Originally Posted By danyoung I wasn't going to get into any of this here, but after a quick post in another thread and the ourpouring of support from my online friends, I thought I'd go ahead and start a thread on the subject. I just got back from 10 days in Idaho, where I had the sad duty of saying goodbye to my 77 year old mother. She had been in shaky health for a few years now, and it finally all caught up to her. I don't know what the official cause of death was, but among other things in there were leukemia, congestive heart failure, and double pneumonia. My 3 brothers and I all came together and got to spend about 3 days in the hospital with her, although the quality of that experience diminished as she got sicker. It was finally decided on Friday, 11/7, to move from a curing mode to a hospice mode. She was able to go back to her own room in the assisted living center that's been her home for 4 years now. Hospice started the morphine, and it wasn't long before she took a breath and just didn't take the next one. We were always a pretty close family, and I'm left with many wonderful memories of Mom (and of Dad, who left us in 1999). I think that since Mom had been getting worse for a few years now, I'm not really feeling any overwhelming grief. I think I've had plenty of time to get used to the idea, but it still ain't fun. My 3 brothers and I sang at graveside, and I must say we kicked some funeral butt! Anyway, I just thought I'd let you all know what's been going on. Thanks for listening, my friends.
Originally Posted By llanatoye danyoung, my deepest sympathies are extended to you and your family. It's never easy, even when expected. I lost my Mom about 5 years ago and still miss her terribly. That you all came together and "kicked some funeral butt" is a good thing. Your loving memories of your Mom and Dad will sustain you through those expected and unexpected moments of missing them. Stay close with your family and you'll have times together, discussing your memories, that will bring you even closer.
Originally Posted By Mr X Very sorry to hear that, Dan. It's never easy, never enough time. I hope you can take some time for yourself, and remember to be good to yourself going through this. Sincere condolences and good thoughts on the loss of your Mom, Dan. Take care.
Originally Posted By SoThisIsLove danyoung, my heart is going out to you today. Along with llana, I am delighted that you and your brothers kicked funeral butt, and I know your parents were even more so. It's really amazing, when you think about it. Everyone thinking of you today truly means it in their hearts, whatever it is they write to you...and the sheer power and majesty of so many people loving and thinking of you is simply overwhelming, when you consider it. I hope you can feel it. I hope we get to meet some day so I can give you the hug I want to now. I will keep you in my heart today. ♥
Originally Posted By MomluvsDisney danyoung, I am sorry to hear of your loss. It sounds like you and your brothers are creating a support structure with each other to be there for the good memories and the sad feelings.
Originally Posted By amazedncal2 I am so sorry for your loss. We have been under similar circumstances with both my mother in law and my father. We knew it was coming, spent time, said our goodbyes, it was best for them to go and then when the time came it's still a shock. Please accept my warm hugs for those moments when you remember "whoa, she is really gone." Singing for her must have felt spectacular. What a wonderful thing to do.
Originally Posted By officerminnie I am so sorry for your sadness, Dan. Bravo to you and the brothers for kicking funeral butt! Music always seems to make sevices so much more bearable, it kind of warms the heart.
Originally Posted By wonderingalice My heartfelt sympathies to you and your family, Dan. *Hugs* And kudos to you guys on your fab singing... To echo officerminnie, music is a wonderful healer in our saddest of moments.
Originally Posted By u k fan Please accept my condolences. I had a similar situation with my Grandfather last month who finally succumbed to one of many illnesses and passed away. Like you were were given a few days notice and it did make it easier so it was sudden and expected all at the same time. I'm glad you kicked funeral butt as well. My Grandad went out the sounds of "She'll Be Coming Round The Mountain"!!!
Originally Posted By ecdc I'm sorry, Dan. I hope you find comfort in remembering her life through this tough time.
Originally Posted By vbdad55 Danny, I knew from the WDW thread but again,thoughts and prayers for you and your family...one is never ready soto speak. My Mom (73)has not been well lately and Sis and I are ' preparing '...( lost my dad in 1980 so it's been a long time between for me ) -- Glad you got closure... hang in there..you and brothers are now the leaders of the family - I feel like it is in good hands
Originally Posted By Labuda I'm sorry to hear that you lost your mother, Dan. Just be prepared that it may hit you later even though you think you've had time to acclimate. And know that we're here for you. (((Dan)))
Originally Posted By Ursula I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Feel free to speak here in community as needed, we listen well here. Take care and enjoy the memory of your mother.
Originally Posted By nevadarebel So sorry for your loss. I lost my father and father in law 2 years ago. My deepest condolences to you.
