Originally Posted By MissCandice I went to a reading by David Sedaris last spring in San Diego. We were at the very top of a 3 level performance hall. He was very small, and very funny.
Originally Posted By chickendumpling Cool! I would love to see him! I definitely need to set up an IM acct so I can stop hijacking topics. Sorry Jim.
Originally Posted By TALL Disney Guy I apologize too, Jim...with my news job I need all the distraction I can get, and here we have been goofin' around in your serious topic...we'll behave better now.
Originally Posted By Jim in Merced CA No apologies necessary. I have a first draft of 'the letter' and I read it to my wife. She said, 'You should send it.' We'll see... But it's definitely in the vein of 'Here's how I felt, here's the events as I saw them, and this is my sense of what you were like and how it impacted me.' Rest assured, I'm adding a few sentences where it is VERY clear that she is not responsible for my current well being. She's not. She forced me out of a workplace prematurely. I'm not saying I'd still be at WDI, I'm just saying it could very well have been a longer 'tour of duty.'
Originally Posted By TALL Disney Guy Sounds good so far, Jim...if you'd like to share it with anyone here for other feedback, I'm sure none of us would mind, but if you want to keep it more personal, of course that's understandable too. They always say if you're upset about something to wait at least 24 hours to respond---but it sounds like you're level-headed enough to not let emotions interfere with your focus.
Originally Posted By chickendumpling The plot thickens! lol. I still stand by my earlier posts but will admit that good wives know best and I'm sure yours is nothing less.
Originally Posted By chickendumpling forgot to say *Good Luck*. BTW, I agree with TDG's let's sleep on it approach.
Originally Posted By TALL Disney Guy Ya know Jim, maybe 2oony could design you up a card for such an occasion. ;-)
Originally Posted By Kar2oonMan Inside it could read: When I worked in Imagineering Your actions were less than endearing. Bluntly put, you were vindictive You were dull and too restrictive. Curt and crass and sneaky, too. I wonder if you ever knew That if you'd given me a chance Your own career would, too, advance? Instead, you were a crabby snot Your tantrums were so overwrought. You'd stomp and pout and bark and bray How I wished you'd go away! As it turned out, I left instead A career cut short but far from dead. I built a life, a business too I succeeded in spite of you. This card you may not take to heart But a couple thoughts I must impart We live with choices we must make We can be real or can be fake. We can mentor and inspire The new employees that we hire. Or we can work to keep folks down With silly paperwork, make them drown Bog them down with useless work In other words, act like a jerk. I hope you're sorry for how you were And are no longer a nasty cur But if you are, I will tell you what: I hope the card gave you a paper cut!
Originally Posted By Kar2oonMan P.S. And if my words are all rejected I hope the cut becomes infected!
Originally Posted By mrichmondj And to think I've been going to Hallmark for all these years to get my greetings card poems!
Originally Posted By trailsend Post #93 2oony ~ HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA So classy! It's poifect!
Originally Posted By trailsend Hey Inspector!!! Post #67. You have just blown me away. My gut reacted to what you are saying. It's right. It's the way to approach life's events. With honesty, forthrightness, get it out in the open. This thread has been a learning experience for me. All of us have episodes in life where we wish we had handled a situation differently. For me, I'll get this dialogue going in my head of what I should have said or done with or to the other person. I mean, I might think of something, like Jim, that was years ago. Inspector, it's no wonder your students appreciate your wisdom and insight. I got it sitting right here at my computer. A bright lightbulb came on for me with this post #45: >>>>I am slackjawed at the collective phobia of expressing feelings and objective feedback that you're all expressing. I'm similarly fascinated and a bit uncomprehending about the fact that so many see this as some kind of power struggle.<<<<
Originally Posted By Goofyernmost >>>>I am slackjawed at the collective phobia of expressing feelings and objective feedback that you're all expressing. I'm similarly fascinated and a bit uncomprehending about the fact that so many see this as some kind of power struggle.<<<< I agree but what would be the point of addressing a situation this old to a person that no longer has any influence on his life, directly? You get it out but at best it is anti-climatic. Obviously the time to address those issues was then. Now it is just dredging up events from the past that cannot be changed and hold no real time meaning. I think the emotion has to get out but it is a waste of energy to think that any direct satisfaction will come about. JMHO!
Originally Posted By t1lersm0m <<I am slackjawed at the collective phobia of expressing feelings and objective feedback that you're all expressing. I'm similarly fascinated and a bit uncomprehending about the fact that so many see this as some kind of power struggle. >> Well, here's why I *still* feel the way I did when I typed my first post. This woman is not a part of Jim's life. She is a part of his past. Maybe there will be a positive outcome. Maybe she will welcome the feedback with open arms and send a nice apology. Maybe she won't. Maybe she'll remember Jim, and feel her opinion of him was justified, or maybe she will vaguely remember him. I don't really think there is a right answer to his initial post. Its all a matter of opinion. Some of us feel the letter should not be sent, some do. Just an opinion.
