Originally Posted By Amynleroy Ok here is my situation. I am going to DL with my family and A friend is going also. A mutual friend of ours has now said she wants to go,(we love her) BUT: 1) she is a bad DL'er, she has a rude attitude about lines (likes to get wheelchairs to get ahead) We dont do that! 2) She has been a bunch of times and has given my friend BAD advice about planning (like skipping goofy's, etc) 3) the friend that I invited is also going with her 10yr old and Mother and it is their first real trip to DL so I want them to have fun without Scrooge! WE NEED IDEAS TO DISCOURAGE HER FROM GOING WITH OUR GROUP...WE WANT A MAGICAL TRIP, NOT TRAGICAL!!!
Originally Posted By mater4 Just tell her NO! If it comes to that and she does not take any hints. You need to chat with gottaluvdavillians. She has a story on one of her DL trips that went really sour because of a bad friend. If this "friend" keeps mentioning it just say maybe on the next trip since you have already planned everything.She might get mad but she will get over it.
Originally Posted By gottaluvdavillains Run - Don't walk - tell her NO!! If you want my sad story I will share it with you - but my advise it tell her you would rather plan a trip with just the two of you another time - you can always delay that...
Originally Posted By Amynleroy WE WANT YOUR SAD STORY!! It will give me the strength to not feel so bad!
Originally Posted By liveforvacations I don't think you are going to be able to discourage her but maybe someone will have some ideas. I think that you just have to be honest-kind of. I would tell her that you have realized that when it comes to Disneyland, you are really selfish and stubborn and that you want to "do Disneyland" your way. Since this is not possible with her, it is not feasible for you to go to Disneyland together. Suggest that she needs to find someone that is more flexible to go to Disneyland with her. If she really is your friend, she should be able to get over it and understand.
Originally Posted By mater4 Don't think twice about feeling bad. You will regret being nice to her if she comes along. Like villians says RUN like the wind.
Originally Posted By gottaluvdavillains Okay to to the Express Jet thread in this topic - My first bad story starts on 114 (DD birthday trip in Sept) the Second Horrible trip starts on 352(Halloween with SIL) You can just read my posts during those times and you will see how bad it can be - By the way my SIL still don't speak and we only live 20 min from each other!
Originally Posted By TXDISNEYNERD I have heard Villians story. Definitely run the other way. You do not want to end up with this person ruining DL for everyone else.
Originally Posted By sherrytodd Here's the link to gottaluv's story to give you the strength to say "NO!!!" <a href="http://mb.laughingplace.com/MsgBoard-T-90892-P-1.asp" target="_blank">http://mb.laughingplace.com/Ms gBoard-T-90892-P-1.asp</a>
Originally Posted By Shiva >>If you want my sad story<< gottaluv, I seem to remember that one! iamsally's last trip was less than magical too. Normally I would say one bad apple doesn't spoil the whole basket but in the case of a Disney trip, one non-disney personality can really take the magic out of the visit for everyone else. There's no good way to tell a friend that you don't want them to come along with you. They always seem to be oblivious to their own behavior and tend to be defensive if you bring it up. I like the idea of, "I'd like to but not this time" and reusing the same excuse over and over again, every time they ask, until they get the hint.
Originally Posted By gottaluvdavillains Like I tell my children to say if they are approached to drink or try drugs - JUST SAY NO Look in the recent trip reports for iamsally's report... Her's was bad too...
Originally Posted By sherrytodd I can honestly say I very VERY carefully weigh who I share my Disney experiences with. They are too special to me to waste on a bad experience. My husband is lucky he's been invited back twice within the last twelve month period. If you haven't invited her and she's trying to invite herself, I would just subtlely exclude her from the planning process. I'm sure she'll catch on. Maybe it was just a passing whim and her desire to go won't actually materialize.
Originally Posted By MOLLYSMOM Listen to villains.....she was in our Express Jet therapy group for quite some time after her 2 trips.
Originally Posted By Shiva >>Look in the recent trip reports for iamsally's report... Her's was bad too...<< gottaluv, I know, I was there with her, Her's wasn't as bad as yours but it was bad enough. Just another example of, "No good deed shall go unpunished". To make things worse, this same little old lady is fully expecting iamsally to take her again in March.
Originally Posted By MOLLYSMOM Ditto here...I couldn't believe it. iamsally isn't considering a repeat, is she? If so, we will need to do an intervention.
Originally Posted By ShivaThDestroyer >> iamsally isn't considering a repeat, is she?<< NO!! but she's facing the same dilemma that Amynleroy is. How to say, "NO" without ruining the friendship.
Originally Posted By Brrfam Do what I do...blame your husband! Just kidding... Actually, I would be honest, but sweet. Tell her how special Disneyland is for you and that you know she wouldn't enjoy doing it "your way". What if she went at same time, just not "with" you. Then you could suggest meeting for a FEW fun times together. Who knows, you might even enjoy it! A few years ago, we went at same time as two co-workers and their families. Wasn't planned, but we all stayed at the same hotel. Everyone did their own thing, but we met up for parades or food at the park...and drank by the HOJO pool after the park closed (kids were swimming). It was actually kind of fun running into them from time to time during the day. You would think as big as the park is, you'd never cross paths...but we did. Turned out to be one of our favorite trips!>
Originally Posted By gottaluvdavillains That sounds good - but it sounds like this lady wants to be part of the trip...
