Originally Posted By iamsally I just need a little of whatever you can spare. Prayers, pixie dust, good thoughts, WHATEVER. Just some problems with my son but these adult children are wearing my nerves thin. That is really all I can say here.
Originally Posted By gottaluvdavillains Ohh So sorry life is not treating you as kindly and you deserve... Prayers for your family to have peace and kindness for all are on there way.
Originally Posted By lilgoofymom Here is a big (((HUG)))). I also am saying a prayer for you. May whatever it is get better for you very soon.
Originally Posted By beamerdog Hang in there, girl!!!!! I have a good friend with 2 adult children living with her (for different reasons), so I can sympathize. Many hugs and positive thoughts are being sent to you and yours. {{{{{iamsally}}}}}
Originally Posted By Tinkerbell819 more {{{{hugs}}}}} for the iamsallys Prayers and happy thoughts coming your way! I hope you have a Happy Thanksgiving!
Originally Posted By amazedncal2 Lots of hugs coming your way and positive, calming thoughts for you too. Deep Breath, all the way to your toes. A long walk, a bubble bath or long hot shower. A glass of wine or a box of chocolates. A good scream or a shoulder to cry on. A touch of Pixie Dust or a Blasting Rock and Roll CD. I don't know exactly what you are going through but tough love is hard. Take care of yourself first.
Originally Posted By chickendumpling You got it, iamsally! Good thoughts coming your way. Hang in there - this too shall pass. Don't forget to take care of yourself through this stressor, whatever it is.
Originally Posted By disneylandfan8 I am so sorry to hear this. I hope you know you have many friends here to give you support. I'm just a phone call away! See you SOON! {{{R&R}}}}} *** pixie dust ***
Originally Posted By iamsally Thank you all so much. It is so nice to be able to just reach out and have a community care. >>>>>tough love is hard<<<<<<<< Oh yeah, and ya know, this is really answer to a prayer. I asked for strength to be able to turn down my son and daughter-in-law if they ask for more help.(inevitable) They have decided to avoid us. (They do not want to hear what we have to say.) But I have gotten so angry at the way they are treating us *after ALL we have done* (said with a mix of sarcasm and a roll of the eyes) that I do not think I will have a problem telling them no way. The biggest pain is they are keeping me from my granddaughter. She is a big part of my life.
Originally Posted By gottaluvdavillains <<The biggest pain is they are keeping me from my granddaughter. She is a big part of my life>> Is it possible to book time with just your GD? She shouldn't be punished - she and your relationship should be separate from that of her parents.
Originally Posted By disneylandfan8 That's the toughest part of all, using their children this way. They are not thinking what is good for the children, only themselves and how to "get back" at you. Be strong and I hope they will realize they are hurting all of you. ... I'll climb off my soap box now...
Originally Posted By gottaluvdavillains You know iamsally... dlf8 and I could go slap them around a bit for you! You are definately worth the trouble we might get into! ;^)
Originally Posted By davewasbaloo Hey Ruthie, We are here if you want to talk. I am channeling all the positive thoughts I can muster for you guys dear friend. Families are hard work, but I am thankful for the tough love my parents gave me (even if at the time I was very angry at them). All our best wishes. Love and Hugs, Dave
Originally Posted By beamerdog In DE grandparents have a legal right to visit with their grandchildren. I hope it never comes to this, but if you have rights in your state, investigate using them. Many hugs ♥
Originally Posted By iamsally ^^Yeah, my cousin actually had to do that. I do not think it will get that bad but I will keep my options open. I should know more after Thanksgiving. Thanks gottaluv and dfan8 for making me laugh. You are great. Actually, a good slapping around it probably just what they need.
Originally Posted By Sara Tonin Dahlin', they will come around...it may take awhile. But, they will dig themselves out of their present touble and will be able to find their own solutions in future and be proud of the fact. My daughters are 28 and 33 and we've had some rocky times...but they grew out of it and are now in good stable marriages and are great moms.
Originally Posted By melekalikimaka Sending you lots of love, sally. Email me if you need to rant. Love you!
