Originally Posted By 999HAUNTS We all should just remember that if a question or problem is posted in an open forum, there are always going to be some folks that don't agree with you or what you are going through. That's no one's fault, just life. If you don't want to be hurt by some folks opinion, maybe you shouldn't post here. Unfortunately, that is life. Sympathy is not learned, but is a great thing to have been born with. And it is human to question motives and / or stories that flip flop over a 100 or so posts.
Originally Posted By SingleParkPassholder I think the people who joined LP in the last day or so and then criticized Katie need to walk away from here. I also think it should have been possible to constructively criticize her (if necessary) without resorting to pejoratives such as "drama queen". A point could still be made without that.
Originally Posted By Labuda Wow, there sure has been a lot of ADMINing going on in this thread. I missed most of the psots, but I, for one, can tell you that in the FIRST admined post, there was a personal attack against a member of LP. Per the rules here, that's not allowed. Anyhow, for the sake of you & your kids, Katie, I hope your partner returns on Monday and you two are able to work through the issue of him having been missing for a month with no contact whatsoever.
Originally Posted By Autopia Deb Time for a little unpopular truth here. The OP is relatively new here and from the very beginning of her membership here she has posted topics complaining about her commute, her waitressing job her family (more than once), her job hunt, her dog washing job and now her husband. In short, she has been a Drama Queen. This has made it difficult for some of us to be supportive. Is there a troll stalking this thread? Yes. Is it valid to want details and ask questions about inconsistencies in the story? After all the other topics KK has posted, I would say so. She reminds me of the boy who cried "Wolf" and this villager has stopped running to her aid. It's long past time for her to be proactive in her own life and stop expecting strangers on the Internet to be her support system. There are numerous support groups out there, Parents without Partners being only one. I urge you to seek help counseling locally. U_k_fan, you have been a long standing and valued member of this community for a very long time. It is my belief that even today you would get all the love and warmth you experienced 4 months ago. I for one hope you and your family are finding comfort and love amidst your pain and loss.
Originally Posted By KatieKate123 First off I am not new to this thread. I have been on here for 3 years, so unless you think thats new then wow. Second off most of my post are not about the bad things but about the good. In fact go look at my other post. 1 is for what you are looking forward to on this trip. 3rd off I have always been supportive of others, and wish others would be supportive of me. Now that being said you can say whatever you want about me but hey you know I quit waitressing exactly 2 years ago so you got a good memory.
Originally Posted By KatieKate123 Even though it says my first date was Jan 2010 thats not actually true, because I coulnd't get into my old name so thast just when this one was created.
Originally Posted By Autopia Deb My "Hard Truth" post was not an attack or criticism, merely an explanation as to why you are not getting the unconditional support you desire. Take it how you will, but let me respond to your post for clarification. "First off I am not new to this thread. I have been on here for 3 years, so unless you think thats new then wow." As you corrected yourself, you've only been posting under the current user name for 17 months. And yes, that is "relatively" new. " Second off most of my post are not about the bad things but about the good. 3rd off I have always been supportive of others, and wish others would be supportive of me." I didn't say you never posted positive or good things or that you aren't supportive of others. And if you read what I posted you'd know why not everyone is supportive of you. "Now that being said you can say whatever you want about me but hey you know I quit waitressing exactly 2 years ago so you got a good memory." Apparently my memory is better than yours because you were complaining about that job LESS than 2 years ago, only posting for 17 months on this ID is evidence of that. Another inconsistency in story. Instead of nitpicking my post and being defensive, look at the meat of the thing and take what can be of value to you. Being blind to our own faults only hurts us. Take responsibility for your own life. I strongly urge you to find a support group in your area for one on one human contact support. We are strangers on a Disney web site and can do nothing of substance for you.
Originally Posted By KatieKate123 True enough, and you can have any opinion of me that you want. I am glad that your life is good, and that you aren't in my situation.
Originally Posted By Autopia Deb I don't quite know how to interpret "WOW" but let me clarify. We as a community can and have be a supportive group, and we should continue to be. I have even offered heartfelt support myself (shocking I know). But it is clear from the pattern of topics over the last year and a half the Katie needs more than what we have to give. Patting her on the head and saying "there, there you poor dear" is not going to help her in the least. She needs to seek out real support. In fact I think actual therapy is required to help her get over her past. Without it and some serious self examination her life will not get any better. We can be of no substantive help to her.
Originally Posted By Yahtzee Nay Nay "I am glad that your life is good, and that you aren't in my situation." Katie, Deb is raising her son on her own because her husband died so comparatively, I'd say you probably have it better. I suggest you listen again to the advice I gave you earlier. Many others here have had bad times and are currently suffering through their own troubles. Stop assuming that you are the only one having a hard time and that anyone who offers a criticism is only doing it because their life is so wonderful compared to yours. Maybe you should take a look at what you've posted here in the past year and try to understand why people may have this opinion.
Originally Posted By KatieKate123 If my husband stays missing it might be better if we had the chance to say goodbye?
Originally Posted By KatieKate123 You are right, I posted in the wrong place. I also remember specifically saying in my first post that I would be complaining and if you didn't want to read you shouldn't.
Originally Posted By quincytoo >>>>I also remember specifically saying in my first post that I would be complaining and if you didn't want to read you shouldn't. <<<< Actually no, you did not say that. You asked what you were supposed to do and you got some good advice from a lot of posters,myself included and we are made to feel like trolls...ummm thanks >>Please keep my girls in your prayers, their names are Gabby and Elizabeth. As most of you know I don't have a very good family relationship and the one thing that was keeping me going strong was my husband. Well that guy lied to me, and for the past 7 years used me. He went to Mexico on Monday and he hasn't called me since. So you might say I am jumping to conclusions to think he's not coming back, but I just have this feeling. I don't know what it is but I just have a feeling that he's gone. Maybe it's the fact all of his important papers are gone, or the fact that he deleted his brothers phone number out of his phone, or the fact that I have no way to contact him. My girls keep saying mom you are smart find him, I wish it was this easy, but what am I supossed to do?<<< This is your first post. BTW? When I had just turned 22 I had just bought a house, had a baby and had a very abusive husband. I left him and had to go back to work when the baby was very young. Her father wasn't around much at all and when he was I was never sure if it was going to be a friendly vist or if I ws going to be thrown down a long flight of stairs or beat(happened a few times). It was hard but I had to do what I had to do. I hired a full time nanny and became a single working mother and made a life for my daughter and I, it was the hardest thing I ever had to do but the best thing I ever did for the two of us. Hopefully he will come home and all will be well, but if not then you will survive to make a life for your daughters as I did for mine I do wish you the best.
Originally Posted By Inspector 57 <<...the one thing that was keeping me going strong was my husband. Well that guy lied to me, and for the past 7 years used me.>> <<My relationship with my dad is sketchy not with my husband. He never was like this before. He was a great guy who took great care of us.>> I don't have the time to do whatever mental gymnastics it would take to reconcile these statements and produce an "appropriately" sympathetic response. I'm sorry if you find that "shocking," u k fan. One of my personal weaknesses is that I'll bleed myself out for people who need help: friends; people I know through the internet; somebody I meet at a bus-stop. I'm really not judgemental about people's issues. But if they're asking for something from me (advice, money, sympathy, whatever), I expect them to have integrity in the story they tell me. I sincerely wish KatieKate123 the best.
Originally Posted By Inspector 57 <<...the one thing that was keeping me going strong was my husband. Well that guy lied to me, and for the past 7 years used me.>> <<My relationship with my dad is sketchy not with my husband. He never was like this before. He was a great guy who took great care of us.>> I don't have the time to do whatever mental gymnastics it would take to reconcile these statements and produce an "appropriately" sympathetic response. I'm sorry if you find that "shocking," u k fan. One of my personal weaknesses is that I'll bleed myself out for people who need help: friends; people I know through the internet; somebody I meet at a bus-stop. I'm really not judgemental about people's issues. But if they're asking for something from me (advice, money, sympathy, whatever), I expect them to have integrity in the story they tell me. I sincerely wish KatieKate123 the best.
Originally Posted By RoadTrip Katie Kate... I totally stand by my first (and only) post on this thread. I wish you had really read it and taken it to heart, because it perhaps could have helped you. I had great sympathy for you, having been in a similar situation many years ago. I asked you to assess the situation, and ask yourself if you would REALLY want a man who would do this to you. I ended my post by saying... <<I pray that you will have the strength to go forward without him, because I am quite certain he will never return. I also think that if he did, there is no way on earth you should take him back. No decent man would do this to a woman he loved. Sorry this is happening, but this is perhaps an opportunity for your life to be SO MUCH BETTER than it ever was before. An opportunity to find a man who loves you like you deserve to be loved. Stay as strong as you can and know that better things are in store for you.>> After a hundred more posts, it is pretty clear to me that you did not understand what I said. So I will condense it down into a few sentences. 1) You've been dumped. 2) I'm sorry. 3) Get over it. Crap... and people thought I was a drama queen a few years back after my wife died. You REALLY take the cake. -RoadTrip, over and out. P.S. My original post here was #30 if you would like to review it. I also know from personal experience that people here can be HORRIBLY CRUEL. Accept it. Bow out now and come back in a year. It is all you can do. It is what I did.
Originally Posted By KatieKate123 I am only saying he lied for the past 7 years b/c hes not back not b/c of what hes done in those 7 years.
