Originally Posted By BlazesOfFire I would take that scholarship to UT when I graduated instead of taking the long and hard route I am taking now
Originally Posted By TomSawyer For a while, I pined after "the one who got away", but if I were to go back in time and change that her three wonderful kids wouldn't be here and my own wonderful daughter wouldn't be here. So no go on that. There are career choices I could have made differently, or education choices. But the choices I made - even though at times I regret some of them - got me to where I am now with a wife and daughter I love dearly in a job that I really enjoy in one of the most livable cities in the most beautiful part of the country. Why change anything? Oh, I wouldn't have gone into the DCA section when I first started posting here. That, I would change.
Originally Posted By alexbook There's some stuff in my childhood that was pretty crummy, but I don't know how much I could have done differently. I'd like to go back as an adult and have a long talk with a few people who messed me up then. This is a really depressing topic.
Originally Posted By ilvdland There were 2 defining moments in my life that I wish I could do over - one involves a relationship and one involves career - both decisions that I made if they had gone differently my life would be totally upside down different than it is now. I'm still not sure if that's a good thing or a bad thing. I agree with Alex, this is depressing....
Originally Posted By wahooskipper This topic reminds me of the Garth Brooks song, "Unanswered Prayers".
Originally Posted By deephil I would go back to 28th December 1996, day before my mum passed away and say goodbye and tell her I loved her as did not have chance to.
Originally Posted By Deogges Mom A couple years of ago, I probably would have wanted to go back and change some things. I've realized that if I went back and changed things, I wouldn't have the life I have now.
Originally Posted By beamerdog Here's the song: "If I Could Turn Back Time" If I could turn back time If I could find a way I'd take back those words that hurt you and you'd stay I don't know why I did the things I did I don't know why I said the things I said Pride's like a knife it can cut deep inside Words are like weapons they wound sometimes. I didn't really mean to hurt you I didn't wanna see you go I know I made you cry, but baby [Chorus:] If I could turn back time If I could find a way I'd take back those words that hurt you And you'd stay If I could reach the stars I'd give them all to you Then you'd love me, love me Like you used to do If I could turn back time My world was shattered I was torn apart Like someone took a knife and drove it deep in my heart You walked out that door I swore that I didn't care But I lost everything darling then and there Too strong to tell you I was sorry Too proud to tell you I was wrong I know that I was blind, and ooh... [Chorus] Ooohh If I could turn back time If I could turn back time If I could turn back time ooh baby I didn't really mean to hurt you I didn't want to see you go I know I made you cry Ooohh [Chorus #2] If I could turn back time If I could find a way I'd take back those words that hurt you If I could reach the stars I'd give them all to you Then you'd love me, love me Like you used to do If I could turn back time (turn back time) If I could find a way (find a way) Then baby, maybe, maybe You'd stay [to fade] Reach the stars If I could reach the stars
Originally Posted By teddibubbles I can think of many things I would have liked to have done differant. but if It was only for my life time. I wish I would have got adoption papers for my grandgirl at her birth.( as I was gave her at birth untill 5 years old) it may have spared many feeling for everyone involved. But I cant truthfully say I could have met all her needs . yet I think . I care more on how her heart and SOULare developing. she is in much more need with that aspect. then can be met as it is! (( but MAN!! would I hate the teen years of rebelion ! to go through again YUCK! )
Originally Posted By idleBrain I would go back to twenty-eight years ago today: August 4, 1978. That's the day I received the first of two CM summer performance reviews at DL. It was the worst review of my life, which I felt I didn't deserve, nor did most of the work leads who had worked with me at other times. And I ended up quitting my job, as a result. After traveling back in time, instead of going to my area office to quit, I would go to my area office and plead my case and fight my review. I probably wouldn't have been successful, and would have still wound up quitting anyway. But at least I would have tried to defend myself, instead of caving in and giving up on my Disney career, because I had been conditioned not to "rock the boat" by my clueless parents. In a nutshell, a fellow CM and I volunteered to work the graveyard shift for the three summer months, to see what it was like. My primary work lead on graveyard was someone neither my friend nor I hadn't worked with before. And just before the shift ended when the park opened at 8 AM, he gave me my initial summer performance review. Every single category on the review was marked "unsatisfactory," including appearance and promptness/tardiness. I was never out of costume regs, and never late to my location. But every single category was graded the lowest mark possible. I couldn't believe it! I was in total shock. No explanations, no justifications for why I was such a bad worker; just negative marks all the way down the line. The work lead also refused to discuss it. And no one had told me up to that point, including this work lead, how "badly" I was performing as a CM; that was the first time anyone had anything negative to say about my work. Which didn't make sense, given that I was always been called in to work on the days I wasn't scheduled, before the summer graveyard shift began. How horrible could I have been, if I was always asked to come in and work my days off? The work lead instructed me to sign the review, telling me that signing it meant I had read it. Wrong. Signing the review actually meant that I had agreed with it. But, I was a relatively new CM, and didn't know that little piece of relevant info at the time. Later that day, I discovered from my CM friend who worked graveyard with me, that she had a similar review given to her by the same work lead, after I left for the locker room. But the work lead didn't realize that she was already permanent status, and would receive her review on her hire date anniversary in November. But before she told him of this fact, he put the review in front of her, telling her that both of us were being "punished" with bad reviews because she had continually rebuffed his sexual advances, all summer long. Of course, he actually didn't have the authority to review her, just me. After I changed and clocked out for the day, my daytime work leads heard about the review, and went to the area office to fight it on my behalf. But, they pretty much got nowhere. No one in the office was willing to discredit a long-time "A" status work lead. It was his word against theirs. And my friend was too scared to risk losing her job by exposing his sexual harassment, given his seniority at the park. Plus, she was up for a transfer to a different department at the end of summer, and didn't want to risk screwing up the transfer, which I understood. So after the other work leads failed in pleading my case, she decided to keep quiet and let the matter drop. I knew that a review of this nature would keep me from advancing any further at the park, and would most likely mean termination at the end of summer, especially after the second and final summer review, which would have been given by the same work lead on graveyard. I knew what was coming down the pike; I was going to lose my job at DL, which I loved and worked very hard to do to the best of my ability. My Disney career was over before it began. My fiance was due to ship out to the Florida panhandle for his new base assignment the following week, so we spent the morning discussing our options. Since it was clear that I was going to lose my DL job at the end of summer, we realized that postponing the wedding until he was out of the service and back home in SoCal was no longer necessary. So we went and got our blood tests later that morning, and I stopped by my area office afterwards and quit. My fiance and I got married the following Monday, packed up a U-Haul, and moved to Florida to start our new lives. Of all my regrets in life, this one is probably my biggest. I don't believe the results would have ended up differently, I'm certain my case would have fallen on deaf ears because of his long-time seniority. But at least I would have tried to stand up for myself, and speak my truth. And because of this past situation at DL, I have virtually no tolerance for any manager or executive with any power or influence over employees, who uses that power or influence to gain sexual favors from their subordinates. Such BS behavior cost me my Disney career dreams in the wink of an eye. And I wasn't even the person being harassed, just her close friend. Thankfully, almost all companies now have a zero tolerance policy for sexual harassment and fraternization between managers and subordinate workers. And my story is solid proof as to why they are necessary.
