Originally Posted By seafairy1622 My 25 year old son is engaged. I have mixed feelings because they have only been dating for 6 months. But they are waiting another year to get married. My son had been with a girl I really liked for five years. They broke up about 6 months before he starting seeing his current girlfriend. I really thought he would marry his ex-girlfriend, but he wasn't ready to get married and now he is. It just seems so unlike him. The other thing is she's 17! She's a sweetheart, but 17! His ex-girlfriend was the same age as him. My daughter (20) and I are having a hard time believing this. I am glad they are waiting and she is not pregnant.
Originally Posted By Princessjenn5795 Well, at least they are waiting for a year. They should be able to really get to each other and make sure that it is what they both want in that time. Good luck to you and to them!
Originally Posted By Labuda Best of luck to your son and his fiancee. Here's hoping it turns out wonderfully for them!
Originally Posted By LuLu What do her parents think? You'd have to scrape me off the ceiling, if my daughter announced this at age 17...
Originally Posted By seafairy1622 I am good friends with the girls mom. She is not too happy about this either. She told her daughter she should wait even longer. Her dad is really not in the picture. We are really shocked. I never thought they were that serious. I hope it doesn't happen. She's too young. I told my son she was too young when he first hanging out with her, but he has been out of my house since he was 18. Thank-you for the well wishes. Didn't see this coming.
Originally Posted By avimagine I mean it truly good luck. Having problems with my 18 yr old kid bro. So I can imagine how you're feeling about this. With luck no pregnancy / and they will see that even if they're meant to be they should wait a little more. When I was younger I never thought i'd say this. But at least on her side I think she's a bit too young to make a rational decision about this and it may not be as solid as if they wait a couple or more years. Sorry to be a downer.
Originally Posted By Mary Poppins I have a 24 year old son so I can related to your son's age and getting engaged. Other people on this post have echoed my feelings about this situation. But, I do wish them all the luck in this world. Congratulations to them. {{{{HUGS}}}}seafairy.
Originally Posted By TINK-MOBILE Seventeen is very young , things can change over nite so I would just wait and see what happens, both sides have given them both their thoughts , just wait and see what they do with them.. I am thinking like lulu ....my daughter did Marry at 21..has been happily married for 4 years almost..Do you have high ceilings lulu.. : )
Originally Posted By hopemax Congratulations on your son's "practice" engagement! I don't mean to be flip, but I had a friend in college who got engaged young, no marriage. Friends whose children got engaged young, but no marriage. So I've started calling them "practice" engagements. The parents seemed to relax a little after I said that (never told the engaged couple though). Since they aren't rushing to an actual ceremony, a lot can happen in the interim.
Originally Posted By disneylandfan8 My son is 18 and he's dating a 16 year old (who will turn 17 tomorrow). They have been "engaged" since the 2nd month they were seeing each other! Neither one of them has the faintest idea of what life is all about. My son is out of high school but not working. Spends Mon-Fri at home playing video games and see's her on the weekend. She's being home schooled at this time. I keep hoping this will blow over, but so far it hasn't happened. *sigh*
Originally Posted By TINK-MOBILE I was 27 when I met Cindy , she was a mere 21 years old, we dated for two weeks before we became engaged , we just knew something was right...we were married the following year on FEB 14TH... We were known as the couple who were meant for each other, 30 years later , she still is chasing me around with the rolling pin like the Gal is in POC...ha ha ha...You just never know how things will turn out .. Gals are usually more mature and are the ones who will take the Bull by the horn..so give it time and lets just hope that it is only the engagement they are practising...: )
Originally Posted By seafairy1622 thank-you so much for all the kind words. It means alot. I had a really good talk with my son's ex-girlfriend. I love her she became part of our family in the 5 years they were together. I wish they would have worked out. She is with someone else know but still wants to be friends with my son she wants him to be happy. my son's current girlfriend doesn't even want my son to talk to his ex at all. My son had a friend from high school who came to visit him from another state and his girlfriend said he couldn't see her. So he didn't. They are just friends. Just shows how young his girlfriend is. Guess I'll wait and see what happens.
Originally Posted By avimagine Oh jealous girlfriend troubles in teen years. Heh. *Never* heard of that before. Time may work it out if it's just puppy love/lust. It sounds like his previous gf may have been the right one. (Or maybe it's someone else). Remember even though they both drifted. Sometimes people get back together later and it works. Then again I know too many people in hurtful relationships where they fight and make up, fight and make up. Let's hope for the former.
Originally Posted By tashajilek "she still is chasing me around with the rolling pin like the Gal is in POC..." You better hope she doesnt see this TM LOL. I wish you all the best seafairy and hope everything works out. I will tell you a few things, I am 25 and know of many situations of young people and relationships. I know of a couple who shouldnt be together but in order for the relationship to continue the teenage girl got pregnant while telling her boyfriend she was on birth control. I also work with a girl who always rushes into relationships and moves in with the guy because she hates her home life. I hope that they are not together for all the wrong reasons and that she really does love your son. Best of luck.
Originally Posted By TINK-MOBILE Ha! Ha! I know, I am always getting into trouble these days...Tasha..lol Think you'll ever be doing that hee hee Tasha has hit on some good points .. Seafairy this will find its way...if it is meant to be , it will be . 8 years between them right now , is a bigger difference ...than it would be if they were 25 33 ..hang in there... : )
Originally Posted By 999HAUNTS Being engaged to someone under 18 is treading on dangerous territory if they should get into a major fight. She could have him arrested for the relationship. Let's hope things work out atleast until she's 18 LOL!
Originally Posted By murfsmom I have mixed feelings, sounds like it might be a rebound thing but then maybe not. I was almost 17 when I met my husband, he was 23, everyone and i mean EVERYONE was dead set against us getting married, and when we did they were taking bets how long it would last. Well it's been 45yrs. so you just never know. The best thing to do is take one day at a time, if it's meant to be, it's meant to be. As hard as itis, you have to let them find out on their own. Hang in there,keep us informed.
