Originally Posted By KatieKate123 I agree with you, my life story is open for discussion. Even the comments that are painful are actually helpful because it helps me realize what other people think, though since none of these criticizers have been in my situation and I hope that they never will have to be, its easy for them to nick pick every little thing that I have said.
Originally Posted By Yahtzee Nay Nay Don't be too quick to make assumptions about what everyone here has been through. Remember, that behind every LP name is a real human being with family, friends, people they have loved, and people they have lost. We all have our crosses to bear. Some people out there may have very well lived through situations like yours whether they are willing to share that information with you or not, some have lived through worse.
Originally Posted By KCCHIEF when my husband left in 2008...I posted (if I remember correctly) that very nite.... why did I post? I thought literally that I was having a nervous breakdown... no one posted on my thread anything that was hurtful and I remember the responses to be helpful...in the respect..I knew there were people out there that cared. I was able to read these posts that have been admined......they were "mean"...for lack of a better word. I do agree when you post personal topics...you open it for all discussion.
Originally Posted By KCCHIEF I, also did not post everything that went down at the time in my life....(that would have been a good book)... I also know (just like Katie will know)...that we do get past all of this...and we go on. I am so proud of the decisions that I made during that time and I have proof that I did well.....my kids... My kids turned out wonderful in spite of all that turmoil that went down...
Originally Posted By Yahtzee Nay Nay At the worst times in my life, I try to remember that this pain will only be temporary. I actually have a Disney vacation parallel that I use to help get me through. I think back on past Disney trips and I remember how it seemed like forever for that trip to get there, but eventually I would be standing there on Main Street in the present enjoying every sight and sound, and then inevitably the vacation would be over, I would be heading home and then a year or two later, I would be looking through photos and fondly remembering that trip. Time passes and the good times become part of our past. So too do the bad times. It's just harder to remember that when we are in the center of the bad times and it consumes our entire world. KCCHIEF I remember when that all happened to you and I'm so glad you came through it a stronger better woman.
Originally Posted By KCCHIEF thank you so much. It was indeed....an experience..I hope to never have to relive. I have thought of Katie so much lately...and her children. I recently remarried...to a wonderful person....and I am so thankful for all in my life.
Originally Posted By iamsally I honestly do not understand. I have posted many personal problems here and have been lucky enough not to have them dissected. But I have seen it happen to others. It always amazes me. There are threads that ask for opinions. Then it is cool. But to just start in on someone who is hurting......I don't get it. Yes, it is a public forum. I belong to another public forum. But you have to be nice. The guidelines state that if what you say starts with *please don't be offended but....." then it is probably going to be offensive; so don't do it. There are places here for arguing opinions but I do not think KK ever asked for one. I hope you are doing okay KK. I wish everyone were understanding and compassionate and that the others would just stay away. But this is not a perfect world, is it?
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Originally Posted By KatieKate123 Thanks to all of those who are compassionate or not who has read my issue on this subject. I posted here b/c I didn't need anyone that was very close to me to feel like they needed to say something that they would regret. I figure if I posted it here, I could find the compassion that I needed without getting all around me bored over by the same drill. I am feeling better now 3 weeks later. Have I heard from him? No But I am feeling better. I feel like life will go on, even if it's going to be painful for awhile. When I said that the CRITICIZERS hadn't been through this. I meant it, b/c if they had they wouldn't be criticizing on me. I don't think I could ever look at someone else who is going through this and say something that is mean b/c I have been trhough it. I am not saying that no one has been through it though.
Originally Posted By JenniBarra KK123, I am sorry that the pain you have been through has been compounded by this rash of trolls. As others have said, it certainly is not representative of the LP we have come to know and frequent. It speaks volumes more of the troll/s and how they are choosing to spend precious free time than anyone else who has commented on this thread. Thank you, Admins, for trying to keep this problem in check. I am sure it's trying for you as well because you'd probably rather be just moving threads to more appropriate forums than dealing with TOS violations.
Originally Posted By WDWdreamin <<Thank you, Admins, for trying to keep this problem in check. I am sure it's trying for you as well because you'd probably rather be just moving threads to more appropriate forums than dealing with TOS violations.>> Lol! Katie, good luck staying strong, and I continue to wish for the best, even if that is him safe but now out of your life. I can't imagine going through that and the accompanying agony. And I am glad that you have found some compassion here.
Originally Posted By Inspector 57 <<Everyone here should be mature enough not to put [there] 2 cents where it doesnt belong.>> Okay, tashajilek, you're calling people out for responding to KK's "I want responses" posts. According to you, people should not respond when it isn't appropriate. What does that mean? Go ahead. Share with us your rules for when it's appropriate to respond to a post and when it's not.
Originally Posted By fkurucz >>Just remember, if you're new, and a old timer does not agree with you, you're a sockpuppet.<< How would you know that if you really are a new poster as you claim? If you're gonna lie Beau, at least do it well.
Originally Posted By Inspector 57 KatieKate123, it was not my intention to be "mean" in my posts on this thread. I apologize if I've come off that way. Sincerely. I was just trying to make sense of the contradictory statements you'd made on your own thread. I understand being irrational. God knows I've been there. I get it. Your response posts have helped me understand your situation a little better. Between your intial posts and your response posts, though, there's still a little that doesn't, ummmmm... "add up." But okay. That doesn't negate the fact that you're in a painful, confusing place. Given what you've posted, I don't know whether it would be best that he come home to you or not. But I understand that you have feelings for him -- and that it must be hell to not know what's happening with him. I truly hope you get closure with that. It seems to me that whatever happens, there's a silver lining. And that is that your daughters are still with you. It sounds as though your relationship with their father has been sketchy. But your relationship with them is pure. Embrace the beauty that has come of your relationship with him.
Originally Posted By KatieKate123 My relationship with my dad is sketchy not with my husband. He never was like this before. He was a great guy who took great care of us. I never expected him to do this, or I truly would not of let him go and trust me I could of stopped him from going. Thats whats the most painful thing is. I encouraged him to go so that we can go on a cruise and to ca and to all these other places. I am sick over this b/c I wish I hadn't done that. I just want to know he's ok even if he's not in my life anymore.
Originally Posted By u k fan Katie, I hope things are getting better for you. I'm amazed at what's happening here at LP right now. In the past this community has overwhelmingly been supportive when it's members have needed help. We can all think of at least a couple of occasions where LPers have been incredibly helpful to others going through tough times and yet that seems to be gone now, as has been demonstrated on various threads. If my sister died now instead of 4 months ago (wow that just hit me), I doubt I'd post about it for fear of mean spirited posts in return. I'm especially talking about "new posters", but I'm also a little shocked that others can't follow the Thumper priciple of "If you can't say anything nice...." I understand that people on a public forum are entitled to ask questions, but name calling (and I still see it on a non-ADMINed post) should really be off limits regardless of what the thread is about. It's called compassion people. I'm really concerned about this community. I think it might be time for crisis talks.
Originally Posted By TXDISNEYNERD I'm very sorry for what you are going thru and very saddened by the turn of this thread. Here is someone who is hurting and reached out to her LP communnity only to get kicked while she is down. I hope next week since he is due back, you will get some answers. Just hang in there and give your girls a hug.
Originally Posted By jasmine7 uk fan, you said well what's been in my heart this week. I know I don't post very often, but I've been here for 10 years now, and read the boards daily. This thread and the way people have been kicking Katie when she's down is so diferent from the LP of old, and it saddens me. If you question things about her story, why not keep it to yourself? Why add more frustration and pain to an already burdened mind/heart? Hang in there, Katie. You're in my thoughts daily. * hugs*
