Originally Posted By RAM1984 Good for you. It always makes me feel better to be the bigger person. When I met up with my old boss at the unemployment hearing I told him I had been praying for him. In the end we shook hands and he told me I could count on him for a good recommendation.
Originally Posted By JazzCat My supervisor said she had been praying for me which I always appreciate. We even prayed over the phone. Also, she apologized as well (for what I'm not sure, but it was a nice surprise!). I have already applied at several places. My sister stopped by tonight (she moved out in July, darn it! We could use the money now!) and brought me an application from where she works. She even asked her human resource co-worker if it would make a difference if she worked there. The HR person replied people are hired on their own merit, which I was really happy of after being at a place that promoted nepotism! The wierd thing is they said I could use her for a reference. (!?) I doubt if I will as I wouldn't feel comfortable doing that.
Originally Posted By DlandJB Don't use anyone as a reference if you feel funny about it. Also, be sure to tell people that you have used them, so they will be ready for calls/emails and have time to think about all your wonderful qualities. I can sympathize. I think everyone has at least one Boss from (ADMIN) only one if they are lucky. It can be very frustrating. I have always believed in "what goes around, comes around" though and they eventually get their due. Stand tall and good luck with the job search.
Originally Posted By RAM1984 >>be sure to tell people that you have used them, so they will be ready<< This is very important as I have gotten calls from people asking me about someone who has used me as a reference. It can take one off guard and make it hard to say the right things. I once got a call about someone and they used his real name. I said I did not know this person. Later, thinking about it, I realized that I knew him as Kanga. I had only heard his name a couple of times.
