Originally Posted By Kennesaw Tom No Kimrue you win. I get along with my in-laws. Sure they are stuck in their ways and stuborn. But after a while you can get them to come around to logic. I don't think I could tolerate spending a holiday with drama. Kimrue I think your husband needs to have a pow wow with his family and leave you and your daughter out of it. I would also spend the holidays elsewhere with people I want to be with and people who actually would want to spend the holidays with me. Everyone should have a safe loving place to on Christmas. There may have been no room at the INN but there is always room here on Laughing Place. As for the money, my other half and I work very hard and LONG LONG hours. I think I have had probably only 45 days off ALL of last year including two weeks vacation and maybe four days out sick. I worked constantly this past year, often two weeks straight at a time. I am up weekends at 5 AM and leave the house by 6 AM. I don't get home before 7 PM and this week I haven't gotten home till 8 PM. During this time of the year I only see my home in daylight on weekends. My other half works constantly too. Our goal is to pay off our home in the next four to five years. We are also saving a lot of money for retirement, 401Ks, IRAs, pensions, stock options. When the house is payed off, then we are going to tear down the mountain house and build the home we want to retire in. So we have a plan and work hard to accomplish that plan.
Originally Posted By Kimrue Ya know, it's so funny my inlaws have this way about them that is so outrageously phoney it boggles my mind. I actually thought that I "got along" with them, and I did, until I got the nerve up and stuck up for my child. You're right.."drama" is the exact word for it. SIL is the "princess" in the family, and my husband was pretty much the you know what. They make a point to remind him what a terrible child he was every chance they get. Not to get all technical, but he probably knew he wasn't the favorite and acted out if he was, as they say "bad". SIL and her husband have this energy about them that they feel that they are so in touch with each other and they are above everyone else because they are so "enlightened"...it's nauseating and insulting to say the least. I love how she became the victim in the situation and to add insult to injury, my son woke up with the croup the day after the visit and I've been caring for a crying, coughing, fevered uncomfortable child for the past 3 days, knowing this she has her brat son call here asking for his gift he accidently packed with our stuff when we left the house!!!! YEAH OK, my kid has croup and I'm concerned about your freakin' GIFT!!!!!! Oh, we ARE definately having a "sit down" with his parents when they come back. I'm NOT staying out of it though. I'm sick of not saying anything. I'm showing my child that I won't stick up for her if I don't. What do I really have to lose? I have my own family that I love and get along with. As far as I'm concerned, if they decide to not speak to us anymore, they're missing out. My kids are wonderful little people that are sweet, kind, giving and loving. They can keep their little bratty grandson's and miss out on a beautiful relationship that may or may not be with my kids.
Originally Posted By amazedncal2 After 31 plus years of marriage I could tell stories that would curl Mickey's paws BUT after years of emotional abuse from his father, DH himself decided we had had enough and cut all ties with the jerk about 5 years ago.. DH's mom died several years ago and our relationship with her was fine. We lived through his Dad's several wives and lady friends, I love you, I hate you scenarios. But when his father came into our office having a fit because new girlfriend was not invited to our daughters wedding and said "F*** YOU" to DH in full view of the office staff and and our daughter (the bride) that was the straw so to speak. We have never been happier No worrying about the crazy man. He just doesn't exist. Now MY side of the family, they are all saints LOL! -em, that is just horrible, I can't imagine Kimrue, what a sad thing to happen
Originally Posted By Kennesaw Tom My SIL and her husband have two Beagles and they preform these rituals around the Beagles feeding time. No one is allowed in the kitchen while the dogs are being fed. I'm not sure how breakfast for the dogs plays out as I tend to sleep in while visiting ( that means staying in bed till 7 am ). But at feeding time ( 5 pm ) no one is allowed in the kitchen. They take half a cup of dry dog food put that in a bowl, then shred some cheddar cheese, throw that in, add chopped ham, then some scrambled eggs mix all the above and BAKE it! Yes the dogs get souflees (sp). Meahwhile we are eating cold ham and biscuts. We always bring our dog with us too and our dog is only allowed to eat the food we bring for her. Everyone is nice nice as long as our dogs doesn't drink from any of their dogs water bowls. No one is allowed to touch the "dogs" cheese, which is actually really good cheddar cheese from Costco. Its crazy how they baby those dogs. What they really did to piss me off a few years ago. It was kinda right after 911, and we were visiting the in-laws. My brother is a Marine and works at the Pentagon, he and his family live in Fredricksburg, Virginia and he survived 911 ( he stayed at the Pentagon for three days helping dig out the victums ). Anyway not only had I not seen my brother and his family in a couple years but hey my brother survived one of the worst disasters on our national soil. Well anyone, the SIL and her husband made us promise to be back in time for for a special dinner. So off we drive from Richmond to Fredricksgurg ( 100 miles ) and spend maybe three hours with my brother and his family. My other half reminds me that we have to get back in time for dinner. So off we go racing back to Richmond, walk in the door they have a box of spagetti out and two cans of Hunts spagetti sauce on the counter. I actually cried that night. I just can't believe how incredibly self centered and insentive some people can be. Talk about Narsasistic.
Originally Posted By Kennesaw Tom I'm sitting her laughing, but its all true. Who would ever believe that some people are just sooooo weird. LOL. You know this truely is a VERY diverse world!
Originally Posted By JazzCat It always makes me wonder how we can marry someone who came from a family like that! My in-laws are angels compared to the stories I've read.........except for being naked.
Originally Posted By Ursula I like my in-laws, too! The are visiting with us in February and they are bringing some mid-century furniture for us to have! WHOOOOOO!!!!
Originally Posted By Kar2oonMan >>The are visiting with us in February and they are bringing some mid-century furniture for us to have!<< Cool! What kind of stuff?
Originally Posted By Kimrue hey, how DARE you like your inlaws...it's against the RULES!!!!! Haven't you read the manual...geesh, what's wrong with these people... Having a SIL as well as a MIL is just as bad as having two MIL....GOD HELP ME!!!!
Originally Posted By Ursula Well, 2oony, we are getting a Danish coffee table (not to eat Danish pastries on, okay maybe to eat Danish pastries on, but you know what I mean) and two side tables. The side tables are the two-step kind, as seen in various Shag paintings. All three pieces are reportedly cherry wood or some dark wood. They've been in storage for over 25 years. They were purchased when my husband was two. :+)
Originally Posted By ajsmommy My in law story for this year 1st, bil and sil with 2 children (with NO manners what so ever) stayed at our house from Dec 7th to Dec 26th. -he is Navy and got transfered to Hawaii and had a month leave- 2nd I was on bedrest and my sil is the worst cook ever. Burned chili a couple of inches thick in my favorite vision ware pot. To the point that I did not think I was going to beable to get it cleaned. Never watched the kids, and we got a big scratch on our big screen tv. Her kids were jumping on the bed that they were sleeping on and the frame broke, hubby was not even able to weld it back together. THEN the kids blamed Andrew for it, now my kid is a monster and I am the first one to admit it but he was not even home when it happend. he had spent the night at his other cousins house because we were at the hospital 3rd I had a baby.. baby went to NICU.. was not home for Christmas and they kept telling me that I should call the Dr to get meds for depression because I cryed the whole weekend. WELL DUH -- Holly is in the hospital! 4th my sil is THE dumbest person I know
Originally Posted By melekalikimaka Dang, girl. I can't believe they were so awful when you were going through so much. I hope they're gone now.
Originally Posted By Kennesaw Tom ajsmommy we are all praying that Holly is going to be fine. Congradulations on Princess Holly by the way. Who cares about them, you have a new Princess in the house!
Originally Posted By Labuda Look at it this way, Sandra - you've got half the Pacific Ocean between you & those jerks now! As for me, I'm with Ursula - I like my in-laws, despite the fact that one of my fathers-in-law has a MASSIVE frakin' gun collection that scares the poo out of me.
Originally Posted By TALL Disney Guy <Yes the dogs get souflees (sp). Meahwhile we are eating cold ham and biscuts.> LOL!
Originally Posted By Kennesaw Tom We should put a disclaimer on this thread reading : THE NAMES HAVE BEEN CHANGED TO PORTECT THE INOCENT.
Originally Posted By wonderingalice I'm in the group that likes her in-laws. We lost my father-in-law just before Thanksgiving, but he was awesome. And my mother-in-law is one of the classiest, kind-hearted and sweet ladies I've ever met. Reading about the LP'er who received Chapsticks from the mother-in-law just made me do a Scooby Doo ("Uhruh?" *L*)... One of the gifts Mr. Alice's mom gave me was a much-wanted business card holder - and what did she choose...? A leather Kate Spade! Wow! But that's just her... She's wonderful. There's also an aunt, uncle and older adult cousins-in-law that we get together with fairly regularly (aunt and uncle hosted a fun and delicious Thanksgiving dinner for the second year in a row - great cooks)... We're all a little kooky and just have a lot of laughs at gatherings. Just lucky, I guess!
