Originally Posted By peeaanuut Live long and have less fun becuase your trying to live longer or Live short but load it up with lots of fun?
Originally Posted By Ursula Live life and have fun and take care of yourself and HOPE that you live forever. If I had to choose, I'd live shorter and enjoy it over live longer and be miserable.
Originally Posted By Labuda Short but load u with fun - this is likely due to the age at which my Daddy died, what he died of, and knowing it could happen to me and I'm just 13 years away from being the age he was when he died.
Originally Posted By sherrytodd How much shorter and how much fun? Is it the fun that is going to kill me??? ; ) I'm already living fun, but I'm planning on living forever. I guess I could cut my life short by a few years, but not too much shorter as I want to be a part of my son's life for years to come.
Originally Posted By Ursula Hey, I forget that the years you lose are at the other end...bring on the smoking and drinking BOOYYA!
Originally Posted By TomSawyer This isn't a problem for those who find fun in things that aren't bad for you.
Originally Posted By DVC_dad Wow, I would have said more fun, less longevity, but now that I have kids...I have begun to shift the OTHER way. I really want to see what my kids become as adults...you know, see how good of a job I did...take credit for their successes while blaming them solely for their failures. <-- JK
Originally Posted By RoadTrip <<This isn't a problem for those who find fun in things that aren't bad for you.>> Agreed. I don't see the two as being mutually exclusive. Although when I was peeaanuut's age I probably did, so I can see where the question is coming from.
Originally Posted By davewasbaloo "Wow, I would have said more fun, less longevity, but now that I have kids...I have begun to shift the OTHER way. " I totally agree with you DVC Dad. Before having kids I would travel to dangerous countries, do adrenalin sports, eat and drink what I felt like. Now that I am a Dad - I drive more carefully, don't put myself at as much risk, and I am trying to eat healthier. Everything in moderation and moderation in everything (except maybe Disney).
Originally Posted By peeaanuut at the moment I am doing more fun and less life. Mainly because I dont think I will live past 50. Damage done is damage done. So get it while it can still be gotten.
Originally Posted By davewasbaloo That's how my mom is. She has heart disease and lung problems, registered disabled. She eats what she wants and still smokes 40 a day. And she breaks my heart in doing this that I have given up on her.
Originally Posted By peeaanuut see you guys bring up kids. But thats not gonna happen here I dont think. So I cant relate to that. Sorry! lol. And Im not talking about doing dangerous stuff and what not. But I mean there are people that always are at the gym, always eating ucky food (rice cakes, soy milk, tofu, junk like that) and that just cant be fun always doing that stuff. When you could be out doing things that are more exciting. Maybe its because I see those things as a chore where as other people dont. Perspective I guess is a big thing in this. <<That's how my mom is. She has heart disease and lung problems, registered disabled. She eats what she wants and still smokes 40 a day. And she breaks my heart in doing this that I have given up on her.>> See I think thats a matter of perspective. If she is happy in what she does, what does it matter otherwise? Unless your being selfish?
Originally Posted By wahooskipper I'm not worried about yesterday or tomorrow. If I find joy in today then everything else falls into place. Reminds me of a saying, "Yesterday is history, tomorrow's a mystery but today is a gift and that is why it is called the present."
Originally Posted By davewasbaloo I may be, but I also have an 11 year old, 13 year old and 15 year old brothers to consider. Also, the fact I was told at 10 my mom probably wouldn't see my teen years has made me quite bitter. She has seen me into my 30s, but I have spent a lot of time at her hospital bedside, or taking care of my brothers. And still she abuses herself. Truth is, we are probably both selfish. I am selfish for love, and her, an addiction.
Originally Posted By peeaanuut interesting saying. But living by that, would mean doing what you want and not what you have to do. Which is where I am leaning.
Originally Posted By davewasbaloo And she nags me about my weight (a horrific 246lbs) and high blood pressure. So maybe we're even. But yes - I too have made poor decisions for a more enjoyable life (food, lack of excercise due to time - I work instead to pay for Disney obsession).
Originally Posted By peeaanuut well first, let me set what I said straight because I think I didnt state it wrong. In regards to your mom, I think parents in general have a different kind of responsiblity. They chose to bring someone else into the world so they live by a different set of rules. Vs me, who has no kids. I dont have the same set of responsibilites as a parent would. (I wasnt calling you selfish, just trying to make ya think. =)) As far as "have" to do, that was more of, you have to eat healthy and exercise to have a long life. YOu pretty much have to have a job if you want to do anything beyond basic survival. (not so much in the US with free govt money) but I think you know what I mean. Basically my main question should have been, do what you must to live a long life or dont do those things and have a short life......the fun was basically because anything you have to do to have a long life is NOT fun in my book.
Originally Posted By peeaanuut <<because I think I didnt state it wrong>> wrong should be right.....sorry....
Originally Posted By RoadTrip Ultimately it is your choice. But the decisions you make DO impact other people. If you require more health care than normal the rest of us will be paying for it through higher insurance premiums or increased taxes. If you drive when you should not be, you are putting others at a greater risk of injury or death. Even if you don't have children, if you die "before your time" there will be people hurt because of it. I'm sure you have friends, relatives etc. that would be very saddened to see you die young. So... it is certainly your right to do what you want. But don't think it impacts no one else because it does. By the way... most damage you do to your body IS at least partially reversible if you start living a healthier lifestyle. If I were you I wouldn't give up just yet. The most fun years of my life have occurred after I was 45. Each year I have continues to be better than the last. I don't know how long that will last, but I'm sure as heck not going to do anything to shorten it!!
