Originally Posted By u k fan tink2680, my brother also went on a mission (I assume we're the same religion, but that's not the point of this topic so we'll move on). He also came back to live at home while he went to school. It's amazing how much of a difference that 2 years makes. He was considered a "Mature Student" at college. He's now head of Performing Arts at a High School and can provide well for his family. That probably wouldn't have been the case if he hadn't been able to live at home!!!
Originally Posted By alexbook >>One size does not fit all<< Truer words have rarely been spoken (or written). Not to get too into my own problems, but I'm one of those who moved out on my own and back in with my folks multiple times before getting my act together. I wish I'd been more resourceful and better able to take care of myself better, but I wasn't. :-( I'm incredibly grateful that they were able and willing to provide a safety net when I ran into trouble.
Originally Posted By tink2680 >>I hope you and yours health, wealth and happiness! God knows there's not enough of it in this world. But in our own way, we try to bring a little more of it!<< Agreed, same to you >>tink2680, my brother also went on a mission (I assume we're the same religion,<< very cool, where did he go? >>I'm incredibly grateful that they were able and willing to provide a safety net when I ran into trouble.<< That's great the you appreciate it, when they gave you these safety nets did they give you stipulations on it? If not do you think it would have helped you if they did? For example, if they gave you money they asked you to pay it back.
Originally Posted By u k fan tink, he stayed here in the UK and just went 3 hours north. He lives up there now!!!
Originally Posted By alexbook <<>>I'm incredibly grateful that they were able and willing to provide a safety net when I ran into trouble.<< That's great the you appreciate it, when they gave you these safety nets did they give you stipulations on it? If not do you think it would have helped you if they did? For example, if they gave you money they asked you to pay it back.>> When I moved back, I did paid rent and was expected to be actively looking for work and a place of my own. I haven't been able to pay back all the money I've borrowed (long story, and not a happy one), though I still hope to, eventually. What is the saying about "a helping hand, not a hand-out"?
Originally Posted By tink2680 uk, very cool for him, that is odd that they sent him so close to home though, they usually don't, although it happens sometimes. We want to go to France someday so my hubby can show me all the wonderful things he saw while he was there. I bet your bro loves seeing the people he taught all the time.
Originally Posted By tink2680 Alex, thats awesome that they did that for you. I think that a helping hand is always the way to go. I still owe my parents some money as well but we will both get there one day eh.
Originally Posted By u k fan <<uk, very cool for him, that is odd that they sent him so close to home though, they usually don't, although it happens sometimes. >> It's not that rare here in the UK, a family friend went to London which is only an hour away! Anyway, sorry to have hijacked the original thread!!!
Originally Posted By RAM1984 Wow, a lot of discussion has gone on on this thread in my absence. I find it enteresting and enlightening. I am glad that so many believe as I do that each circumstance must be taken individually. >>First of all, it is really only in the past 70 years or so that you don't find multiple generations under one roof.<< This is so true. My dad was the youngest of 5 boys. He always talked about his brothers moving home with their families. (And it was a small house.) During the depression there was often no choice. But eventually they all became independent, raised indepenent children and I do not think any of us missed out on the harsh realities of life. There are plenty out there. If my son living with us wasn't good for us as well we would not have him here. PAX everyone.
