Originally Posted By Kar2oonMan >>The whole nursing thing and peoples reactions would be pretty funny.<< It would be. I guess what's weird to me is that I've never encountered a woman who didn't cover up a little while breastfeeding her baby. Yeah, it's natural and all that, but in our society, I just don't know anyone personally who would be so supremely comfortable with it all that no attempt at a little privacy would be made in a setting as described in post #1.
Originally Posted By MrToadWildRider >>So should I have said in my best Sean Connery voice "shay that's a lovely child"?<< Lol >>It would be. I guess what's weird to me is that I've never encountered a woman who didn't cover up a little while breastfeeding her baby. Yeah, it's natural and all that, but in our society, I just don't know anyone personally who would be so supremely comfortable with it all that no attempt at a little privacy would be made in a setting as described in post #1.<< That's generally the case and whether it's thembeing shy or them being considerate I believe covering up is the most appropriate route and there's no problem - but there are those who just completely disregard everyone and just pop it out which is what I have an issue with. Thankfully there aren't many but I've seen one or two and I'm sure there are many others out there.
Originally Posted By Jafar30 2ooney that's what was so surprising. Usually if I see a woman nursing she's usually covered up.
Originally Posted By TomSawyer >>which is what I have an issue with<< Exactly. It's your issue - you're the one who has to deal with your reaction to it.
Originally Posted By MrToadWildRider >>>>which is what I have an issue with<< Exactly. It's your issue - you're the one who has to deal with your reaction to it. << No, it's the responsibility of the person violating everyone else's perceptions of appropriateness. Why should 20 people in the surrounding area have to vacate because of one person? Please...
Originally Posted By Jim in Merced CA No, it's the responsibility of the person violating everyone else's perceptions of appropriateness.> So the woman who is breast feeding needs to take a short poll of the people around her, determining if it's appropriate or not? Or she should just assume that it's not appropriate at any time?
Originally Posted By MrToadWildRider She should have the common sense to try to be discrete and cover up a little - I think responsibility isn't too much to ask of someone who is caring for a child, do you?
Originally Posted By RoadTrip I think this thread is representative of the prevailing current attitude that people are free to subject others to their young children at any place and at any time. When my children were young (pre-historic days) there were many place where we would not think of bringing our children where you routinely see them today. 1) Upscale restaurants 2) ANY live performance (play, dance, etc.) 3) Evening showings of movies. 4) Church services (what do folks think the church nursery is for??) ... and so on. Also, when our children would occasionally start throwing a fit, we would take them outside if we were in a public place like a store or a restaurant. I know this is not an option on an airplane, so I am not making any criticisms of that. But I absolutely cannot understand why parents today seem to feel that everyone else should just put up with whatever their baby/child happens to be doing at the moment. I know that your child is the absolute best thing on earth. To you. The rest of us would really prefer not to be subjected to them at times and/or places that are inappropriate. Now I will stand back and duck.
Originally Posted By MrToadWildRider ^^ Thank you for that post it's so true. I don't think children should be restricted from those places but I do think that it just emphasizes that it is the PARENTS' responsiblity to be accomidating to society at large and not vice versa.
Originally Posted By TomSawyer I've got an 8 month old, and I agree with you completely, Road Trip. We don't go out to eat very often and when we do we don't dream of taking our daughter to fancy places. I wouldn't dream of taking her to the movies, either - but then she's still about two years away from being allowed to watch TV.
Originally Posted By jdub >>"shay that's a lovely child"<<<< ..."and a loovely behbie attached to it"
Originally Posted By jdub >>When my children were young (pre-historic days) there were many place where we would not think of bringing our children where you routinely see them today. 1) Upscale restaurants 2) ANY live performance (play, dance, etc.) 3) Evening showings of movies. 4) Church services (what do folks think the church nursery is for??)<<< I had to go out & get some Windex eyedrops & read this again. This is form the Old School for Old Fools, formerly known as "Children should be not seen & not heard." A well-behaved child can go to any of these places (provided, of course, that the entertainment is age appropriate; parents who bring their children to violent/scary entertainment is a different issue). Children learn through the experience of doing these things. Good parents expose their children to these experiences. If the child gets wiggly or noisy, it's time to step out, either temporarily or for the duration. Gotta go. Windex is burning my eyes.
Originally Posted By Ursula ^^^ I understand that...but nowadays, parents rarely take their kids out when they act up! Maybe it's just the bully soccer moms I see here in Los Angeles, though. I cannot tell you how many times I've had to hear someone's precious child scream during a movie or a dinner. And don't even get me started on the kid who was kicking our chairs during Wallace and Gromit last Saturday night at the 8pm showing!!! (The kid should have been home in bed). I do believe children learn by doing and by watching their parents, but there is a time and a place. So I agree with Tom and Road Trip on this one.
Originally Posted By wahooskipper I'd much rather see a woman breastfeeding her baby than: * See some young punk walking around with his shorts around his knees. * See a fat person in spandex. * Be subjected to someone who doesn't use deodorant. * Sit next to a "talker" on an airplane. * See an old, vertically challenged woman without a bra on. * See a (vertically NOT challenged) man in a speedo at the beach. * Hear people cussing in public. ...or any of a host of other things. But, in all those other cases I have to deal with it. In the case of a woman breastfeeding in public...DEAL WITH IT!
Originally Posted By jdub I was talking about what good parents do; they give the children experiences; and they take them out when it's too much. We ALL have stories of the parents who DON'T do the right thing; I had such an experience just about an hour ago. But the fact that there are bad parents out there isn't going to restrict me from bringing up my child to be exposed to a variety of what I consider to be beneficial experiences. For instance, it is precisely BECAUSE he's gone to restaurants all his life that he knows how to act now.
Originally Posted By jdub >>I'd much rather see a woman breastfeeding her baby thanblahblahblah)<<< What if it's a fat, short-old talkative smelly, foul-mouthed woman with spandex down around her knees, breastfeeding braless, accompanied by her underdressed baby daddy?
