Originally Posted By MaidMarian21 Hey, I know that this doesn't have anything to do with Disney, but I have been really down lately. I have really bad self-esteem issues and I am worried, nervous, sad, and scared all the time!! I never feel good enough or pretty enough....I need someone to talk to that won't judge my actions or thoughts. Someone please help me! I can't take the way I feel anymore...I never want to get out of bed anymore and the things I use to love to do are pointless now. I am overwhelmed by the emotional and insecure rollercoaster ride that I am on.
Originally Posted By DyGDisney MaidMarian - maybe you should see a doctor and consider anti-depressants. A chemical imbalance can cause depression, and the way you are describing you feel sounds like you are depressed. I've been on anti-depressents, so has my mom, and they can really work. You need to take action to make things better for yourself. Talk to a doctor.
Originally Posted By mele I second DyG's advice. Reaching out to others is good, too. LPers have given me so much advice and friendship over the years. There's always an LP shoulder to cry on. I hope you're feeling up to seeing a doctor or at least a therapist soon and also hope you're feeling better soon.
Originally Posted By The IRONMAN Marian don't you have any friends in real life?People around here are great but you might need someone closer to you that can really help you. What about your parents? You have sisters or brothers? Friends? Coworkers? Anyeone?
Originally Posted By alphabetmom Dear MaidMarian - DyGDisney has given you good advice. My prayers are with you. Do you have a good friend that will force you out of bed and make you get out into the fresh air, maybe for a quick walk or something. My heart goes out to you and I hope you feel better soon.
Originally Posted By smedley IronMan, seems to me that family/friends are not always the best people to speak to in situations such as this, and that a friendly but somewhat anonymous ear is actually a good thing. MM I echo what others have said, perhaps a visit to the doctor, if only to talk things through, would be a good thing! Maybe you could take a look at some local groups? Find something you used to enjoy doing and maybe get to do it in an environment with other people?
Originally Posted By kari12177 I have the same symptoms, I am depressed, the doc put me on meds, and they did help, but made me gain 40pds. So I went off of them. But me and my husband are Jinx's. Anything and everything bad happens, it happens to us! So I get in my Disney mood and listen to the music and it makes me feel better.
Originally Posted By x Pirate_Princess x <--- is missing her kids so bad, she's listening to Hannah Montana music
Originally Posted By MaidMarian21 I do go to a psychiatrist and he put me on meds, but they are only .5 mg. I just need someone to talk too who I feel won't judge me or try to FIX things, just listen. No, I don't have any friends out here and all my family is back in California. All I have is my fiance and his family...I don't think he would understand what I am going through, though. I wish I could talk to him...I love him and I want him to know what is going on in my mind.
Originally Posted By Lady Starlight MM, my heart goes out to you in your time of need. A friendly ear is only an email or phone call away. {{{{{MM}}}}Hang in there Sweetie!
Originally Posted By ShivaThDestroyer MaidMarian21, as someone who has met you, I don't think you have anything to worry about regarding your appearance or your personality. Unfortunately, we are always hardest on ourselves. Twice in my life I've had symptoms very similar to yours, At that time I didn't know I was going through a form of stress related depression. I was lucky enough to resolve the issues that were causing my problems. In hindsight, I realize now that I should have sought out a counselor or doctor. Several others here have offered the same advice. It's worth considering. The other side of the coin would be if you could define what the root cause of your depression is maybe you could take steps to overcome or eliminate it. You're young and relocating can be stressful, especially if it takes you away from those you love. It's not always easy to make new friends in a new place either. That was always a hard one for Tinkeroon, when we were younger, as she tends to be fairly shy around someone until she knows them well. I don't have any answers but I do know that you can't continue the way you are now. There are many people here that care about you. We can only offer support. I think seeing a doctor would be a good first step. {{{{MaidMarian21}}}}
Originally Posted By Mary Poppins Marian, You sound depressed. To get friends in a new place is not easy, but I hope you try. Is there a newcomer's club run at the local rec. centre. I know you lack energy now because of the way you feel, but could you muster some energy and take a course, anything to meet new people. A walking club would be very good. Analyze the recreation centres near you and see if you can cope with any activities. Exercise will make you feel better. You're in a new place and that tough. I would also recommend trying out churches. There are also groups that meet to deal with anxiety. Your psychiatrist should know some support groups. It's also tough not enjoying the things you used to enjoy. But, if you continue treatment, your joy will come back. ((((HUGS))))
Originally Posted By RockyMtnMinnie Hey MM21. You're not too far from me here in Colorado. How about a meet? You can email me at sherry.l.mcclure at att dot net. I've been through depression and it was very difficult for me to talk to the people closest to me. LP was a saving grace. I should probably make a big contribution for all the therapy I've gotten from here. I have friends on LP that know more about me then my own family. The one thing I do know is there are people here who care. And that is important.
Originally Posted By kari12177 You life sounds similar to mine. I moved 3hrs away, we live in a town with ALL my in laws, i have no friends here, i cant find a job. I call this place hell! So I can relate. Lets just say theres more to it to get me depressed, thats only half. I came a computer internet junkie just to keep my mind on other things. Plus going to DL once a year gives me something to look forward to.
Originally Posted By LadyKluck OK, I'm slow - RockyMtnMinnie is sherrytodd.... Anyways, MaidMarian - I guess maybe I'm the weird anti-medication one here - but that's only because I personally have been treated like an antidepressant lab rat by doctors in the past. Having 2 kids one right after the other didn't help my case at all because I never really got a chance to recover from the post partum depression I experienced with my daughter when I found out I was pregnant with my son. It will do a number on a person. I have most of the same feelings you do. I have horrible self esteem. I ask myself every single day why my husband is with me - he's such a good looking guy he could get a much prettier wife than me, etc. I hate looking at myself in the mirror and would rather eat earthworms than go clothes shopping for myself. I do have one very very close friend here but I hardly see her because I work nights and she works days. (OK so maybe a little TMI about me, but hey...) If you do plan on doing a meet, I'm in Idaho so I'm not super far away either, maybe we could meet in Yellowstone! LOL! I have said many times that LP has saved my life. There are people on here that have become a part of my family and I wouldn't think twice about picking up the phone or dropping an email to one of them if I felt like I really needed them. Please know that we are here for you, and if you need a shoulder of a stranger to cry on or just vent on, my email is in my profile! Its true - a total stranger is so much better to vent to because they have no bias - but beware, sometimes those total strangers turn into the best of friends!! Hang in there hun & don't hesitate to get ahold of me if you want!
Originally Posted By MaidMarian21 Thank you all so much. I do feel very lonely here. Even though I have my fiance and I love him so much, I still miss my friends and my family. I am seeing a doctor and he does have me on medication, but I think that because it is such a low doseage, that it doesn't help as much as it could. All my paranoia and depression is because I do have some major self-esteem issues. I don't feel that I meet the standards of the people around me. I judge myself on a daily basis and I feel unattractive and that makes me wonder why the man I love is with me. I am honestly happy with him, but my self-esteem and self-hate makes me extremely unhappy. I just want to fight this and be me again.
Originally Posted By Lady Starlight <<All my paranoia and depression is because I do have some major self-esteem issues. I don't feel that I meet the standards of the people around me. I judge myself on a daily basis and I feel unattractive and that makes me wonder why the man I love is with me.>> Sweetypie, NEVER try to fit other peoples standards, you'll never be happy with the fit. Please remember that Normal is just a setting on your washer and dryer. Take it from someone who works hard on her self esteem issues as well.. It's NOT what you look like that matters or makes someone love you. It's whats inside that matters. Looks fade but the heart doesn't. I sincerley play the "glad game" every day of my life(yes litterally!) and it has helped me though the years beyond belief. Find something in your life to be glad about every day and that list will continue to grow. Life isn't about how to survive the storm, but how to dance in the rain. The people that love you truely love you for YOU. When you wake up each day, try to smile at yourself in the mirror, truley smile at yourself. It's amazing how good it feels to start your day with a smile , even if its your own.It feels weird and rediculous at first, but then you'll get the hang of it. I do that and find It makes me laugh because it's such a goofy thing to do.But it works. Hang in there kiddo!
Originally Posted By RockyMtnMinnie >>>If you do plan on doing a meet, I'm in Idaho so I'm not super far away either, maybe we could meet in Yellowstone! LOL!<<< Cool!!! I want to do a Yellowstone meet!
Originally Posted By mele I moved away from my family and friends in 1994. It took me forever to make new friends (which is apparently common here in the Seattle area). I know it sounds impossible but it's worth the effort to find some sort of group to spend time with. Are there any art classes or book clubs, etc that you could join? It takes a bit of strength and daring to get yourself out there but it's worth it to make new friends. You deserve friends and to be happy! In my case, it took making friends on LP to make friends locally. Are there any LPers in your area? Have you considered joining any local online chat groups? Do you have a dog? I know there are dog meets in different cities. There's got to be something that you're into. How about a wedding chat room? Lots of options once you view your interests/hobbies. The internet makes a lot possible. Good luck. I know just how you feel. It's tough but things do get better! Have you asked your dr. to up your meds?
