Originally Posted By Tinkeroon I sure feel for you KittyPrincess! I remember the day Shiva left like it was yesterday. I can still remember exactly how I felt then too. Watching him walk away at the airport...my knees nearly buckled and my breath just left me. It almost makes me tear up just thinking about it. Yeah, it's going to be really rough for a while. But it does get easier. Back then, we didn't have Skype or the internet or cell phones or anything. He didn't get any R&R. And he wasn't allowed to make phone calls either so it was a LONG deployment! He was gone almost 14 months. And all we had were letters. So, at least you can communicate with him on a regular basis. Be glad for that! I think those support groups will be a big help for you! A lot of others who are going through the same things. I'll be thinking of you and saying a few prayers for his safety. If there's anything we can send him, while he's there, to make his stay a little easier, just let us know. They probably really look forward to those care packages.
Originally Posted By iamsally I am so sorry Kitty. The only words of comfort I have is in knowing that others can and do survive this and so can you. The long deployments for my son and daughter-in-law did end up breaking them up. They just really never had a marriage because every time one came home the other left. And me being an old anti-war Hippie does not help the emotions this kind of thing brings out. But I DO support our young men and their families. We have to. BTW: My hubby and I tied the legal knot long before we told his parents. Like RT and Ann, we just knew and did not care what others thought. I do hope you get to have your *party* wedding. We never did and that is a memory I wish I had now. Best wishes. Hug him as much as you can.
Originally Posted By Shiva iamsally, isn't this about the time we let KittyPrincess know that we're best friends and live just a few miles from each other? >>We never did and that is a memory I wish I had now.<< hmm, Be careful what you wish for, it could still happen ;-) ...Tinkeroon and I would love to see you have your *party wedding* too. (sorry for the hi-jack)
Originally Posted By TXDISNEYNERD {{{{{KittyPrincess}}}}}} Hang in there. My Mom and Dad survived many long deployments and were married until Cancer took him a few years ago.
Originally Posted By KittyPrincess1206 Tinkeroon, that is exactly how I'm going to feel. That's how I felt when his recruiter took him away from me for bootcamp, and how I felt when he left to go to school in FL for 8 months. We've talked alot about how we're just going to keep ourselves busy, with work and everything. His MOS isn't the easiest to get promoted, so he's going to work towards his promotion, and aquire as many qualifications as possible. iamsally, I'm not a fan of the war either. But, I stood by him when he told me that he was joining. We've done this long distance thing for over 5 years, and it sure does suck, but it really does make us appreciate eachother more, and hopefully it will be better for us in the longrun. Dude, that's so cool that you guys live close to eachother, AND Disneyland! Thank you TXDISNEYNERD, I know things will be ok...this is just the first time, I'm just nervous.
Originally Posted By Shiva >>Dude, that's so cool that you guys live close to eachother, AND Disneyland!<< ...almost right, we live close to each other but we're about 350 miles north of DL. We did meet in DL though but wouldn't have if we both hadn't been celebrating our anniversaries. Does that count?
Originally Posted By KittyPrincess1206 I'm about 360 miles from Disneyland. That's really cool that you met eachother during an anniversary trip!
Originally Posted By KittyPrincess1206 Wow, my DH wouldn't be caught dead at Disneyland on our...anniversary (August 14th, our papers were signed on December 6th. So I guess I have 2 anniversaryies!)
Originally Posted By ShivaThDestroyer Would this be a bad time to mention that we had part of our honeymoon there too? Our anniversary is 12/8.
Originally Posted By KittyPrincess1206 That is so cute! It's kindof ironic how our anniversarys are 2 days apart. I may be able to make a December anniversary trip, but definitly not August. He does like, and appreciate Disneyland, just not to my extent!
Originally Posted By ShivaThDestroyer >> He does like, and appreciate Disneyland, just not to my extent! << That's one of the big attractions of LP...we make each other feel "normal". Tinkeroon and I typically spend the week of our anniversary at DL. I would imagine that there would be a pretty good chance of a joint celebration some day. At least I hope so. I'll even let him regale me with Marine stories if it helps get him there.
Originally Posted By iamsally Both of my daughters and my sister honeymooned in Disneyland. We never really had a honeymoon; just lots of vacations. And if a December anniversary celebration is planned tell him to be prepared for a 3-way.
Originally Posted By KittyPrincess1206 We didn't have a honeymoon either. One day though. We both want a wedding on Catalina Island, we went there right before he left for bootcamp, and fell in love! I can't wait to tell him how nice and supportive all of you are being, it's such a nice feeling to know that I'm not in this alone.
Originally Posted By Shiva KittyPrincess, with this group, you're never alone unless you want to be. We know what you're going through and many of us have been through similar trials. LP can be very "family". Tinkeroon and I could never repay the love and many kindnesses that we've received here.
Originally Posted By Labuda "And if a December anniversary celebration is planned tell him to be prepared for a 3-way." Oh, my! :-O
