Originally Posted By Disneyland55 I see it all the time... One person posts something that comes off the wrong way... another person can't help but post a snarky reply... and chaos ensues! The topic is then hijacked by posts attacking one another. When you are not involved, you see these posts and more than likely you roll your eyes. But eventually if you aren't careful, it could be your turn, so watch out! It happens to me every couple of years! And it just happened again... I was reading through a topic, and I felt that most posts that a certain poster were posting seemed really rude. This was just my perception. The posts had nothing to do with me! But when I got to the end of the topic, I decided to make a suggestion to the person to make some changes to their tone. But why?!?! Why couldn't I keep my big mouth shut!? The reason I said anything at all was that I was thinking many others would feel the same way I did. So why did I feel the need to say anything??? If others did in fact feel the way I did, the poster was sure to either eventually "get it" or leave. Instead, I played the game and lost. I have some advice for everyone for when that day comes when you are confronted with the choice to get in a posting battle. I already knew these things, but chose not to follow them... If you ARE going to do something like this, you need to put more effort into it. I did try to be tactful, but it didn't work. Other than being tactful, the other big thing is DO YOUR RESEARCH. If you are going to call someone out, be sure to read every post very carefully, because any slip up in anything you say, and they will come right back at you and you will be the villain. Once you have made sure you aren't saying the wrong thing, and you have made your post, copy and paste your post into a word document and do spell check, because any spelling error can AND WILL be used against you to turn the tables on you. And most importantly of all, not only should you expect their rebuttal, but be prepared for it! Know it is coming, and be prepared to stay calm. Once you start losing your cool and spouting off at the other person, you will LOSE.
Originally Posted By llanatoye How sad that you were made to feel this way. I'll probably stay away except for information because if I feel that I need to put on armor before I post, start a thread or just comment, then LP is not for me.
Originally Posted By disneylandfan8 DL55, when I saw that thread and the word "hate" was in the title, I kinda figured it was asking for trouble. I come to the LP for entertainment, friendship and Disney knowledge. I come to LP for a relaxing time searching for the above mentioned activities. I have read all that thread's entries and I choose not to even enter anything. I'm just not a negative person. Instead, I go to the What do you love about Disneyland thread. Maybe you could visit the Love thread and try to regain your positive Disney energy? Just don't go back to the "dark side". Coming to LP should not be where people end up getting into arguments and posting in anger. It should be fun - your Laughing Place! {{{Disneyland55}}}
Originally Posted By Disneyland55 I'm trying to be light hearted about it. I caused the problem by not keeping my opinion on the posters comments to myself. If I wasn't prepared to take it, I should'nt have dished it out!
Originally Posted By Disneyland55 Post 4 was in response to post 2. And don't you dare go anywhere llanatoye!! Thanks Disneylandfan8! I will do that!!! Very good advice. I am late for work, but will read that topic first thing when I get home. Goodnight y'all!
Originally Posted By jdub D-55, I thought your posts were very kind-hearted & reasonable. The worst transgression you made was in apologizing for them!
Originally Posted By Disneyland55 Awe, thanks for the support guys! Ok, I'm off to read "things I love about Disneyland."
