Originally Posted By cstephens Got it. That's why I wanted to distinguish between objections to breastfeeding at all and objections to breastfeeding without being more discreet. I know there are enough people who do object to breastfeeding at all in public, no matter how fully covered they are. /cs
Originally Posted By debtee My friend took her 6 week old baby on a plane to see her parents. The Doctor recommended she nurse the baby through-out the flight so that while the baby is swallowing, her ears can equalise! She did it, baby was happy and so was everyone else as baby did not cry! This makes sense to me! It does seem very weird to me that Brittany and Jessica and all the teenage icons can parade about with barely any clothes on and that's acceptable but don't feed your baby in public without covering up! ohhhh ahhhhh???????? I have seen plenty of women feed in public and it does not bother me at all. I don't look to see if they are "covering" up as that's the mother's personal choice, she's busy feeding her baby, not worrying about if I'm looking or not!
Originally Posted By Jim in Merced CA <I personally get tired of seeing men, especially baseball players grope themselves.> You ever worn a protective cup and jock strap? Trust me, these baseball players are not groping themselves. They're adjusting one of the most uncomfortable pieces of athletic equipment ever invented.
Originally Posted By Labuda re: 111 Kim, how about the mother having a bit of common courtesy? If I'm at Disney and I'm going to smoke, I'll point out to people who aren't smoking but standing near the ashtray I plan to use that I'm about to smoke, so they may want to move if the smoke's going to bother them. Half the time, folks say no worries it won't bother them, the other half they thank me and move a few feet away. Why can a mother plopping down next to a total stranger not give them a heads-up so they can move if they're going to be made uncomfortable by being in on this feeding time? Also, last week's top 10: 1. CSI 2. DESPERATE HOUSEWIVES 3. WITHOUT A TRACE 4. LOST 5. CSI: MIAMI 6. GREY'S ANATOMY 7. COMMANDER IN CHIEF 7. LAW AND ORDER:SVU 9. NCIS 9. SURVIVOR: GUATEMALA (ties for 7th & 9th places) Hardly a case of shows exploiting women shooting to #1 in the ratings. Yeah, Desperate Housewives doens't present women in the best light, but ti's a soap opera, and nobody expects it to. The men are all pretty much scum, too. Oh, and for the record, I'd have left if I was Jafar, too - I just don't think I need to be the third party involved in a private two-person mealtime.
Originally Posted By debtee <Why can a mother plopping down next to a total stranger not give them a heads-up so they can move if they're going to be made uncomfortable by being in on this feeding time?> What do you consider is a heads up?? Talking to a stranger about breastfeeding is far more weird then actually sitting quietly and simply doing it!
Originally Posted By Jim in Merced CA <Why can a mother plopping down next to a total stranger not give them a heads-up so they can move if they're going to be made uncomfortable by being in on this feeding time?> This is really a very good solution.
Originally Posted By Labuda "What do you consider is a heads up??" Well, my non-child-bearing self would imagine something like "Hey there - I'm about to feed my baby. Just thought I'd let you know in case it will amke you uncomfortable." Given, I have NO idea how it would be phrased, but it just seems to me like that would show consideration for the fact that not everyone is comfortable with it, and give that other person a chance to say "thanks, I'll scoot along, then" or whatever. Oh, and thanks, Jim.
Originally Posted By debtee Maybe labuda?? I don't know. All I'm saying what if the poor mother then encounters the "whatever"!!
Originally Posted By MissCandice I guess this just shows how immature I am but when I was reading this topic earlier I said to Mele in an instant message "Jafar saw a boobie!" I have no problem with breastfeeding in public but I would not have felt comfortable sitting next to a lady who was uncovered. But that's just me. I certainly wouldn't judge the lady, I most likely would do what Jafar did and vacanted the bench.
Originally Posted By mj9401 <Why can a mother plopping down next to a total stranger not give them a heads-up so they can move if they're going to be made uncomfortable by being in on this feeding time?> Because I think more people would feel uncomfortable if you just started to talk to them about breastfeeding. It makes it in to a big deal. If you feel uncomfortable then you have the right to move to the next bench just as the mother has the right to breastfeed where she wants.
Originally Posted By Labuda Yeah, I can see that point of view, mj. And I know that smoking is VERY different since, well, it causes cancer and breastfeeding has no effect like that on others, I just think there should be some way to get it done in a manner that won't cause someone to be uncomfortable.
Originally Posted By jdub My cousin Amoxicillin was the most discreet breastfeeder, EVER. She ran plastic tubing from under her muumuu down and around into the stroller to her baby's mouth.
Originally Posted By RangerPooh When I was still breastfeeding I would never have done that, I'm way to shy! Most malls have a family restroom or sitting area for this. I've sat in private curtained off sections to feed our daughter, I have also sat on the toilet (not a pretty site) when a private area was not an option. Last winter I was at a museum in Seattle and in this wide exhibit area with very bright lights I looked over and saw a woman breastfeeding her daught who (no kidding) was standing and feeding. She was like 2 and still on the breast! My hubby and I found this to be unappropriate. If you're going to breastfeed in public please be discrete and cover up.
Originally Posted By melekalikimaka Ooops, originally that comment was for jdub's post, but I second it for RangerPooh's story! Wow
Originally Posted By jdub mele, of course you remember my cousin. The only thing that would have made her little apparatus more discreet would have been if she had used a NON-CLEAR tubing.
Originally Posted By jdub Oh, and by the way, regarding the topic of this thread: <This seems inappropriate> Inappropriate is the New Appropriate!
Originally Posted By jdub I might end up being "unmasked," but I think I've gotta go get me a shirt with that revelation written across the front! (maybe even a shirt with a breastfeeding flap!)
