a while, and we've decided that while we make wonderful best friends, we do NOT make good partners. So, feel free to either offer condolences or congratulations - whichever you feel is more accurate. Good news is we have already talked about the "important" things and who'll get what and we both are 100% in accordance. In the meantime, we're going to remain roommates until our lease here is up, but then we're going to see if we can find another roomie or two and get a house to share. Maybe we're being foolish or naive in thinking this will go as well as it seems based on our chat this morning, but I can honestly say that since we took our rings off last night, we've both been in a better mood, and we both feel relieved and are glad that we're not going to lose each other as friends. So, anyhow, that's all I wanted to share. Have a great weekend, my friends!
Originally Posted By davewasbaloo Ann, I am sorry things did not work out, but here's to a positive move forward. All our love from this side of the pond to a very special lady. If you ever want to talk, you know where we are sweet spirit XOXOXOXO
Originally Posted By TINK-MOBILE For me, although we have never met, sadness runs thru my heart, even though you both seem to have things in order, material things all worked out, I just pray that you both remain happy , that God reaches out his hand to comfort you while leading you on to new pastures, you never really miss what you have til it is gone, it is at this time that you will need that lil ear to help you find your way thru , take care...our heart's from our home welcomes you both in at any time..love and prayers always ..from the Snowhite and the Tink-Mobile oxoxox hUGS AND Smiles OF COMFORT are been sent to you...this DAY.. sometimes a lil break from each other can repair and strengthen a bonding that shall last forever...amen ox
Originally Posted By chickapin Life's changes are hard and sometimes sad. I'm hoping that both of you find happiness.
Originally Posted By smedley Labuda, I offer my sympathies, either way, it looks like you guys have a positive attitude towards the situation, and it would be great if you could stay friends. Hugs x
Originally Posted By wonderingalice Ann... I send you heartfelt, bittersweet congratulations. From a very similar (an extremely amicable divorce from a "wonderful friend") experience, I know you'll be feeling a myriad of emotions - relief and happiness, as well as sadness. Ultimately, the freedom to move on to the next chapter in your life will feel liberating, but you'll always remember some of the bad AND a lot of the good from your marriage to Eric. If you ever want to talk, my e-mail is in my profile. Love and hugs to you, sweetheart.
Originally Posted By wonderingalice Oh... And a bit of funny/strange for you... My ex and I only had one decent bed in the house. We shared it for a month and a week AFTER our divorce was final as I waited to close escrow on the condo he helped me move into. Yep... You can remain friends. *LOL*
Originally Posted By LuLu My best wishes to you both. 8 years is a long time and I suspect you'll feel some sadness as you adjust to your new roles. I hope everything works out for the best for you both! Take care hon!
Originally Posted By murfsmom wow- well i can vouch for divorced couples remaining friends. my sister and her ex are great friends and they were divorced over 15 yrs ago ! they both have remarried and were all together every christmas ! my ex brother in law is and always will be part of our family. he a great guy, they just grew apart, she worked days, he worked nights(he's in a band) and he was on the road a lot. the more popular the band got the less they saw of each other, she would go with him when she could but it just was not fun any more. i know people started talking, saying he had "groupies" but that was so far from the truth, that's the LAST thing he would do is cheat !! he watched his band members , squirm, lie and etc when they had their families with them and he said it was awful !! anyway, love and BIG HUGS to both of you. murfsmom P.S. my sister and her ex, lived together for a long time until they could afford to get out on their own, and my sister said the same thing about how she felt when they took of their rings, it was a sort of relief.
Originally Posted By alphabetmom Labuda, my heart goes out to you. However I am so glad to hear that things are going so smoothly, I hope they continue to.
Originally Posted By gottaluvdavillains Congrats and I am sorry... I do admire you though for sitting down and making a mature decision the is best for both of you. You did this not out of anger or spite but because you each respect the other and truely want happiness for both of you. Good Luck.
Originally Posted By dsnykid Whether it be congratulations or condolences, I will keep you in my thoughts and hope that it all works out the best for you
Originally Posted By tiggerdis_ Ann, while my heart breaks a bit for you two, I'm so glad you made the decision before it got ugly. All the best to you and Eric on your new relationship!
Originally Posted By bloona Good luck Ann with this decision, it sounds as if it was a decision that had to be made, and that youre both happy with.Take care. All the best xxxx
Originally Posted By ecdc IMO, any step towards making a happier life is a step in the right direction. I admire you both for being mature enough to work out the details in a positive way. As I get older, I become amazed at how many friends and aquaintances choose to stay in unhappy marriages and relationships. I try my best to share my simple belief that, "There's a better way to live."
Originally Posted By Labuda Thanks for the support, all. Now, for a bit of what I consider funny news... I told my Mom and my middle brother and they're both ok with it, but my oldest brother is the one who told me he's disappointed we didn't try harder to make it work. The brother who got his 3rd divorce at age 33 and when you combine all three marriages, they come nowhere near the 8 years Eric & I hit last week! heheh Anyhow, Eric got home from work a few minutes ago and is not out to dinner with our friend Lucy while I burn a little more time waiting for it to be time for me to head out for poker.
Originally Posted By -em With every ending comes a new beginning- I wish you the best of luck on your "new" life- It will be a complicated road but may the end bring you new joy... -em
Originally Posted By DlandDug Ann, I am so sorry that you did not get the happily ever after you deserve. I hope you will be happy.
Originally Posted By disney pete Labuda so sorry to hear this i kinda thought something aint been right coz i havnt seen you posting here as regular as normal,i hope it does go as smoothly as you guys plan best of luck for both of you for the future.
