Originally Posted By bloona they came to take a photo of him and said the photos I took cant be used as evidence as they cant prove they havent been tampered with, so they can only use ones theyve taken....mmmmmmm....pity they didnt call sooner then hey??
Originally Posted By LuLu Thanks for keeping us posted, bloona. And it's nice to know our support is helping a bit!
Originally Posted By bloona ooooooooooooooooooooooooooh Im mad. Patrick went to our local hospital to be Xrayed, as arranged by our GP. They said he needed to go straight away to the larger hospital about 11 miles away.To the facial injuries unit. He was told he could have an ambulance, but it would be 4 hours, and there was none to bring him back....lovely. That really upset him after what he has been through that they didnt care that it was probably going to involve him walking around in the dark for a taxi or bus. Anyway,we have wonderful friends who took him there.And another who just brought him home. So once there, he had to wait about an hour, and he was thouroughly checked over.They were VERY surprised to hear he wasnt Xrayed when he was taken in there by the ambulance on Friday.(me too) They said his cheek bone is broken, but everything is functional, he has to go back in on monday and decide if he wants an operation to re-set the bone. For cosmetic reasons really. If he does, he can have the operation Monday afternoon, they will try to pop it back into place, if it wont, then they will plate it. He told them he couldnt blow his nose.The consultant said in a panicy voice "DONT BLOW YOUR NOSE, YOU COULD GO BLIND!" He asked why he wasnt told that Friday, they said they didnt know. Oh very funny story though, I laughed so much when Patrick just told me this. He went into the consultants office, and sat in the chair in the middle of the room. The consultant said "slide forward in the chair a little" so Patrick slid his bum forward to the middle of the seat. The consultant said "a bit more" So he slid so his bum was at the very edge of the chair, he was almost laid horizontal, he presumed he wanted him like that so he could examine at him easier. The consultant looked around and said "no, slide your chair forward" It was so he could have room to stand behind him and feel his head. lolololololololololololololol
Originally Posted By Tinkeroon Hilarious story bloona...sounds so much like something I would do! Nearly fell on the floor laughing. Nice to find something amusing in all this. Any luck finding the slimy toads that did this? We continue to keep you in our thoughts and prayers. Big bear hugs to all.
Originally Posted By bloona ^^ thank you, no I doubt they will catch them.I think they know that.They wear baseball caps pulled down tight, so they know its hard to see their faces. Glad you laughed too, I was laughing as I was typing it out. Patrick came running in to me, he thought I was crying. ha ha
Originally Posted By lilgoofymom funny story. Poor Patrick, he was already nerveous and hurting, and the Doctors don't always word things clearly enough. I probably would have done the same thing in that situation (and felt like a total goof)Let him know he is not alone in doing things like that. The creeps will eventually pay. You and Patrick probably won't even know it when they get their payback. Rest assured, They will meet a bigger group, or a meaner group and then they will know how it feels on the other side of that kind of treatment. I pray if he has surgery, that all goes well and he heals fast.
Originally Posted By bloona thank you He has just been to the drs. He said that he thinks its worth him having the surgery incase it affects his sinuses otherwise as the air pocket will be smaller because of the cheek bone. He said it would take a couple of weeks to heal afterwards, which is not what Patrick wants to hear right now, but I said if its worth it in the long run I would. He has told him he is ok to drive though now as the swellings nearly gone, and he can see ok again (phew) So we are going to drive to the towns castle after lunch.
Originally Posted By lasvegasgirl Bloona, just saw the thread.... OMG !! Please tell your sweet hubby that we wish him the best ! What a horrible thing to happen ! Keep us posted on all the latest, ok ? God Bless !
Originally Posted By debtee Just checking back in to see how Patrick is. OMG I can't believe the hospital did not take care of him the first night it happened. I bet he's scared stiff now to move his head let alone blow his nose after being told he could go blind. I hope the surgery goes well if he decides to have it, which could be better in the long term if the doctor recommends it, so that there's no on-going complications. Hugs to you both and keep us posted. xx
Originally Posted By DlandJB Patrick said that out of all this, the overwhelming support and well wishes he has had from so many people, have shown him, that despite this knocking his confidence, it shows him that the vast majority of people are really good. Its just a few who spoil things.>>>> I'm glad he is seeing the support. I'm concerned that he may have to deal with a lot more emotional stress over this - especially with the way the medical stuff is being done. It would not be unusual at all for him to have some post traumatic stress from this and it may do him good to talk with a professional counselor or clergy or someone who deals professionally with victims of assault. If he finds he isn't sleeping well or not eating or just feels jumpy, please suggest that he check it out.
Originally Posted By bloona ^^ thank you, he got a letter from the victim support services today, offering someone to talk to, or to help. We have just had a friend over for a meal. The plan was that he was cooking one of his famous currys for him, but he still feels quite tired when hes been standing a while.So we had a take away Chinese meal. yum, And he has just said he felt really good, and more "normal" than he has, we were chatting away about "normal" stuff. Rather than recounting the attack.Good.
Originally Posted By chickendumpling Poor Patrick! I'm so sorry to hear about all the medical stuff. That's just awful. >:-( I'm so glad to hear the swelling is nearly gone though. Is Patrick able to get a second opinion on whether surgery is necessary? I don't know how your medical system works when it comes to that sort of stuff. And I loved the "slide forward please" story! LOL! Classic bloona stuff.
Originally Posted By chickendumpling Oops. Didn't see your post before I posted mine, bloona. I just feel so bad for him. I totally agree with DlandJB. PTSD is very tricky stuff and I hope he decides to talk to someone. You guys should email me.
Originally Posted By bloona thank you x he said that they told him he could choose whether to go ahead with the op, for cosmetic reasons. But the gp said about the sinuses , so he will ask the consultant about that Monday. Its our anniversary Monday! I might not see him that day! He has to be at the hospital at 7.45am. He might be sleeping there that night! My friend says he will try to run me through there to see him if he can Monday, if he stays in. Patricks friend says she will go and visit him, she lives near to the hospital. I dont want him to be alone
Originally Posted By smedley Bloona, I can be available to take you to the hospital for afternoon visiting on Monday if you want. I will be passing anyway and am happy to help out. Send me a text if you want me to.
Originally Posted By bloona Oh hun, thank you a million. Will get back to you when we know whats happening xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Originally Posted By Inspector 57 First off, of course... This is horrible! It never should have happened. Patrick didn't deserve this, and neither do you or your sons. I'm so sorry. Coming as late as I am to this thread, I still don't think anyone has mentioned this... Congratulations to Patrick! He should feel very proud. Even after a couple of drinks, he was (1) clear-thinking enough to realize that "retreat" was the best strategy and (2) man enough to do it. His having both the realization and the fortitude to "run away" may have saved his life. Too many guys get beat to unconsciousness or worse because they're too stupid and/or too macho to resist the challenge to fight. Patrick's is a great example of how to minimize loss to self and loved ones. I wish Patrick and you all the best in this upcoming "recovery" phase. In some ways, this could be the hardest part. Patrick might get bored and impatient and tempted to ignore medical advice. [DON'T!] He might feel weird and scared and well-he-can't-really-say-how-he-feels about the attack. But enough time will have passed since the incident that it may not feel legitimate to him to seek help about those nagging feelings. [It IS legitimate!] The change in routine may get on everyone's nerves. Be patient and generous with each other. Keep talking to the kids about it -- encourage them to express how they feel. Err on the side of letting other people help -- whether it's providing rides, babysitting the boys, being a shoulder to cry on, or whatever. I'm glad Patrick decided to have the surgery. Best to go through the short-term discomfort and inconvenience for the long-term relief of the symptoms. Besides, that face is worth preserving. [OOPS! Did I write that out loud?!] LOL! But, seriously, all the best to you, Bloona family.
Originally Posted By Inspector 57 And, MAN, what a pisser that it happened so close to home! I mean, it really would have been easier to deal with in the long term if it would have happened in that entertainment complex parking lot, eh? At least there, it would have "fit in" with the environment. And that's an area that you could choose to avoid in the future. But in your own neighborhood?! That would really rock your sense of security, I'm sure. If you're not safe close to home, where ARE you safe? And how can you even take walks around the block now without feeling vulnerable? Man, I hope they catch those losers. In the meantime, be prudent. But don't let those wankers make you prisoners.
