Originally Posted By tiggerdis_ and Toony, that was a magnificent card. I think you could have a wonderful career at Hallmark! Well, you know, the Hallmark cards you "really" want to buy.
Originally Posted By beamerdog If you don't care about burning bridges, then send it. If you think that there is a remote chance that she'd be talking to someone who might matter to you, either personally or professionally, in the future, then write the letter, wait a few days and then destroy it. Personally, I would write it and burn it. And believe me, I'm no shinking violet and have to contain myself from letting people know how I feel. I have a story to tell that's too painful right now about a mentor gone bad. Who has for years called me from time to time to "chat". The last time was 2002 before my dad died and I told him that I was just too busy with my dad to speak with him just then. I ran into his wife, with whom I was close before my falling out with her husband, a few months ago, and I thought for sure that after that I was going to get one of "those calls", but thank goodness I didn't. And don't get any ideas, it wasn't *that* kind of relationship with this guy. He liked me because I made him a lot of money, lol.
Originally Posted By beamerdog I made him a lot of money = I helped him make a lot of money. need editing function much?
Originally Posted By Jim in Merced CA I've always wondered about the 'burning bridges' concept too. I'd never ever want to work with this person, socialize with this person, nor would I give a rip what she would say about me to someone else. I'm just not sure I buy into the whole 'you better not say anything, because you never know when that person will 'show up' in your life again.' Working on tightening up my first draft...
Originally Posted By beamerdog Sorry but I never meant it to mean "you'd better not" out of fear that it would affect you somehow. I'm just not big on sharing feelings with someone I don't care about anymore. Sending letter seems so passive/aggressive to me. It's such a one way conversation. Or not really a conversation at all. Now, I can empathesize with I57 and agree with the way he handled it because he was face to face with the person. He resolved a long standing internal conflict and also made a positive impact on his tormentors (is that a word?). But if you're doing it just to make yourself feel better and, as you say, you don't give a rip, then do it. I think that you were leaning that way from the beginning.
Originally Posted By Jim in Merced CA <Sorry but I never meant it to mean "you'd better not" out of fear that it would affect you somehow.> I always understood that 'burning bridges' refers to 'you'd better not.' Isn't the expression 'don't burn any bridges' a warning to your own self not to do anything that you might regret, for fear that you may have to interact or work with or encounter that person again in the future? Or do I not get the expression?
Originally Posted By Jim in Merced CA Hi MissCandice. I have it in a Word document, but it needs a good ending.
Originally Posted By cape cod joe Just stop all the buffoonery and start your own business then NO boss. I still have nightmares about my old bosses but I get revenge by living well and being my own boss> well besides the wife
Originally Posted By Jim in Merced CA <Just stop all the buffoonery and start your own business then NO boss.> I have my own business -- and I have no boss.
Originally Posted By cape cod joe You're all set then Jim- When Joel Osteen changed my life on 1/2/05 his topic was doing away with all the emotional luggage. That's it in a nutshell. I could start a thread as we all could on emotional luggage but the key is to get rid of the emotionally damaging feelings relating to the bad experiences in the first place. Then you can put all your energy into living well.
