Originally Posted By llanatoye I think that I have to echo xppx, Wow just wow. I've been reading this thread since it was started by Schmitty and promised myself that I wouldn't get drawn into the controversy but all of a sudden I felt uncomfortable because I'm one of those goody two shoes I guess that tries to post only nice things. Kind of like Lady Starlight said, if you can't say something nice then don't say anything at all and that's pretty much what I've done. But I don't like feeling that I've done something wrong because I've done that. If I have wished someone a happy birthday, or given my condolences to someone here that has had a tragic loss, it's because I wanted to say something to make them feel better or even just to make them smile. I've tried to stay away from controversy, well, except for back in the day of Jonvn, he was one that almost always got my dander up, but for the most part I don't want to hurt anyone ever with my words. I mean that, EVER. I know how it feels and have been hurt, like almost everyone else, but someone's lack of kindness or thoughtlessness. Most time those things weren't intentional I hope but I think that sometimes they were. And that's making me sad. I don't want to waste time getting my knickers all in a tangle just because someone else said something that was inappropriate. I don't always get acknowledged when I post and that's ok. I don't necessarily post just so that I can get a reaction, I just have a little something to say. And I don't want to pick this thread apart and take each one of you on, which I could do I suppose but it's not really in my nature. Anyway, that's my rant, that this all is making me sad but knowing me I'll still read and post when I think it's appropriate. I will just try very hard to never be a mean girl and if that's what's ends up on my headstone then so be it, "llanatoye, she was nice". I really don't think that's a bad thing. And if you think other things about me then that's ok too, like someone else said "life's too short".
Originally Posted By THE LIL STINKER You are a Wonderful person IIanatoye , take care , have a nice evening : )
Originally Posted By Autopia Deb llanatoye, I never said you couldn't be nice to people! I said I am not as accepted as some because I'm not gushing, ever. I say happy birthday and offer condolences. I'm not advocating being a jerk here. I prefer honestly and when honesty is hurtful I usually keep my mouth shut and my fingers off the keyboard (sometimes I fail at that, I'm human too). I dislike being disingenuous for myself, which I imagine comes across as unfriendly because I won't say a person or thing is wonderful unless I think it is true. If you and TINK MOBILE truly believe all the nice things you say to people, have at. Even if you don't believe what you say, have at. That's not how I communicate. My former mother-in-law used to be all gushy and sweet to everyone around her saying things she clearly didn't mean because she wanted everyone to like her, she would then turn around and do awful things to her own son. I loathe that kind of hypocrisy.
Originally Posted By llanatoye Deb, I wasn't calling you out on anything, I was commenting on how the overall thread was making me feel, that's all. It wasn't intended to single out any one person. I'm sorry if you felt that I was. I have been on the receiving end of some very mean and viscous attacks during my life, no need for details, just that I know how it feels and I don't want anyone else to ever feel that way. But comparing me to and judging me by your mother-in-laws tactics is really not fair. Unless you've spent time with me and seen me use that kind of manipulation on any one then please don't group me in with the sour apple in your family. If that, in fact, was what you were doing. I hope it wasn't.
Originally Posted By Autopia Deb I was NOT comparing you to my M-I-L! I don't even know you, I would no more insult you than offer false praise. I was just illustrating why I personally have no patience with gushing niceness and why it all seems fake to me.
Originally Posted By llanatoye I don't 'gush' niceness, it just happens but I can see how your experience with your MIL would leave a bad taste in your mouth. Won't even go into what my former MIL did to me, although it would make a good Lifetime movie.
Originally Posted By TheParsec Tink-Mobile - Don't change your name just because someone teased you or other people don't like it. If you like it, oh well to everyone else! Also, don't change how you post on these boards just because someone else doesn't like it, it's how you are! I started on message boards when I was 16 years old, no one is going to change me how to Post on boards, I post how I post. I know for me its sometimes easier to write things down than to say it in person, and sometimes its the other way around. But a lot of people don't know me and know how I am, and I really don't know everyone on here, so I don't take everything so serious (if thats the right wording) and try to stay out of other people's fights or nastiness. Oh well, Just had to get that out...
Originally Posted By 999HAUNTS I may be wrong, but I think maybe the point AD was trying to make is that a small handful of posters really "go over the top" with their hugs and kisses and praises so much so that it appears not genuine. Its almost as if they are afraid to be themselves for fear of being unliked. That's my take on it FWIW.
Originally Posted By x Pirate_Princess x I know I've upset some people over the years, but I go with the "IF I can't say anything nice, I won't say anything at all" theory. And honestly, I don't know what I *did* to upset people. Many many times I've started to write something sarcastic and possibly snarky, but I've just clicked onto the next topic and left it at that. I'm sure I haven't been successful all the time and have said some things I wish I could take back, but that's the nature of message boards. Once you hit post, there's a good chance it'll stick around for a long time, and if it doesn't, it may be too late for it to not offend someone. I love reading TINK-MOBILE's posts, whether they rain flowers and rainbows or not. Some people are just able to see the silver lining in any situation, and he has a knack of cheering ME up when things aren't going right. I've said it before, I'll say it again, and I'll keep saying it. We just need to get along. If we don't, I see this site becoming like other sites where it's strictly talk about Disney and nothing else.
Originally Posted By disneylandfan8 AD, I hope you know that people who post rainbows & such are all like your MIL. Some actually mean what they say & are genuine. You just have to get to know them. It makes me sad to think that one person was hurt by your words. There are also people who post on this site that are the opposite and maybe they don't realize just how badly their words are to other people. Maybe this is what you meant about your "mirror" statement. Personally, I think this thread should be shut down as it seems to be affecting so many people in different ways.
Originally Posted By Autopia Deb >>>I may be wrong, but I think maybe the point AD was trying to make is that a small handful of posters really "go over the top" with their hugs and kisses and praises so much so that it appears not genuine. Its almost as if they are afraid to be themselves for fear of being unliked. That's my take on it FWIW.<<< Yes precisely! Thank you!
Originally Posted By Pixie Glitter Hello, kettle? You're black. Who was jumping all over u k fan earlier? Good grief.
Originally Posted By x Pirate_Princess x I never "jumped all over" UKFan. I never even responded to him, even if my post came after his. The "Wow, just Wow" was because I was speechless over TM's post. I was upset because he felt the need to leave LP. And I posted it before I even went to the next page.
Originally Posted By Autopia Deb "It makes me sad to think that one person was hurt by your words." But it's OK for you and the people you are close to to be hurtful. Hmmm, well u_k_fan was right. My whole purpose with my posting here the last two days has been the hope that this community can pull it together, get everything out in the open and heal. But clearly, with the exception of a few others I am alone in this hope.
Originally Posted By x Pirate_Princess x This thread is getting us nowhere. It's obvious to me that people aren't going to get over the issues they have with other people.
Originally Posted By x Pirate_Princess x And for the record, I have no issues with anyone. Apparently, people have issues with me, which is proved by the fact that people have un-friended me on Facebook.
