Originally Posted By goodgirl Category: Morals Question: Have you ever read someone's diary or gone through soneone's private belongings without permission? What was your reason (jealousy, distrust, curiiosity, you were asked by someone else to do it)? Or, has someone else ever done this to you? Why did they do it? How did it make you feel?
Originally Posted By Disneymom443 I've never gone though a diary, but I went though a dresser before. Why? well I wanted to see if I could wear her clothes. I wanted to see if we were the same size.
Originally Posted By wahooskipper I went through a girlfriend's drawers once because I suspected she was cheating. I didn't find confirmation, felt guilty and never did it again. I did find some "frilly" things that she had never worn for me. That was troubling.
Originally Posted By LadyKluck I've never read anyone else's diary before without their permission. I have read parts of my mom's before, but she was sitting there while I read it! She has read mine before without "permission" when I was a teenager. I was pretty ticked off about it but I understand now why she did it. I have gone through my husband's stuff before (dresser, wallet, truck, etc.). I would do it again anytime too. The reason? Pretty much the same reason wahooskipper went through his girlfriend's dresser, though my outcome was a bit different (no not the frilly things).
Originally Posted By LadyKluck Oh, and I have dug through my mom's dresser and closet a million times but that was because I was trying to find where she hid the Christmas presents!!!
Originally Posted By DVC_dad I have never done this. I have never (as far as I know) had this done to me. I do however reserve the right to do this to any of my children at any time if I deem it to be necessary to do so...for the greater good of the child of course. So far, I have not had to invade the privacy of any of my 6 children, however my oldest is only 11.
Originally Posted By sun-n-fun I agree with DVD dad. I do look through my 11 year olds backpack on a regular basis, but he knows and is often in the same room.
Originally Posted By bloona my kids always ask me to read my diary to them, ofcourse I know theyre gonna do this, so write it accordingly....lolololol. I dont think that anyone has ever done it to me and I have never done it to anyone......I dont think. I did read through mr bloonas inbox and outbox on his mobile at Orlando airport to pass time..lol..he was at the food court thingy, I never thought I was doing it secretly or anything. He looked surprised though when I told him I had lol.
Originally Posted By LuLu I ditto DVC_dad, except for the 6 kids! I would feel very uncomfortable doing it, but it could be a necessary intervention.
Originally Posted By amazedncal2 I occasionally looked through my kids stuff when they were growing up. There was always a particular reason for doing it, sort of a mom sense that there was something not right. I don't recall finding anything or that they knew. Plenty of other stuff happened but not in those instances. I also used to snoop through my mom's closet at Christmas time when I was a kid. As a 10 year old I just knew that she bought me "Windsong" perfume but it was for my aunt.
Originally Posted By Lisann22 I have NEVER gone through another persons stuff. I'm a journal writer and I'd be appalled to find out someone read my books without my permission so I'd never do that to another. My mom was always big on teaching us about respecting people's privacy and property so it's just not something I've ever felt compelled to do. I suspect that a person once went through my things but I have no real proof. It's a devastating feeling that your privacy was violated.
Originally Posted By Autopia Deb I've never read anyone's jounal or diary. But as I kid I've looked through my mom's jewelry box to look at the "pretties". Actually I went through one in my parents closet recently, but I was looking for old family costume jewelry for Halloween costumes.
Originally Posted By Ursula Yes, just recently and I feel so guilty for doing it. I took over someone's office. They didn't clean it out even after I politely and not so politely asked them to do it. I found a lot of personal items that I did not look through but did put aside for her. I also found that the girl before her here was also messy and left a lot of personal stuff about in various file cabinets mixed in with other files, even though this was never her office. This other person is no longer with our company. She was known for being awesome at her job at the same time our company did not pay her for what she is worth. She was courted by many studios, but she stayed with us for 15 years. I found an opened paycheck receipt (we have direct deposit) from 2000 and I just had to look. I know it was wrong. I know that I did avoid temptation for the first four other stubs I found. I just HAD to see how underpaid she was and at the time, I figured that it was from six years ago so it didn't count. After I looked, I felt very ashamed. She seriously was not paid what she was worth and I hate that I know that now. Would you have looked?
Originally Posted By sherrytodd I read my sister's diary when I was 12 years old. She said some mean things about me and I was really mad, but of course couldn't say anything because then I'd have to admit that I read her diary. The other day I was in the controller's office working with her on an account and the payroll report was sitting on the desk. I couldn't avoid it, I took a quick peek down at it without being too obvious.
Originally Posted By goodgirl We have a policy that you cannot store personal information on your company computer. When an employee leaves I have to audit their PC. Important company documents are dealt with appropriately. I have been amazed, however, at the amount of personal stuff people put on their work computers, despite the policy not to do so. Medical and health information, a personal diary, financial information, sexual escapades, you name it. With the exception of two people, all of these people left to move or work somewhere else. They had given two weeks notice and yet in that time did not delete or remove this information from their computers.
Originally Posted By RAM1984 I read my daughter's diary when she was in high school. My father was very strict about respecting our privacy growing up and I hated doing it. BUT, I never did and said things that could have put my parent's in jail (unjustly) and she did. We also got into the habit of searching our son's room because we had found drugs more than once. Felt fully justified there. I was an adult when I found out that my older sister read my diary (when she was an adult) and told my parents that they should too. They still didn't. She was dead before I found this out so I could not confront her but I felt really violated. She had no justification.
Originally Posted By tink_26 This is why I had two diaries as a teenager! The one mom could read and the real one. I don't know if she ever read it, but just in case. I haven't read anyone's diary and don't know if I would. I feel wierd helping myself to a glass of water in someone's house (once they offer)
