Originally Posted By Lisann22 <<<This is a community. Not Stepford. If everyone were 'nice' what sort of community would it be? To me, it would be boring. There's room for everyone.>>> Yep.
Originally Posted By gottaluvdavillains <This is a community. Not Stepford. If everyone were 'nice' what sort of community would it be?>> I guess I am wrong in thinking that a discussion can be just that - something more than one person contributes to in a nice and respectful manner.... Something that everyone can express their views on without being riduculed or belittled for their views. I never said or implied I was looking only for the same views or a Stepford community - only one with mutual respect for one another and their point of view...no matter how superior some may think they are over the rest of us.
Originally Posted By Lisann22 Understand and I wish it could be too but the bottomline is it ain't gonna happen. So I try to focus on my behavior and reaction to those that can't participate in that manner.
Originally Posted By Waistcoated Rabbit villains.. I'm sorry that happened to you.. some people on LP think that just because you got a fact wrong or they feel like you dont have any experience "planning big things".. they feel like they have to correct you and make sure YOU know you were WRONG. i hate that.. :{ last year was the year i had finally decided to join LP.. i posted just about as much as i post now.. but i started seeing the belittling and general meaness you talked about.. i think that mightve been a reason why i left. .. but then i had to come back!! i really love LP.. i love reading all the news and just reading about other peoples disney experiences.. anywho.. dont leave villains!! you'll let the meanies win! haha annnnd WE.. yikes.. i think i'll always just lurk there..
Originally Posted By Jim in Merced CA <no matter how superior some may think they are over the rest of us.> I don't understand this type of comment. Superior? Like a 'Holier than Thou' type of thing? I think some people <are> more knowledgeable about Disney Theme Parks than others. Does that make them superior? I suppose in a knowledge sense, yes it does. But I don't feel myself beholden to them. And overall, I do think that most people here are respectful in their posts. The one drawback might be (and I'm guilty of this) that on the message board, it can become very anonymous. I know Kar2oonMan on a personal level. And I've met Lulu, Doobie and Rebekkah and a handful of other LP members just a few times. Beyond that, my personal connections with LP.com members is very minimal. But I think it's okay for me. Sorry if you're getting your feelings hurt.
Originally Posted By FiveBearRugs This is for gottaluv... since when do *Villains* want to play nice?
Originally Posted By iamsally I generally don't try to read other people's feelings. So this is going out on a limb for me. But I do not get the feeling that Gottaluv wants everyone to post only nice things. It sounds to me like she just wants to be able to post opinions without fear of being made to feel *less than* for it. If this is the case; I agree. I am also a realist and know that some people get a charge out of slamming someone else. And then there are those having an off day. And, (and this has happened to me) something is just taken wrong. I have seen some real fameups(?) here and seen them resolved most peacefully.
Originally Posted By gottaluvdavillains <I think some people <are> more knowledgeable about Disney Theme Parks than others. Does that make them superior? I suppose in a knowledge sense, yes it does.> I find those who are actually more knowledgable the most pleasant - they come across as informative and want to share what they know. For the most part these are the people that are the most friendly and truely express things in an educational way... I am speaking more of the few that feel like if they bully people enough everyone will jump on their boat and share their opinions. But you know what - Maybe I was wrong thinking that if I posted this maybe some of us would take a look at the personal attacks we have been throwing around and decide to discuss not berate each other... And yes I do include myself in this after posting a less than nice post in response to something said to me... It made me feel bad - and I was only hoping others would see this in themselves and go back to the discussion mode and maybe tone down the attack mode. But maybe that is just too much to ask of LP anymore. Like I said I will stick to PlayPen and a few others...
Originally Posted By gottaluvdavillains Okay you all type faster than me... Villains are evil - they are just misunderstood!!! <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Disney-Pricess-Story-Cinderella-Tremaine/dp/0786836474/ref=pd_bbs_sr_2?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1219707602&sr=1-2" target="_blank">http://www.amazon.com/Disney-P...2&sr=1-2</a>
Originally Posted By mawnck >>Maybe I was wrong thinking that if I posted this maybe some of us would take a look at the personal attacks we have been throwing around and decide to discuss not berate each other...<< FWIW, you've convinced me to try and be a little more careful how I express things. ;-)
Originally Posted By Lisann22 gotta - unfortunately those that play that way probably won't chime in. I don't think anyone who's posted so far doesn't feel your hurt or pain. I think most of us are sympathizing but also saying it's the nature of the beast in a sense, that's all. I've been around long enough to know that even this will get debated and drug through the ring long after the point is dead. LOL
Originally Posted By Ursula ^ Amen, sister. And you also have to remember you are in a forum with some very passionate people and they know a lot of which they speak. I totally disagree with what you said, gotta, about saying that Disney should put in something inferior and letting the public decide. My reasoning is in no way to make your opinion feel any less, it is just with experience I know that this would lead to a slipperly slope and the overall dumbing down of the parks in general. I think that we CAN express opposing positions without bumping heads. We all must always remember that people reading our words can't hear our tone of voice that we hear in our head.
Originally Posted By FiveBearRugs <<gottaluvdavillains: Okay you all type faster than me... Villains are evil - they are just misunderstood!!! <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Disney-P...2&sr=1-2" target="_blank">http://www.amazon.com/Disney-P...2&sr=1-2</a> >> I already have that book, as well as the Snow White/Evil Queen one. I saw it at DL a few years ago and then purchased them on Amazon. LOL gottaluv, apparently you haven't known me long enough. Lest you forget, I am, ahem, The Most Evilest LPer in the World™. If LP is the Dark Knight, then I am Heath Ledger. This man at <a href="http://www.pixyland.org" target="_blank">http://www.pixyland.org</a> is only child's play. If Chuck Norris and I met each other face to face, life as we know would cease to exist because the ultimate forces of good and evil are too extreme for the world to handle us being in the same place at the same time.
Originally Posted By FiveBearRugs <<Jim in Merced CA: This is a community. Not Stepford. If everyone were 'nice' what sort of community would it be?>> I'll just die if I don't get that recipe... I'll just die if I don't get that recipe... I'll just die if I don't get that recipe... I'll just die if I don't get that recipe... I'll just die if I don't get that recipe... I'll just die if I don't get that recipe... I'll just die if I don't get that recipe... I'll just die if I don't get that recipe...
Originally Posted By jdub Lords know if it were, I could be on the jury--I know NOTHING about the case! :`D
Originally Posted By jdub <<Nothing whatever?> Only that it has something to do with white people. And maybe Eva Longoria.
