Originally Posted By Lady Starlight I'm sorry, one more thing I'd like to say id I may. I think forgiveness is the key to a light heart.I vent to my friends and nag and gripe pretty viciously sometimes, but I can pretty much forgive anyone for anything. I can't hold on to negativity. I don't know if Ive ever posted this befor(and I'm NOT looking for sympathy so please lets not go there I"m just explining a little about why I am the way I am) , but I almost died literally at the hands of my Ex twice. That changed my life forever in how I do things and treat people. I think what I'm tryng to convey and very good I might add so I'm sorry for that, is that maybe we should all try to start with a clean slate and show forgiveness and understanding to one another when we start to get upset with one another. Oh heck,Idunno, I think I'm at a loss right now.
Originally Posted By LPFan22 It's one thing to be annoyed by different personalities on discussion boards... you learn to coincide. But there's certainly no need to attack someone based on their weaknesses. I think that's the main problem with any discussion board.
Originally Posted By Lady Starlight OOPS ...*and very good I might add* = NOT VERY GOOD I might add. I missed a word. figures once again LOL
Originally Posted By Lady Starlight I agree LPF22, but sometimes those people use thier weakness as a scapgoat and are just nasty and want to use it as crutch. LP'ers aren't stupid and can see through people like that rather quickly. When they do, we tend to speak up, some more than others. Thats when things get ugly. Sad but true. Silence is golden....... Duct tape is Silver. ;-D
Originally Posted By LPFan22 Silence is golden but isn't always practiced. That's why I think it's best to ignore people like that... rather than resort to meanness themselves. Generally speaking here. Not pointing any fingers specifically.
Originally Posted By 999HAUNTS Silence may be how some folks cope with the uneasy, but not everyone is built that way. I'd much rather have my say instead of regretting it later. That way it doesn't stew into something untolerable in my concience. The difference is that we don't have to be mean when we speak out. Discussion and cruelty are two different animals. I just wonder how many posters hit the "preview message" button before they actually post. Maybe if this was practiced more less feelings would be hurt. Try reading what you are posting as if you were the one reading it, not writing it.
Originally Posted By Lady Starlight <<Silence may be how some folks cope with the uneasy, but not everyone is built that way. I'd much rather have my say instead of regretting it later. That way it doesn't stew into something untolerable in my concience.>> Yes, however, you know how to use tact. but somtimes others don't use it or just don't know how to use it. It's tircky.
Originally Posted By 999HAUNTS True. That's why I suggest we ALL read our own posts before making it public.
Originally Posted By oredisneyfan this has been interesting to read. I dont post much and usually it is more for information than anything else. but there have been times when I have felt on the outside. I just figure I have not earned a spot on the inside yet and I dont take it personally. I love to read on this board and have noticed the abscense of some posters. Last July there were many trip reports and also some daily updates on things, maybe I am confusing this with the Dec meets but anyhoo, as somone who cant get to DL as often as I would like LP is a place I can visit everyday I am hoping to get to a meet someday and hope that there will still be meets to go to. Facebook is another story for me I love FB but it is more for family and old friends. They tend to think I go to DL to much,(once a year is not to much) so I generally only post about disneyland on LP
Originally Posted By Lady Starlight <<I just figure I have not earned a spot on the inside yet and I dont take it personally>> IOHO,there is not "inside", we are all equal on LP from the get go.
Originally Posted By 999HAUNTS <IOHO,there is not "inside", we are all equal on LP from the get go.> Unfortunately there are groups that would disagree with this statement. (I won't call them cliques for fear of retaliation)
Originally Posted By Autopia Deb Yep, some people are more "equal" than others. I know many of my posts are greeted with the sounds of crickets. Probably because I don't go spewing rainbows and flowers all the time. Which in case anyone cares, means when I say something nice or complementary it's genuine. Can you trust someone really thinks the world of you when they say the same to everyone, all the time? So, Sister Outcast, let's face the retaliation together .
Originally Posted By ilvdland I miss LP and they way things used to be. If not for LP, I wouldn't have at least 4 of the bestie friends in the WORLD. I love them like my family, and there is no way I would have ever met them without LP. I don't go on LP anymore at all, I'm only here now because I was told about this thread. I want to go on and on, but I really want to choose my words carefully due to the fact alot of you don't know me. For now, I just want to express my regret at the way things have become and I often wonder if it'll ever be the same.
Originally Posted By Lady Starlight Agrees completely with ADs post 172. I lack tact though, so I can't post what I think sometimes. Silence is best for me, unless I'm ranting off the board to someone about it. LOL
Originally Posted By murfsmom I'm glad this this thread was started, maybe it will clear the air a little. No one is perfect,everyone has their own opinions on things,and not everyone has to agree but because you don't agree don't bad mouth the person . What makes you think your opinion is so great ? I know I'm no saint, although St Murfsmom has a nice ring to it ....naaaaa lol Hearing about BlueDevilSF's sudden passing, just leads me to repeat what I said in my earlier post "life is to short" Life is precious, friends are precious and I'm so thankful for all the friends I've made here and I'm hoping to make more as time goes on. I'm really hoping that this all gets put behind us and we can start being the happy group we once were, if you want conflict go to world events !!! People have pretty much all said the same thing on this thread, so please let's not dwell on the past and let's start having FUN again ,and start sharing our love for Disney !!
Originally Posted By Tiggirl Firstly, I would like to say that it seems like everyone is getting nasty emails except for me. So that either means I am the one sending them or everyone just ignores me. And I did not send them so that means.... OH NO!! I've been on LP for (gulp) 10 years and I think that the success of LP can sometimes feel a little overwhelming. When I started LP was a fairly small place. We were a tight knit group with LOTS of inside jokes, lots of meets, lots of threads that caught on like wildfire and you had so much fun just trying to stay caught up with the thread. But as LP got bigger, we accepted more and more people into our little world and it wasn't so little any more. And that's a good thing. We're a friendly bunch and we like welcoming in new people who share our interests. And they welcomed new people and those new people welcomed their own set of new people. It can be overwhelming... but not bad. I know I personally don't post as much as I used to because with newer people a lot of the same questions get asked. And I've already answered them in the past so I let those "less new" than myself answer the questions of the "even more new". Its kind of like the "Circle of Life". I don't know... Maybe we all did that and that's why there is a lot less posting going on than there used to be. *shrug* I'll try to not be lazy and rely on other posters to post in the future. ~Beth
Originally Posted By Tiggirl This should read: so I let those "more new" than myself answer the questions of the "even more new" That probably didn't make it any more clear but that's what I meant. LOL! ~Beth
Originally Posted By u k fan First off, I'm need to apologise to Autopia Deb. I haven't now or have ever had any reason not to get along with you. I made my previous post as I was leaving home and perhaps didn't word it correctly because of that. It also, I hope, explains I hope why I didn't reply sooner. My point really was that it's easy to misread something because it's not written as we would read it ourselves. It seems I made the point too well. I had found nothing wrong with iamsally's earlier comment (though obviously others did). Ironically, I didn't say anything earlier about this for fear of wading into a possible argument that wsn't mine to have (lol)! However, in your post discussing this situation I then saw a comment which I did find condescending. I realise you include yourself in the statement in question, but I read it as "I've said what needs to be done, it seems no-one's listening." and I honestly thought that that's what people were doing (taking a long hard look). The fact that you didn't, felt to me like your standards were obviously higher than mine. I thought this was ironic in a post about being condescending so that was the point I was making. I was saying that people misreading posts was like a vicious circle, hence my "And so it goes..." comment at the end. As others have said, it's easy to misread a post. The fact that I obviously read your statement incorrectly (I'm sure you weren't meaning to offend) was what I was commenting on. I learnt years ago that the British love of irony doesn't play well on LP when I started a joke topic about DCA that got so many nasty comments it was removed completely as it was easier to do that than ADMIN individual posts! I realise reading my comments back that I didn't explain my intentions well at all and I apologise for any offence caused. It was not intended. The last thing I wanted was to get drawn into an argument!!!
Originally Posted By TINK-MOBILE Well it seems that I can not be Trusted since I fall into the spewing of flowers and rainbows catagory ,which saddens my heart..Think I'll go have a Fodd sno cone hope it doesn't melt before I take my first bite.. : ( ..This will be the last post as the TINK-MOBILE , if I do RETURN, which i probally will, LP means so much to me as do my Friends, you all know who you are, nothing has changed in my heart. but AT LEAST I will know now that the criteria to be trusted is to be much less of who I am. Although I have not been singlely singled out as a person that can not be trusted this criteria that has been set out, fits me to a "T" . I have been teased for the name TINK-MOBILE as it is too girlish for a fella, although there is a lil story that was attributed to the name and it was a name chosen for me by others not myself... A very Dear Friend who I care for tons and respect deeply called me.....this name a long while ago....it kinda has stuck in my mind ...... " The Lil Stinker " ...now it does have the word Flower attached to it in a Disney animated way, although there is no rainbow attached to the name, perhaps Some Where over the......, there will be.. I would ask that no one take this name cause I will no longer be able to be part of LP again if you do.. Hope that you all will come together as one , forgive each other as one , and grow this wonderful forum into what it was intended to be , A magical place where everyone who comes here feels " WELCOME " : ) Hey Fodd any more Sno Cones Left... : )
