Originally Posted By DlandDug Katie, I am so sorry for the direction your life has taken. I am glad you feel you can come here and seek support. Bear in mind that support comes in many forms. Some here will simply offer words of encouragement. Others have offered concrete suggestions. Others have offered advice that you may not want to hear. But, with the exception of one (and it's just one little creep), everyone here has been doing their best to help you, in their own way. (And I assure you, even the ones that seem kind of brusque are offering very good advice.)
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Originally Posted By KCCHIEF I hope everything turns out for you like you want it to. I will not be posting anymore on LP.....but, know that I wish you and your family the best...always
Originally Posted By Labuda Sorry to hear he didn't return, katie, but I suspectit's for the best. After all, what kind of father abandons his daughters? That being said, hang in there, and here's hoping you're still not smoking! I'll be hitting my 3 year mark in October!
Originally Posted By KatieKate123 It will be a year on August 14th that I quit smoking. With all of this there are days that I really want one but I am not giving in.
Originally Posted By JenniBarra KK123, I know it was not easy to accept that he's not coming back, but I do hope it helps you in being able to move forward in your life. Good luck to you...
Originally Posted By KatieKate123 Thanks. I keep expecting to hear him walk through the door. I know its not going to happen but sometimes I'll hear a door shut and I am like oh maybe thats him. Anyways my friends are already trying to set me up, crazy huh? I wish they could understand that you can't just get out of a 7 year relationship and move on.
Originally Posted By amazedncal2 Katie....you should be so proud of yourself that you haven't given in to the temptation to start smoking again. You fought hard to quit. You need to feel good about yourself right now and I don't want you to set up another obstacle in that path. Keep fighting! Just think of the $$ you are "saving" and can spend on something you and the girls will enjoy
Originally Posted By WDWdreamin Yeah, keep it up, and keep working to help the three of you get stable. Take care!
Originally Posted By 999HAUNTS Didn't I read on another thread awhile ago that your dad works for the Pentagon? Couldn't he track your husband down for you or atleast connect you with pertinent people?
Originally Posted By TINK-MOBILE Katie , to-day is the First Day of the Rest of your life...in order for you to truly start the day a new..all of his past must be thrown away...you will never get past the front door if you do not breathe the new air that wants in...your children are your top priority now..despite it all, LP has shown once again that they are a place that cares....you will always find a pillow to cry on here, a hand to wipe away a tear...a hug to help you along, a kind word to help you sleep...it is now time for you to take all of the love ,care and understanding and put them all together ,using it all as your strength to prepare a new life for your children and you...taking that step is tough..but it is a step you must now take...We all wish you all the best...and look forward to your next post sharing with us all that you have no past left in front of you....You are free...your past burden's are now gone...Believe..Dear Katie...give it all to the Lord...for it is he that shall set you free....Good Luck...Take Care...God Bless... It is time... : ) T-M
Originally Posted By KatieKate123 I am actually doing ok. SOme days are tougher than others, but I am starting to get used to the quiet. Anyways yes my dad works at the pentagon, could he track down my husband, I don't know nor will I ask him. My dad and I are not close. When he walked out of my life when I was 12 that was the end of our relationship, though I wish things had turned out differently he choose his path, just like my husband is now 2. I do still need closure, so I am talking to the lawyer on Monday, and my pastor is invesigating for me. Anyways to put some good news in. I have a new job offer at Walmart. It's closer to my home, overnight so I work while my kids are sleeping and sleep while my girls are in school. I also ofically paid off Disney World yesterday, so we are def going in 48 days. Really looking forward to this trip, and some time away from reality. I have ordered my school books for the fall semester, so I am all ready to go back to school on the 22nd. I am taking Biology, Spanish, and History. I am taking Spanish and History online and Biology in person on Fridays. Other than that I am doing good. Setting a life plan, and taking one day at a time
Originally Posted By RoadTrip KatieKate... I'm so glad you appear to be doing as well as possible given the situation. I know nothing about your father or that situation. But did he walk out of YOUR life or did he leave a situation with your mother than had become unworkable for the two of them? Depending on the circumstances, consider forgiving him. My greatest life regret is that I never reconciled with my father before he died... even though he desperately wanted to. Now that I've been a parent I know how badly that must have hurt him... I'm so very sorry.
Originally Posted By 999HAUNTS Guess I must be getting old as I could have sworn just recently you were helping an LPer by getting your dad to help get a disney screening for his kids or day program or something? But if you havent talked to him since you were twelve I must be mistaken. Sorry about that.
Originally Posted By Fowley >>Guess I must be getting old as I could have sworn just recently<< a lot of different things have been said, guess I'm getting old too :S
Originally Posted By KatieKate123 999Haunts, I did email my dad and ask him to help out that cause because I thought it was a good cause. My dad and I talk maybe 2x a year through email. We never speak on the phone, nor do we see eachother. Growing up was hard for me, because my mom has her favorite which was my sister and I was daddy's little girl. When my parents got divorced my sister was out of the house to college, and I was 12. My dad was not good at raising kids, and just left. He would call me and he sent child support payments, but he never wanted to see me. He first moved to Saudi Arabia and then later moved to Hawaii. I did go out to Hawaii when I was 16 to see him, but all he did was send me on tour busses. THat hurt. He's not a bad guy, he's just not a good dad, if that makes sense. I do forigve him for what he did to me, but we just don't have a relationship, and I am ok with that.
