Originally Posted By Labuda Ok, dudes, I'm just curious... as a single fort he first time in YEARS kinda gal, I'm wondering this: For the most part, is it safe to assume if you've chatted with a guy once and then next time you see him he immediately introduces himself and offers to buy you a drink that he is interested in you? Of note may be that what we first discussed was hockey - turns out we're both Redwings fans. And when I saw him last night I asked if he watched the game and then that's when he introduced himself and I ended up saying no thank you to the drink since (A) I already had a full one where I was sitting and (B) I think it would have been rude to accept a drink from him and follow it up immediately with "see ya" as I headed back to my poker game. Anyhow, just curious - he's likely WAY too nice of a guy to have any interest in me thus my confusion. lol
Originally Posted By markymouse Two lines of reasoning: 1. Buying a drink is meant to mean "I'm interested" but can mean "I was raised to be polite to ladies". Either message is basically positive. or 2. If he's a straight male and you're a female, he's interested. With guys its best not to make things more complicated than that.
Originally Posted By Mary Poppins A girl question here, Ms. Labuda. You say the gentleman introduces himself the second time you meet. Do you mean to say that the first time you talked with him you didn't know who he was? He didn't introduce himself from the start?
Originally Posted By Inspector 57 <<For the most part, is it safe to assume if you've chatted with a guy once and then next time you see him he immediately introduces himself and offers to buy you a drink that he is interested in you?>> Heck, yeah! Think about it. When he spotted you the second time, his options included: 1) Avoiding you entirely. 2) Saying a pleasant, quick and dismissive "Hello." 3) Saying a genuine "Hi!" 3) Saying "Hi" and buying a drink for you. He went the extra mile. He's interested in you. <<turns out we're both Redwings fans>> I'm likin' this guy already. <<I ended up saying no thank you to the drink since (A) I already had a full one where I was sitting and (B) I think it would have been rude to accept a drink from him and follow it up immediately with "see ya" as I headed back to my poker game.>> Can you say "Thank you! Thank you very much! But I have to head off to my poker game. Can I take a rain check?" <<Anyhow, just curious - he's likely WAY too nice of a guy to have any interest in me thus my confusion.>> WHOAAAAAAAAA there!!!!!!!!!!!! I know of SEVERAL guys who are CERTIFIABLY nice and who think VERY highly of you. So it's time to work on some self-esteem issues, huh?
Originally Posted By DlandDug I agree with the Inspector. I will always treasure the day we spent rambling through Disney World. You have no reason to even think that a guy would be "way too nice" to have any interest in you. Add to that a mutual interest in hockey-- and I would say his eagerness to introduce himself again and buy you a drink indicates interest.
Originally Posted By Autopia Deb Next time you see him, introduce yourself and offer to buy HIM a drink. That way he knows you weren't blowing him off when you declined his drink offer.
Originally Posted By Goofyernmost As long as you told him why you were hurrying off all should be OK. If you just said no thanks, I gotta go, see ya, then he will have interpreted that as a rejection and indication that you are not interested. Don't sweat it though because men are easily pulled back in. If you see him again you may have to approach him because he might be gun shy now. Tell him why you had to go and that you really wanted to stay but people were waiting for you and can I have that drink now. He should fall back in line at that point. Men are such simple creatures when it comes right down to it. Kinda makes me proud.
Originally Posted By Labuda " Do you mean to say that the first time you talked with him you didn't know who he was? He didn't introduce himself from the start?" Correct. First time we chatted, he was around the corner from me at the bar with a couple of seats between us and we just chatted about the sports highlights we were seeing on ESPN and the baseball game I was watching on one of the other screens. We chatted enough then that I knew stuff like what days he works, what he does for a living, where he's from, where he's lived for the last couple of/few years, that his divorce occurred for reasons similar to mine, and that he is pretty much Michigan-specific for his sports teams since he's from a small town just outside of Detroit. BUT, we never bothered with names that night. Friday night when we bumped into each other, though, he immediately introduced himself and apologized for not having done that when we first met. "Can you say "Thank you! Thank you very much! But I have to head off to my poker game. Can I take a rain check?"" That's pretty much what I did - something like "oh, I'm sorry, but I have a full drink and I'm just away from the poker table to get this for my buddy real quick, but I'll definitely take you up on it next time." So, that part I did right, I think. "I know of SEVERAL guys who are CERTIFIABLY nice and who think VERY highly of you. So it's time to work on some self-esteem issues, huh?" Yeah, but it's always self-esteem time for me when it comes to truly nice people. I totally get why they'd want to be friends with me since I rock, but after 10 plus years of Eric, I DO have issues thinking that a person who's actually a nice, decent, responsible adult male human being might want to date me. But, I do thank both you & Doug for the kind words. And, Doug - like you, I treasure my memories of the day that we spent together at WDW. First time I ever went offsite at all (OOPS! lol) and first time I hit all four parks in one day. PLUS, having your company and soaking up some of your Disney knowledge, plus learning about what you do for a living - all that was great! Anyhow, thanks, all - when I visit Ali tonight if Kevin's there, I'll take a seat next to him and say hi.
Originally Posted By TINK-MOBILE You will know if there is chemistry in the air....your heart will tell you.... this fella could very well have been extending a get to know you better courtesy by offering you a drink . I wouldn't go and now offer him a drink the next time you meet, but rather would just greet as you always greet , he knows that you were interested in a rain check for that offer, so just wait and see what happens happens next...if he is truly wanting to sit down with you, he will....that is for sure...you do seem to be interested in chatting with him. and he certainally feels comfortable chatting with you.....that is a good thing.......Really do............. hope you find your Dream..Prince...... Be your Smiling Happy self, that is probally what he noticed about you best...take care...smiles from ...The Tink-mobile...: )
Originally Posted By Mary Poppins I see, Labuda. That makes perfect sense why you didn't exchange names. Sounds like you had a good rapport with him right of the bat (sports joke).
Originally Posted By Big Thunder I agree with pretty much what others posted. From a guys perspective, yes... take it as a sign he is attracted to you and interested in getting to know you better
Originally Posted By Labuda Thanks again, y'all. Saw Kevin last night and we chatted for a bit before he shot pool. Oh, and we did a shot of sadness over the fact that those darned waterfowl beat the Wings. heh
Originally Posted By RoadTrip I think he was interested. Besides, you never want to turn down a free drink. I'd probably have let him buy ME a drink. ;-)
Originally Posted By Ursula Wait, you like sports and play poker and no one has proposed to you yet? ;P Yes, he likes you. He liiiiiikkkkes you!!!
Originally Posted By Labuda Ursula - you are absolutely correct! No proposals in the post-Eric era. BUT, the guys I've gone out with aren't really ones I'd want to KEEP anyway. At least, none of them yet. But, this Kevin guy seems just really nice, and OMG - this is a big change for me - RESPONSIBLE! Oh, and weirdness Friday night - my now-27 year old former plaything and I sat around talking for about an hour Friday night. Topics of discussion limited to sports and poker, as if we talk about ANYTHING else, we'd be at each others' throats pretty quicklike. lol So, anyhow, I'm hoping to get to chat some more with Kevin soon. And, for those who noticed my "I got a promotion" thread, too - I'm starting to think maybe hubby #2 will be a surgeon or doctor. heheh
Originally Posted By Labuda Exactly, mele! I'm definitely going to do an upgrade over the original model if I ever find a second husband. And, hey, I'm only 36 - I have PLENTY of time left, hopefully.
