Originally Posted By amazedncal2 My Dad is 85 years old and he is a very, very sick man. We cut our week roadtrip short by a day, bailed from our hotel in Carmel at 7pm. I had a "vibe" on Sunday that all was not well and my sister finally admitted that Dad was back in the hospital but was being monitored etc. By Tuesday he was on a ventilator, in ICU and was going downhill fast. Time to head home. He has a tube sticking out of every possible place, has pneumonia and who knows what else, they can't seem to decide and keep throwing in new problems that we didn't know existed,he is heavily sedated. This has been going on since Oct. 10th when he first went to the emergency room and he seemed to be better after a couple of days and they sent him home even though he still had pneumonia (we found out later). We are learning to be more assertive (not in our character). My mom is in major denial even though my Dad has had health problems (peripheral neropathy (SP?) for the past 5 years. So, anyway, I am rambling here, I am spacey from being at the hospital for hours on end. Thank God for my husband, kids and siblings, we are all taking turns being the sane one for my mother who thinks he'll be coming home just fine in a few days. Please keep my dad in your thoughts and prayers if you are inclined. We aren't quite ready for him to go.
Originally Posted By LilliBelle Your father will be in my prayers. Prayers will be offered up for you and your family as well. {{{HUGS}}}
Originally Posted By chickendumpling I am so sorry to hear this. I will definitely be thinking of your folks and family.
Originally Posted By Pixie Glitter Prayers headed your way. Try to take care of yourself as much as you can. (((amazedncal2)))
Originally Posted By trailsend Bless your heart, amazedncal2. Such a difficult time. I am so sorry for your pain and sadness. When my dad was so very sick with ALS, my mom was just like yours. It was so very hard not only to deal with my Dad's situation, but it was as hard to deal with my Mom's denial. I pray for strength for you, wisdom to deal with your mom, and peace to you dad and your family.
Originally Posted By nevadarebel As someone who is extremely close with her father and is dealing with declining health issues with him, I completely understand and my heart and prayers go out to you and your family!!!
Originally Posted By LuLu I'm so sorry to hear this, amazed. I went thru similar recently myself. I'll add my prayers to the others... peace, strength and comfort for you and your whole family!
Originally Posted By pennyring amazedncal2, we're sending the very best thoughts to you and your family. ::hugs::
Originally Posted By goodgirl Amazed, I'm sorry for what you, your family and your father are going through. I've been there. It's hard. Please take care of yourself. And its okay to vent and ramble here. We love you and care about you.
Originally Posted By beamerdog I'm so sorry to hear of your father's illness, amazed. As goodgirl said, many of us have gone thru this. Love and many positive thoughts will be sent your way.
Originally Posted By Lisann22 Another one who's been through this. Praying for all of you Amazed. Vent here as needed. Take care.
Originally Posted By melekalikimaka Oh, I'm so sorry to hear this, amazed. Your father and family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Originally Posted By wendebird I'm so sorry. I will keep you, your family & your father in my prayers.
Originally Posted By disney pete (((amazedncal2))) thinking of you and your family here in the uk, my dad also done the lets pretend its not happening thing when my mum was seriously ill its a hard thing keeping it together and being strong but you have loads of the people you love around you and that will make it a little easier and ya LP buddies are here for you too.
Originally Posted By tapdancemom I'm sure it's hard to see your dad like that. I'll pray for your dad and your family. Be strong for each other.
Originally Posted By Ursula ((((Amazed & Mr. Amazed)))) I was saddened to pop on to LP tonight to find this. You both were in such great spirits on Saturday, too. You both are in my thoughts and prayers as well as the rest of your family. Your mother is lucky to have you to help her during this time.
Originally Posted By wonderingalice My thoughts and prayers are with you too... *HUGS* Mr. Alice and I are going through very much the same situation now with his 85 year old father. He's been in the hospital this time since Saturday and we don't think he'll be coming home again. It's his long battle with Parkinson's, as well as a bladder tumor, and now congestive heart failure and his kidneys are beginning to fail. He's a fighter, though. We're spending each evening with him and Mom... doing our best to both cheer and comfort them and reassure him that we'll take good care of her after he's gone (they've been married 56 years). You and your family take good care...
Originally Posted By Tiggirl I'll be thinking about you guys! I'm sending lots of good thoughts your way. ~Beth
Originally Posted By amazedncal2 Thank you all so much. My dad would just hate to know that we are all there seeing him all hooked up and helpless. When the meds start to wear off is the worst time. He thrashes like a fish out of water trying to get the tubes out. We know he needs the tubes to fight the pneumonia, gall bladder infection etc. but I know that each time he wakes up he thinks they are the end of life tubes. We tell him over and over what is going on but its the same every time. I'm going to pick up the Queen of Denial (as my brother calls her) and take the first "shift" with her at the hospital (she doesn't drive anymore). We've all decided that we need to get on with our daily lives and take turns with mom and then pop in to see dad throughout the day as we feel the call to. I appreciate your each one of your posts with thoughts and prayers more than you know. You guys are great. Thanks for listening.
