Originally Posted By cstephens Kar2oonMan wrote: > A woman is sitting on a bench in the mall breastfeeding her infant, not covering up at all because this is simply an act of feeding a child, and it's just a breast and the world needs to get over it already. Now a man who thinks this is a beautiful thing walks over and sits down next to her on the bench, tries to strike up a conversation. > Wouldn't that seem a little wierd? Uncomfortable? A little invasive? If I was just sitting there, no baby at all, and this happened, I'd think it was weird, uncomfortable and invasive, but that's just because I don't particularly like strangers coming up to me and randomly striking up conversation. MrToadWildRider wrote: > Because you're making them move MAKING? Who's making? They're so helpless that they can't control themselves? They have no responsibility for wanting to move? > People used to have that argument for smokers - if you don't like the smoke when someone lights up near you then YOU can leave - that is plain rude. And many smokers still do that all the time. With all due respect to Labuda, I can't even think of the last time someone warned me they were going to smoke before they started doing so. There's one particular restaurant where the smokers sit right outside the entrance and smoke, so when I leave, I have to run through their cloud of smoke to get out. There's no other way for me to exit, but they apparently don't think about the cloud they're creating that everyone has to walk through. It's not just a matter of making someone uncomfortable - it can make someone ill, me included. MrToadWildRider wrote: > Why should 20 people in the surrounding area have to vacate because of one person? Please... I would like to witness where a mother breastfeeding her baby makes 20 people move. Again, is the complaint about breastfeeding at all, or doing so without covering up? Only a few people have answered that. /cs
Originally Posted By jdub >>^ Is she a blonde?<< With the blackest of roots. And hearts. Some people, when describing her, for some reason use the words "cottage cheese." I am not sure why. I hope it's not about curdled milk, the poor ittle baby...
Originally Posted By MrToadWildRider >>I'd much rather see a woman breastfeeding her baby than: * See some young punk walking around with his shorts around his knees. * See a fat person in spandex. * Be subjected to someone who doesn't use deodorant. * Sit next to a "talker" on an airplane. * See an old, vertically challenged woman without a bra on. * See a (vertically NOT challenged) man in a speedo at the beach. * Hear people cussing in public. ...or any of a host of other things. But, in all those other cases I have to deal with it. In the case of a woman breastfeeding in public...DEAL WITH IT!<< But that's just it I don't think anyone wants to see that stuff and what I'm saying is people should be more considerate - wear deodorant, don't swear in public, etc. I don't see why there's this mentality of "Well everyone else does rude inappropriate stuff so I will too cause it's okay" - Why is it do hard to be responsible in public and refrain from behavior that is inappropriate and offensive to people? We have freedom in this country and no one's forcing you not to but that doesn't mean you shouldn't have the simple decency to be considerate in public. >>MrToadWildRider wrote: > Because you're making them move MAKING? Who's making? They're so helpless that they can't control themselves? They have no responsibility for wanting to move?<< It was stated that if you don't like it leave. So no one is holding a gun to a person's head and making them leave but it's "Leave or be offended" ? That's not right. Do you SERIOUSLY believe it is that hard or that much to ask to bring a little blanket or something with you and drape it over yourself as your baby feeds? I mean what is the big deal? It's not like people are asking for you to run across hot coals or something ...it's a blanket. If you're making everyone around you uncomfortable and were a considerate human being you'd try to rectify it and not have the mind set "WEll if they don't like it they can leave" when all it'd take is a small piece of fabric that weighs less than a pound... >> > People used to have that argument for smokers - if you don't like the smoke when someone lights up near you then YOU can leave - that is plain rude. And many smokers still do that all the time. With all due respect to Labuda, I can't even think of the last time someone warned me they were going to smoke before they started doing so. There's one particular restaurant where the smokers sit right outside the entrance and smoke, so when I leave, I have to run through their cloud of smoke to get out. There's no other way for me to exit, but they apparently don't think about the cloud they're creating that everyone has to walk through. It's not just a matter of making someone uncomfortable - it can make someone ill, me included.<< Exactlly, people still do it but does that make it right? Because you have to endure smokers it's okay to put others through things they don't like? You're just as bad as those smokers you have to run through on your way out the restaurant.
Originally Posted By jdub I think breast feeding is okay, so long as the babies don't smack their lips & grunt. That's just so RUDE.
Originally Posted By Ursula <Again, is the complaint about breastfeeding at all, or doing so without covering up? Only a few people have answered that.> My complaint would be a bare-breast not covered. I really hope more mothers would feel comfortable breastfeeding in public if they were discreet. And for the record, I also dislike seeing men in Speedos, young tartlets in cut-off tank tops and low pants that expose fannies, and Angelyne-proportioned and scantily dressed people. I really hate the gang-bangers with pants so low I cansee what size and type of boxers they wear, too.
Originally Posted By MrToadWildRider Excuse me I exagerrated in my last post. I don't think witnessing someone nursing a baby has given anyone lung cancer as second hand smoke can do so it's not AS bad. However, the idea that it's okay to subject others to things that they find offensive and inappropriate is the same and just as bad. But you know what maybe you're all right and who am I to care what others think? I'll take up smoking and do it in public while listening to music very loudly while swearing up a storm wearingnothing but a speedo and trying to cram food in my mouth in between curses. If you don't like it you can always leave... right?
Originally Posted By jdub >>My complaint would be a bare-breast not covered.>> Unless there's a really, really great tatoo. Art should never be covered.
Originally Posted By cstephens MrToadWildRide wrote: > You're just as bad as those smokers you have to run through on your way out the restaurant. Really? And why is that? Because I don't see a problem with a woman breastfeeding? Because while I personally think a woman should be covered to some extent, I can certainly see a situation when things come up? Do you assume that because I hold a certain position, it must mean I've been in that position? I know enough to know that when it comes to nursing children, it's impossible to always be prepared. /cs
Originally Posted By Kar2oonMan >>Because while I personally think a woman should be covered to some extent, I can certainly see a situation when things come up? << Leave it alone, Kar2oonman... just leave it alone.....
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Originally Posted By bloona >>Do you SERIOUSLY believe it is that hard or that much to ask to bring a little blanket or something with you and drape it over yourself as your baby feeds? I mean what is the big deal? It's not like people are asking for you to run across hot coals or something ...it's a blanket.<< but mine HATED blankets covering him ,the more I tried to hide what I was doing, the more he'd tug at the blanket ......and my top in pure frustration! " get that silly blanket away from my lunch!!!"
Originally Posted By debtee Yes I agree Bloona and was just about to say some babies don't want a blanket over their face/head while they are trying to feed!
Originally Posted By TomSawyer Who cares about your baby's feeding needs and comfort? It's more important that you don't do something that may or may not offend somebody who happens to be nearby.
Originally Posted By bloona ^^lol. I wanted to comment on the earlier post about not everyone being able to breastfeed, 3 good friends of mine couldnt ,they beat themselves up about it because all youre told is that it is excellent for your baby. They tried really hard, to the point where their babies were loosing weight in the first few weeks ( I know they loose weight in the first couple of weeks naturally,it was more than that) Think of all the wonderful things you do for your child, breastfeeding is just one on a list of many things. I hated how they felt because of what they'd been told. I think women should be encouraged to try, but realise it might not work ,if it doesnt, it doesnt mean youre doing wrong. You do the best for your baby. Feed them however works for you and them. When I was still feeding my eldest at 6 months my dr was shocked as most women stop in the first 3 months, imagine her expression when I went to see her later about something and told her I was still feeding my youngest although he was almost 3years. She nearly fell off her chair!
Originally Posted By cstephens TomSawyer wrote: > Who cares about your baby's feeding needs and comfort? It's more important that you don't do something that may or may not offend somebody who happens to be nearby. Dude, not one - twenty. /cs
Originally Posted By Jafar30 As a veteran of the bachelor party process , breasts most certainly do not offend me. So let's get that out of the way. But as I've said before, I don't think it would have been right for me to stay on the bench next to that woman.
Originally Posted By wahooskipper You should have just turned her direction, looked her in the eyes and said, "Hi, what's for dinner?" When it comes to the human body I'm embarassed to be an American. It is acceptable for women to show off their breasts with revealing clothes, show off their thongs with low riding pants, but not acceptable to breastfeed. I just don't get it.
Originally Posted By Jafar30 <<You should have just turned her direction, looked her in the eyes and said, "Hi, what's for dinner?">> What about "Got Milk"?
