Originally Posted By JenniBarra So sorry you're going through such a rough time, KK123. I hope you get some news - and soon!
Originally Posted By KatieKate123 I will keep you guys posted. I did find out that two numbers in the phone book are from Mexico so I will be calling them tomorrow.
Originally Posted By Witches of Morva ORDDU: If I were going through the same thing you are, I'd be torn between taking him back into my life and trying to help him find himself as opposed to never trusting him again. But we can't read his Heart. Only God can do that. In the meantime you need to take care of yourself. You are the priority in this situation. We're still thinking of you and hoping you're going to come out of this as a stronger individual. Wish we could give you some hugs.
Originally Posted By u k fan Katie Kate, sorry to hear you're going through this. I can't offer anything practical, but my thoughts are with you. I hope you hear something soon.
Originally Posted By KatieKate123 Still haven't heard from him, and its been a week since he's been there. I am going to try to enjoy my mini vacation though. We are leaving for Pa to go to Hershey park today, and the amish festival tomorrow.
Originally Posted By KatieKate123 Still haven't heard from him, and its been a week since he's been there. I am going to try to enjoy my mini vacation though. We are leaving for Pa to go to Hershey park today, and the amish festival tomorrow.
Originally Posted By TXDISNEYNERD So sorry to read this. I am glad you are going on a mini vacation. That will help you and your girls to have fun and get this off your mind. Glad your assets aren't at risk. It doesn't sound like it was planned. I hope you find out soon what is going on. (((hugs)))
Originally Posted By Tinkeroon You are on my mind KatieKate and I hope it all works out. ORDDU is right...you are the priority here. Just keep on doing what you need to do so the girls don't get too hurt. Has his boss heard from him at all? Are you still in contact with him (boss)? Sending prayers and big HUGS!
Originally Posted By RoadTrip Katie Kate... I am so very sorry. I know how bad it must hurt... I went through the same thing when my first wife left me and I didn't know for weeks where she even was. I no longer even consider her to be my first wife. In my mind my first wife is Rosie, who I was married to for 30 years until she was taken from me by cancer. I am going to say what no one else has said, and I hope you can know I'm just trying to help you. I think he is gone and will not come back. I think you need to accept that and start to adjust to life without him. You have two children that love you more than anything on earth... get your love from them. They will always be there for you and they desperately need you now. Ask yourself if you REALLY want to be with a man who would put you through this. I can't imagine that you really would. I know what you are feeling now... you just want him back no questions asked. But that probably will not happen. ALWAYS remember that you deserve to be treated better than this. KNOW that you will find someone who will do just that. I could not imagine being away from my wife for even 24 hours without wanting to contact her. If he doesn't feel that way he is NOT worth your tears. I pray that you will have the strength to go forward without him, because I am quite certain he will never return. I also think that if he did, there is no way on earth you should take him back. No decent man would do this to a woman he loved. Sorry this is happening, but this is perhaps an opportunity for your life to be SO MUCH BETTER than it ever was before. An opportunity to find a man who loves you like you deserve to be loved. Stay as strong as you can and know that better things are in store for you.
Originally Posted By DVCdad3 "Ask yourself if you REALLY want to be with a man who would put you through this." I have to admit, this is what I was thinking when Trippy said it. Not only that, but you really should get some IRL friends to help you through. Who is your support team there physically? Lean on them, and ask them for help. LP is great, but the people here are a bit limited in the type of support they can give you, unless you know some of them outside of LP. I hope it all works out for you. Keep us posted.
Originally Posted By tashajilek Im so sorry Katie, i really hope you get some information soon. This must be tough for your girls not knowing where their dad is either. Have a good trip to hershey park!
Originally Posted By WDWdreamin Hey, Katie. I am so sorry that you are going through this. I would've responded earlier with my support, but I am finding it hard to know what to say. I just can't imagine being in your situation. If my husband didn't talk to me in 24hrs I would be worried about his life. If I didn't have five ways to contact him I would be confused. If I thought he might be have just left, then, as the above posters said, I would know that I would not put up with that. Of course, I'm not in the situation and saying it is easy. I'm sorry that you are suffering and I hope that you learn more soon and that you and your girls are safe.
Originally Posted By KatieKate123 RT I agree with you. I think he's gone and not coming back 2, I just wish he was man enough to tell me that even if it is just over the phone. I just need to know he's ok to move on. That might sound silly but it's what i need. If I just knew he was ok, I would be able to be strong and say ok this is what we are going to do. I also agree that no decent man would do this unless unforseen circumstances arised. I plan on not taking him back unless he has proof that he was a in jail or b in the hospital. Besides that I def deserve someone who will take better care of me. I just can't imagine him doing this to his kids. The one thing that I can say about him is that he loves his kids more than life itself, so it's hard for me to believe that he would do this to his kids Also his work is his life, and I have a feeling that he wouldn't just walk away from his work. He was supossed to go to Mexico so that he could become legal here, and what I am scared is that the court didn't go to well and he isn't wanting to upset me so he dosen't know what to do.
Originally Posted By KatieKate123 Also I don't have a support system, thats why I posted here. You guys have helped me just by the responses, so I do appreciate that. I plan on just going on with my life. Getting a job, and moving out of this hell hold and into my own place, and going on with my life. What I can tell you is this I have 2 interviews for tomorrow both for jobs that I would love to have
Originally Posted By KCCHIEF Katie...I am happy you are doing "ok". I, so know what you are going thru....I remember being told...."you have to put your big girl panties on now"......(I cried alot).... You can post here anytime....as you can see.....there are alot of us that do care... I know your living situation has not been the greatest...but, you seem like a very determined young lady....
Originally Posted By DDMAN26 I had to read this a few times, but I thought he had taken your girls. Glad to know that they are safe.
Originally Posted By jasmine7 *hugs* Katie, I'm so, so sorry. I wish you didn't have to go through this. I wish NO ONE had to go through this. I've spent the last year watching my mom go through this crap. It started last August/September; she and her ex (can't think of him as my stepdad now) came up to my city for the day, and while she and I were out shopping, we got a message from his mom (he was spending the day there) saying that they got into a fight & he walked out. He disappeared for a couple of days with no response or anything. He showed back up, but things weren't the same. He was working last fall in Nevada (he's a truck driver), so my mom went out in October to visit him. She ended up coming home early & told me a couple of months later that he had told her that while he still cared about her, he wasn't in love with her any more. They still seemed to be mostly okay or at least kind of working on it until Jan/Feb of this year. He was still out in Nevada & ended up in the hospital for a couple of months with heart problems and his diabetes. My mom did everything she could for him while he was out there, trying to get him a provider for his oxygen tanks, making sure he kept his VA appointments, and how does he repay her? By coming back to Missouri but not coming home & by leaving her. He's never really even given her any sort of explanation for everything. You think you know a person. . . *hugs* Hang in there, and we're here if you need us.
Originally Posted By KatieKate123 I agree with you, I have decided to put my big girl panties on too I just wish I knew if he was ok or not, it would just give me peace.
Originally Posted By Tinkeroon Aaahhh, Katie, I feel for you and wish I had some pearls of wisdom to impart but I am at a loss. I hope your children are a measure of comfort for you. I wish you had a group of close friends as a support system, or some family members you could lean on. I can't imagine going this alone. I do hope it helps you to read all these messages. We all care! Just take it one day at a time. Wishing you the best of luck tomorrow with the job interviews!! Keeping my fingers and toes crossed! Hugs {{Katie}}
