Originally Posted By Daddy Shiva KittyPrincess, unfortunately, no advise is going to be perfect. I remember my 14 months in the Mid-East and the toll that it took. You're learning to take it one day at a time and how keeping busy helps. Each of you has your own challenges, he's separated from home, family and the life that he knew, you have those but will probably feel his absence more strongly and, as you have already noticed, experienced his stress and frustration. An hour with a military deployment councilor would at least give you and idea of the common reactions of others and what you might expect over the course of his deployment. I look at it this way, it may not help much but it certainly won't hurt either. Is there any kind of a military facility near you with that kind of resource? If not, it may be possible to have a packet sent to you that covers those same issues. I know they had them 35 years ago when I was in. No matter what, you have a family here that cares greatly about you. I can guaranty that any of us who have posted in this tread give you our full support and will be here if you need us. {{{{{{{{{KittyPrincess}}}}}}}}}}
Originally Posted By Tinkeroon Rough weeks seem to be the name of the game for everyone lately. But I do understand what you're going through KittyPrincess. Time probably seems like it's just poking along. I have the advantage of looking at it in hindsight. (Thank goodness!) And it does go by. One day at a time and it seems so slow, but soon it WILL be done with. I recommend the counselor...like everyone else! He/she could give you some really good insight. It might make a big difference. I don't know if anything like that was ever available to me. It never occured to me! But I would have loved to talk to someone about things. There were some weeks I worried and fretted so much my stomach hurt and then the mail would come and I would get a few letters and I would feel so much better. (this was pre cell phones and computers) Those letters made all the difference for me! I suppose emails would do much the same for you. Or a phone call (all the better). You know we are thinking of you and hoping you have "good" days ahead. Keep busy!! (((((KittyPrincess)))))
Originally Posted By disney pete Kitty it's definitely a way of his venting his displeasure at not being with you and being so far away,plus the anxiety of where he is take some of the advice here may it be a counciler or a group of military spouses just to get things of your chest and of course you already have us guys to fall back on (((kittyprincess)))
Originally Posted By iamsally Have you searched *Blue Star Families*? Also the American Legion helped us. It may sound silly but if you do not have one, request a Blue Star Banner. It just made me feel good to see them in the window. And a special thing was that we had an elderly postman who knew what they meant. When a letter would show up with *free* in the upper right-hand corner he would honk to let us know there was a letter from one of our sons. I do not think there is anything that helps as much as being able to talk to people in the same situation. Counselors can do so much but my real strength came from sharing with others. I hope you can find some close to you.
Originally Posted By KittyPrincess1206 Things have been hard, these past few weeks.. He just seems to be angry all the time, and I don't know what to do. Tinkeroon, You are a true inpiration to me. I remember when my husband was in bootcamp, and all we had were letters (I actually prefer handwritten letter as opposed to email) they just made my day! I also remember that sick feeling in my stomach day after day, just like you felt. Man, I had a nice body after all that... I think I weighed between 90-100 lbs. I get frequent *military mom* emails they arent personal, but she lets us, military wives know how our men are doing. I think things might be different, of I lived in San Diego. It just isn't in the cards right now. I'm hoping to begin beauty school on the 19th of this month, and I really am striving to keep busy. That's gonna be my outlet, that and my gym. And, I do hope to talk to a counseler, or someone that is going through the same issues as I am. Thank you so much you guys, it's hard to hold back tears, reading your posts..
Originally Posted By CuriouserConstance It would be so hard to be taken away from everything you know and be in a totally different place away from anyone that cares for you. Plus, it's probably very physically demanding! He's probably so exhausted when you get to talk with him. Hang in there KP, just keep letting the time drift by, and soon he'll be home again.
Originally Posted By KittyPrincess1206 I keep telling myself that he's hurting more than I am.. He's a man, and he has his outlets. I have emotion.. That's all I have left to give to him. I'm sad, I'm angry, and I'm frustated. I'm not good at making friends, you guys...and I understand you all have more important things to worry, thank you all for posting on my thread. I hope to become true friends with you! XOXO
Originally Posted By ShivaThDestroyer KittyPrincess, you're better at making friends than you give yourself credit for and if I've learned one thing in life it's that there is nothing more important than family...and that's just what you are to us. We share this journey with you and when you need us, we'll be here for you. That's just what family does. {{{KittyPrincess}}}
Originally Posted By ShivaThDestroyer Minus 50 and counting...still thinking happy thoughts. {{{KittyPrincess & Mr KittyPrincess}}}
Originally Posted By CuriouserConstance Kitty, hope your computer is fixed soon, I miss you! E-mail me when you can Shiva, KP truly appreciates how kind you are, she's always telling me what a great friend you are
Originally Posted By ShivaThDestroyer Hi CC!! KP's a little sweetheart and Mama T and I have been where she is now. We know how hard it can be. Hopefully she's learned that laptops and water just don't mix. Thankfully, she did have the extended warranty and can go on-line with her cell if she needs to. Thank you for being a friend and watching out for her too.
Originally Posted By CuriouserConstance I've never been able to put together for sure if you two were married or what, lol. Didn't want to ask in case I was way off the mark, lol.
Originally Posted By smedley Well it's been a while since I dropped by here to offer my support, sorry about that, I wish we all could come over and give you a big ole hug, but know that the virtual ones are all here. Hoping you can sort out speaking to a counsellor soon, and that the time moves quickly for you. {{{{KP}}}}
Originally Posted By ShivaThDestroyer *waves* to smed >>I've never been able to put together for sure if you two were married or what<< CC, ask away, we don't have many secrets. Tinkeroon and have been together for 39 years and will be celebrating our 36th wedding anniversary later this year.
Originally Posted By CuriouserConstance Wow that's great Shiva! Congratulations! My husband and I will be celebrating our 12th this year, time sure flies by!
Originally Posted By ShivaThDestroyer CC, yes it does and the older you get the faster it seems to fly...I'm just hoping that the rest of Mr. KittyPrincess' deployment flies by for our little KP.
Originally Posted By CuriouserConstance I do too. I don't know what I would do in her situation. Although, in the end, I bet she'll be stronger because of it.
Originally Posted By smedley I hope for the making it stronger thing too, she's a better person than I, I know what a wreck I am when I am away from DH for just a couple of weeks at a time if he works away!
