Originally Posted By markcanada cstephens - When people drift apart, for whatever reason, it can be hard to reconnect. People are sometimes afraid of calling "out of the blue" for fear of being rejected. the invite to the baby shower may have been a safe way of seeing if you were still interested in the friendship or not, and had nothing to do with a gift. It was an 'excuse' to contact you, to make an effort, albeit not an obvious one. That being said, you could also be right, and it was just a "fishing trip" for more gifts.
Originally Posted By cstephens markcanada wrote: > cstephens - When people drift apart, for whatever reason, it can be hard to reconnect. People are sometimes afraid of calling "out of the blue" for fear of being rejected. the invite to the baby shower may have been a safe way of seeing if you were still interested in the friendship or not, and had nothing to do with a gift. It was an 'excuse' to contact you, to make an effort, albeit not an obvious one. That does make sense to me, and the thought had occurred to me. If there had been anything personalized on the invite other than just the info, I probably would not have reacted the way I did and probably would even have gone. I can't remember who the invite was actually from, but I remember thinking that there would have been a way for them to express exactly what you said. In the same position, I would have felt weird inviting someone to a shower that I hadn't spoken to in a while with no additional effort. It would have gone against etiquette and practice, but I would have included a really short note just along the lines of "sorry we haven't seen each other in a while - hope you can make it - would love to see you". And we were good enough friends for a long enough time that I would have thought the friend would have known me better than that. /cs
