Originally Posted By LuLu Thanks for taking the time to share these great stories. Hope things are going well today!
Originally Posted By Pirate Pete Hey Lisann22, Thinking positive thought`s for your Granma. Hope she is on the mend and well soon.
Originally Posted By Lisann22 It's been a tough two days. My grandma took a turn for the worse on Monday morning. To the point the doctors said call your family up, it's very bad. She struggled all day and all night, they ran a ton of tests on her. This mornign we seen the doctor. Nothing on the CT scan, no clot, etc. Bottom line is they are giving my grandma a couple days to see if she will improve then they are going to slowly try to wean her off the breathing machine. We will see how it goes. If there is no improvement over the weekend, my mom and her sisters have given the DNR order and she will be moved to comfort care. We are discussing whether to just bring her home or not at that time. He doesn't feel ready to give up on her yet BUT he says it's not good at all. Being we are such a big family he thinks we should do everything we can and let the family prepare for this as she's a matriarch. I think the majority of us are at peace with this and frankly we will be amazed if she were to make it to the weekend. The hardest part right now is we are not allowed to touch her or talk to her because it's causing all her vitals to race. She can hear us. They said she is struggling to breath and it's like trying to breathe through a straw. Man, that is so touch because the first instincts are to try and soothe her. The nurses said they know it's difficult as it's against everything we are all taught but it's taking all her energy to breath and she needs to rest. The nurses are being really strict. As a family we are respecting what they are asking because they've given my grandma excellent care so we are trusting they know best over the next couple days. They keep telling us remember she's 85. My grandma's been through a lot in her life, 8 children, 10 pregnancies, death of 2 husbands, 2 sons, 2 son-in-laws, countless others. She's the only living sibling from her immediate family left. She's tired and I think we've all come to accept that. So please pray for her comfort. Thanks for all your support, no words can express what it means to me and my family. ;>
Originally Posted By Big Thunder Lisann22, extra prayers for your grandmother's comfort. More for your entire family.
Originally Posted By LacyBelle My thoughts are with your Grandma, you, and your family for comfort and peace, Lisa.
Originally Posted By davewasbaloo My her time be comfortable and may our positive thoughts ease your family's time!
Originally Posted By Ursula Oh, Lisa, I send you best I can right now: wishes, comforting thoughts, and prayers. Can you at least speak with her if you can't touch and soothe? I bet even that gets her going again.
Originally Posted By Lisann22 Today we can Ursula. I've not gone to the hospital today. I don't want to be a pity party so I hesitate to say but our doggie Simba took a turn for the worse also on Monday. I had to rush him to the vet. His breathing is very labored. There's not a lot they can do for him. I told the vet look we are just juggling too many balls right now please give me something to comfort him and we can re-evaluate when things calm down in the rest of our lives. Yesterday day he was a bit better, last night it got very bad. I was up from 3am to 6am holding him with a heating blanket and icing his mouth for water, his breathing was so shallow. I didn't want to wake anyone because everyone is so tired. So I just kept praying he wouldn't pass or if he did - to wait for the morning. I'm getting ready to take him to the vet again. He's a lot better today after an awful morning. I guess it's like he's having spells of these breathing attacks. I'm afraid we are most likely going to put him down. We just have too much on our plates. This so breaks our hearts, not the way anyone of us would ever imagine putting our pets to rest. As for my grandma, I decided not to go to the hospital today. The wear and tear and family dynamics was starting to make me cranky, so I removed myself from the situation. I've been home cooking all morning. Minesstrone soup, some tuna salad, egg salad, spaghetti - just comfort food to have here so people can come eat and take time outs. The fast food is gonna land us in the hospital. Not good for the diet when you're trying to be strong. She actually kinda woke up today and her vitals stabalized enough that my family was able to talk to her - she is not talking back, touch her, give her kisses, etc. However, we realize in the long run that this was just a spurt and special moment to share with her. My mom, aunt and I made the decision last night to tell/ask the rest of the family that we would bring her home when the decision comes to remove her from all support. Our family is so big and so many people want to see her and say their goodbyes the hospital setting is just not going to work. We want to celebrate her life and the best way to do that is at home with family, food, visiting, laughter and music. None of this is easy and I hate talking about her in this way but as a friend wrote to me today - nature has to take it's course and with prayer and faith, we will get through it. That is our way, that is what she gave us and now we will honor her with what she taught us all. So please keep praying for her comfort and our peace of mind. ;>
Originally Posted By TomSawyer >>She actually kinda woke up today and her vitals stabalized enough that my family was able to talk to her - she is not talking back, touch her, give her kisses, etc. However, we realize in the long run that this was just a spurt and special moment to share with her.<< I've known this to happen so often; a little rally of awareness that gives the family a chance to say goodbye in their way. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Celebrate the life that she has had and the reunions that she has to look forward to.
Originally Posted By tapdancemom I'm still praying for your grandma's comfort and peace for all of you. Take care of yourself Lisa. I understand about bringing your grandma home. My husbands family did the same for his mom and she had all of her family home with her for her final days. Hugs to you all. God bless you!
Originally Posted By tiggerdis_ Lisann, I'm thinking of you and your family today. I'm hoping for the best for you all.
Originally Posted By amazedncal2 Lisann, I've been thinking of you and your grandma. I'm sending you hugs and a plate of virtual comfort food, comfy jammies and your favorite DVD. I'm also thinking of your sweet Simba.
