Originally Posted By KCCHIEF as most of you know.....I was divorced in December (2008).....he walked out the door in July and there was (as it turns out) a 3rd party to our marriage....anyway...I am driving to work this morning with my 9 year old son and he passes by us in his work van (with his phone number very visible) and proceeds to roll down his window and flip me off........I was determined to not look at his vehicle when he passed (and I did see it approaching---Sprinter van---very visible)....but, my son was looking and when I heard him gasp and say "Mom---look what he is doing"....I was shocked.....one part of me wants to call him and yell....another says what the heck-----he is crazy.......my friends here at work say he is juvenile. I am stumped as to why he is mad at me ...... and could do that with Tarik in the car.
Originally Posted By A Happy Haunt Very juvenile, call your Lawyer, this may help with custody rights/battles.
Originally Posted By Sara Tonin document...document...document! I have a crazy ex also. I keep a diary/folder...just in case something happens to me. You can't stop him from being juvenile/crazy. But you should keep records, makes it easier to get a restraining order should the time come.
Originally Posted By RockyMtnMinnie Document it for custody rights and don't get drawn into his game. Be there for your son if he wants to talk. I'm so sorry you are having to go through all this. He sounds like such a scumbucket.
Originally Posted By dshyates Report it to your lawyer, and forget it. I know the feeling about the 3rd party. My divorce was my ex's boyfriend's idea. 2 months after the divorce she married him. One month after that she calls at 2am to be picked up at the hospital after he beat her up. Good thing I only wasted 18 years with her.
Originally Posted By A Happy Haunt A had a crazy ex. Do everything you can to keep the kids safe. No marriage or kids maybe he's dead now..that would make me glad!! Nice huh & to think I erased what I had initially writted. Really, keep yourself SAFE!
Originally Posted By SoThisIsLove {{{KCCHIEF and Tarik}}} I'm sorry, honey. I just spoke to one of our cops. He agrees with the documentation thing, with one caveat: it could come down to a he said, she said thing, perhaps. Here in AZ, you could call your local agency and get it documented (short form report) as a Disorderly Conduct. It would be there as potential future ammunition. Officer says if you're truly upset, you can pursue that. Otherwise, document. It may come in handy, especially if he has a history of being an a******. (His words)
Originally Posted By DyGDisney Is this man the father of your son? I am blown away by this, especially if he is. Maybe he didn't realize your son was in the car?? I would have called him up and told him off.
Originally Posted By dshyates Really what I would have done on the spot is put a ridiculously huge smile on my face and waved like a maniac. It confuses simpletons.
Originally Posted By WDWdreamin I am sure he would love to have you call him and yell at him for his immaturity, so don't give him the pleasure. I don't know anything about needing to document, but I'd believe those with experience. I'm sorry you had to go through with this. I'm sure it hurts and it's UNACCEPTABLE behavior in front of a child.
Originally Posted By MOLLYSMOM My ex did the same kind of stuff, even more so. The next time he called, I told him that because of our daughter, we would be in each other's lives for a VERY long time. I told him that we didn't need to like each other, but in the presence of our daughter, we would treat each other with consideration and respect. I told him that we would NOT screw up our daughter by acting like children. We were adults and we were gonna act like it. He said, "That's never gonna happen." I then explained to him that it most certaintly was, and if he thought any different, he'd see himself back in court with supervised visitation until he figured out that our daughter was WAY more important than his juvenile attitude. Well...I took him back to court, I got supervised visitation for 90 days, and he was required by the judge to attend a class for divorced parents where he was taught the "right" way to be with your kids and your ex. I couldn't care less what my ex did to me. I blew it off and ignored it. BUT...he was NOT going to get away with his crud around our daughter.
Originally Posted By KCCHIEF I am documenting it.......he would have known that Tarik was in the car....we go the same route everyday and we were on our way to daycare. I thought about calling his job...I am sure that they might have something to say about his behaviour in THEIR company van. But, I did not. My son saw it.......so it would not be just a "he said...she said".... I guess his new life with his new woman is not as merry as he thought it would be. I am just guessing that to be true or otherwise why would he be acting like that at 8:00 in the morning......
Originally Posted By Ursula I am so sorry. Makes you wish for an invisible man to come along and just beat the crap out of your ex, doesn't it? I ssume you are telling your lawyer, too, right?
Originally Posted By KCCHIEF I have never (seriously) had a thought about hurting him (or at least one I care to admit to).......my lawyer is out of the picture unless I retain him for a different reason..........I am getting my check on the first of each month so far on time.....but he has delivered January's and February's in person and has thrown them at me......one at my job (January) and the February one in a grocery store (that he just happened to be in while I was there!!??)....he caused a scene both times.....anyway.....like I said...I am at a lost why he is so angry.....it should be me that is pissed off
Originally Posted By Stacers76 Ugh some people are just braindead huh! I'm with you KC I would have called his company....and would have been sure to point out the child was in the car. Best of luck and hopefully he got a flat tire later. )
Originally Posted By Autopia Deb He's probably mad at you because you didn't crumble and die when he left. How DARE you thrive without him. Good ridance to bad trash.
Originally Posted By davewasbaloo I think a discreet call to his company could be in order. I really do not understand how someone could behave like that. Love and hugs KCHIEF
Originally Posted By RockyMtnMinnie I would say his life is not going well right now and he is taking it out on you. Do not try to blame yourself for his attitude.
Originally Posted By LadyKluck Ugh my first thought was "camera phone"! That way you had proof! Jerkwad!
Originally Posted By gottaluvdavillains <<Really what I would have done on the spot is put a ridiculously huge smile on my face and waved like a maniac. It confuses simpletons.>> I agree with this one. <<I think a discreet call to his company could be in order. >> Not this one - The economy is tough - there are alot of people looking for work - you are getting child support you want he man working. I would guess he is not happy about the child support and has realized the grass isn't always greener on the other side. <<...I am getting my check on the first of each month so far on time.....but he has delivered January's and February's in person and has thrown them at me......one at my job (January) and the February one in a grocery store (that he just happened to be in while I was there!!??)....he caused a scene both times.....>> Can you call the agency in charge of payments (not sure who monitors these things but I know there is someone) and explain his behavior and request automatic payroll withdrawls for this so you don't have to see him. I would also contact the family court and request a Mediator. This is usually a free service that the courts will provide to provide Mediation of the child custody and behavior.
