Originally Posted By KittyPrincess1206 Thank you all so much for your thoughts and best wishes, I always knew that this day would come. I was right there when he signed the contract, and in a way, I feel as if I signed that contract too. He's an amazing man, and he will make our country proud.
Originally Posted By KittyPrincess1206 Man, I am trying to keep my hopes up...but things are starting to unravel. My DH isnt't able to take any leave before his deployment..but I am determined to see him before his departure. Even if it is for just a day and a half.
Originally Posted By officerminnie Even a day and a half will be better than not seeing him before he deploys. I will most definitely keep him in my prayers along with all of those serving this great country (including my Navy nephew!). And sending virtual hugs your way.
Originally Posted By KittyPrincess1206 Thank you, I actually just txt my DH and told him all I want to do is hold him for one last night before he leaves. Believe me, our entire relationship has been long distance, and every little moment counts.
Originally Posted By murfsmom My heart goes out to you, my nephew Ian has been deployed 3 times, 2 for 6 months and the last one for a year.My sister belongs to a group that puts together boxes for the troops,and all I can say is make sure you send a pkg at least once a month,send cards, & letters . The P.O gives you boxes and you can cram them with as much as you want as long as it doesn't bulge. And it goes for one set price no matter how heavy. Always make sure you send extra candy,cookies or whatever for him to share because there a LOT of men and women get nothing from their families. If you e mail me(it's in my profile) I can give you ideas as to what to send. Keeping you both in my prayers((hugs)) murfsmom
Originally Posted By KittyPrincess1206 I was pretty depressed yesterday, but thank you for everyone keeping my DH in their thoughts and prayers. To keep my mind off of this, I've decided to make the most of it, and show him how much I truly love and appreciate him. I'm going to throw him a farewell/goodluck party, and invite all of his friends and family. A surprise party, of course!
Originally Posted By Shiva KittyPrincess, a farewell/goodluck party sounds fun and I'm sure he will enjoy it but, if you only have a day and a half to be with him before he goes, don't you think he might prefer to spend as much of it as possible with just you? I don't know him and certainly can't speak for him but I remember, as a fairly newlywed, how I felt before leaving on my remote tour and knowing I would be gone at least a year.
Originally Posted By iamsally I remember those farewell parties all to well. Fun and happiness mixed with the fear and sadness. I hope this comes off well. For what it is worth, my son was married to a Marine as well. When he was coming back from Iraq she was on her way. They allowed them to meet up for 5 days. I know the Military has their reasons but I wish they could find a way to help families survive while our country is defended. Our best wishes to you both. Ruthie and Rod
Originally Posted By KittyPrincess1206 I was thinking that too, Shiva. It's important for me to spend as much time as possible with him, since our relationship is already long distance, and emotionally hard on the both of us. However, I really want to have a stronger understanding of his family and friends. That's kinda why I want to do this. You see, I don't have any friends (seriously) and I'm not close to my family like he is. Maybe its me trying to strengthen my marriage...I don't really know.
Originally Posted By Shiva *sigh* KittyPrincess, I don't know many people who would be as unselfish as you in a situation like this. Just go with your heart, he'll be happy either way and his family will realize that they have a treasure in a daughter-in-law/sister-in-law who is so considerate of their feelings and wants to include them. I know it's hardest on you and the DH but the rest of his family feels it too. It sounds like you've already laid the foundation for a strong marriage, this can only strengthen the bond between you and your new family.
Originally Posted By Labuda Best of luck to your beloved (as well as all our other service men & women who are away from their loved ones). Oh, and we're not "weird Disney friends." We're axe murderers!
Originally Posted By KittyPrincess1206 Shiva, I really WANT to be selfish! I guess this would be a "New Year's Resolution" of mine. I usually am a very selfish girl when it comes to spending quality "us" time together, I don't like to share at all! But, I want to change...and I also want my inlaws to approve of him marrying me (they don't know we got married, we eloped) So when the day does come, nobody stands up to object! Lol, no, but really, I want him to see that I can throw an amazing party with more people than just us.
Originally Posted By KittyPrincess1206 iamsally, it's nice to hear that someone else knows about MC stuff. I too, wish that the military would be a little more lenient with leave before deployment...but what can ya do. Yes, I'm extremely nervous about what's to come over the next year. The plan is that when he comes back, we move in together in San Diego. Thank you very very much for your well wishes.
Originally Posted By ShivaThDestroyer KittyPrincess, you sound like such a sweetheart and your honesty really touches me. I wish there was time for the you to do both or at least a compromise that would give you two a little more private time before he has to leave. I think that's important too. >> I usually am a very selfish girl when it comes to spending quality "us" time together, I don't like to share at all!<< Don't be too hard on yourself. This is an *extremely* normal feeling to have at this stage of your relationship, especially due to the forced military separations...and I'm sure Tinkeroon felt pretty much the same way when I was in the Army. >>I too, wish that the military would be a little more lenient with leave before deployment<< I'm not too surprised about the attitude of the military regarding a little extra leave before deployment. Even when I was in (Vietnam). The old adage was always, "If the Army wanted you to have a wife, soldier, it would have issued you one". Eloped?? Oh boy, I can guess that that there will be some hurt feelings when his family finds out. Just be honest with them and with same consideration that you have already shown, you will win them over...I have all faith. {{{{KittyPrincess}}}}
Originally Posted By KCCHIEF Hang in there sweetie.......and you do have friends...we are there for you. My gorgeous son has been to Iraq 3 times and to Korea. He is in the Air Force. He is a great son and military man.......and I miss him so much everytime he is gone. He is now in Alaska and next deployment is Germany. I cannot say each deployment got easier...but, I found all kinds of ways to stay in touch.....he emailed often. I got to know his "bunk mates" (for lack of a better term).....and I got my co-workers together....and we sent care packages....especially to those who did not have people sending to them Chris always told me that everything people did for them helped alot. They love to hear from us.
Originally Posted By KittyPrincess1206 "If the Army wanted you to have a wife, soldier, it would have issued you one". Lol, man have I hear that one! It's true though. We've been married for a little over 13 months, and most of my family knows. His sister knows, because she's a snoop. We pretty much just signed the papers, but we have full intentions on having a real wedding one day, maybe in 2011. I'm really happy that you and Tinkeroon toughed it out, it's refreshing to hear that military relationships really can stand the test of time, no matter how long the deployment is. I guess true love really does conquer all. You and your wife are an inspiration to me, Shiva.
Originally Posted By KittyPrincess1206 KCCHIEF, I remember awhile back, you posted about your son getting promoted. I was SO happy for him! He does seem like a great man. I'm so glad to hear that he's not going to Iraq again. I do plan to send him lots of care packages, and try to write as much as I can. I really don't expect it to get any easier, but it's comforting to know that I have a few people on LP to talk to that, have been in my position! Thanks you guys!
Originally Posted By ShivaThDestroyer >>it's refreshing to hear that military relationships really can stand the test of time<< we're working on that one, we've only been together 38 years ...would have been longer but she kept turning me down. KittyPrincess, it's not just military relationships, every marriage has it's own obstacle courses and if you love each other and if both partners are willing to work at the relationship you can overcome just about anything. I have great respect for your attitude and the foundation that you're building for your marriage and the relationship you hope to have with your in-laws. I can also tell that you have a few insecurities but that's normal, we all do. You'll do just fine. BTW, we're usually at DL just about every other month. Come spend a day with us if you like. With luck, the iamsallys might even be with us and we'd love to "adopt" you for the day.
Originally Posted By KittyPrincess1206 Oh, I realize that marriages of all kinds go through their fair share of hard times. And not everything is going to be raindrops on roses, and cream colored ponies all the time... it's just like you said, that relationships take work. It's just nice to know that you being a military man that married young, kept your marriage going. Too often you hear of marriages turning into contract marriages, and then divorce. And you DL invitation sounds awesome! I will definitly hit you up on that, thank you!
Originally Posted By KittyPrincess1206 My DH just called, and he told me the date he's leaving. February 22. I broke down.
