Originally Posted By JazzCat As a large woman I found this statement incredibly insulting.... " there I was a couple of foot away at the most, from a total stranger, in the nude. I pretended I hadnt noticed!!.......lol............she was huge remember!!!...everywhere!!!!!...." I don't have a problem with my body and I couldn't care less if a stranger has a problem with it. It was a gym for gosh sakes! What did you do for high school gym class? Run into the bathroom stall and change? If it makes you that uncomfortable, I suggest you quit that gym and go to one which caters to people who aren't 65 and overweight. >>Is it just me then??<< In a word.......yes.
Originally Posted By debtee <I was telling her I hoped I didnt bump into anyone I knew on the way home.> I'm guessing as you were talking to her she did not feel uncomfortable changing in front of you. I would also hope that by the time we reach 65, we are past caring what other people think of our bodies! lol
Originally Posted By beamerdog >>A lot of people are just at an age where they dont care....<< Whoa there Nelly. I'm as old as dirt and I sure as sugar care about how I look. I've belonged to a couple of gyms and always wonder about how some of us are shy and some of us aren't. Personally, I try not to walk around nude in the gym although it doesn't bother me if someone else does. I'm also more comfortable showering at home and don't always use the public showers. Especially at the end of the day when I feel like the germs have had time to flourish.
Originally Posted By bloona >>As a large woman I found this statement incredibly insulting....<< Oh no, dont take offense anyone, what I meant about her being large everywhere was that her nipples were inches from me, but I wanted to be polite, I dont care that she was fat thin, old or young, I would have felt 100% the same how ever she looked. Embarressed. I was just talking to her and she was suddenly naked!.........
Originally Posted By wahooskipper "...her nipples were inches from me...". Well, that used to be a sensual thought. Not anymore.
Originally Posted By bloona <<I suggest you quit that gym and go to one which caters to people who aren't 65 and overweight.>> You took this TOTALLY TOTALLY the wrong way! even if was James Blunt standing naked infront of me I would have felt the same.................well, I think I would............ok, bad example.......um...........I was just painting a picture for you all. Please please dont read things into it.
Originally Posted By bloona <<I dont think anyone was saying that old, and heavier people dont have a right to use them....just that it made her uncomfortable...>> thanks BurtonsSeattleSally, you got my point. Sorry, I thought i was clear, but I know it depends how you read things. Right, well done a survey amongst my friends and they all agree too, none are at all comfortable with others stripping off around them. Or them stripping off around others, So there might be a lot of us a bit stinky walking around not daring to use the shower!!......lol
Originally Posted By wahooskipper I shower after working out but, let me be clear that I take cold showers and that should not be used to incriminate me.
Originally Posted By bloona I might HAVE to have one of those if James DID appear naked infront of me actually! ( perhaps he could share one...............no that's TMI )
Originally Posted By TiggerPooh1973 I am also in the group of people who would not be comfortable with that. I would be walking home without a shower too.
Originally Posted By trailsend I have encountered this all my life and I have always been amazed there ARE some people in this world who are just not self-conscious. I AM TO THE MOST MAJOREST. This is a tad off the subject, but when I am in my house alone, I still shut the bathroom door when using it, as if anyone is going to see me or something. I somewhat envy being so comfortable, as I think Miss Candice stated, with your own body. But, I also think there is a difference in being comfortable with your body and good manners. If you are undressing and *sort of* trying to not be All Out There, that is understandable. But to be *nekid* and just stand there, well, don't think that is necessary. Thank you pennyring for the funniest thing I have read in a long time. I have just laughed so hard at Delswife ~ what a talent! Enjoyed the badshoe.com site from Post #16. Have to tune in more often, there. Also, can't wait until Trippy posts here. ºOº
Originally Posted By smedley I think it's personal choice. I understand why you felt uncomfortable Bloona. I always shower at the gym, but the shower's are individual cubicles with doors on them, and I tend to be heading to the showers from the pool, so just take off my costume in there, then am wrapped in a towel when I leave, doing the dress under my towel thing back in the changing room (although we do have some cubicles too if you want them). Anyway, I just wanted to throw in here an experience I had the other week. I had been swimming and showered, and came out to change, the changing rooms were starting to get busy as it mid afternoon in the school holidays and they allow children in for a couple of hours. Anyway I head back to where my locker is located and there is a woman there with 2 boys changing, aged around 6 & 8 (there is a note on the door saying boys over 8 must use mens changing room) anyway, my dilemma is this, the individual cubicles were already taken, so I had to change out in the communal area, where this woman had her 2 boys changed ready to go and standing around watching people whilst she got ready. I am not a prude by any means, and have no problem with other women getting naked in the gym, I did however find it rather uncomfortable having to change in front of these 2 young boys? What does this mean about me?!
Originally Posted By RoadTrip I guess I would see it as nothing unusual. Back when I was in Junior High and High School we always had to strip down and take a shower in one large public shower area after Phy Ed class. Outside of occasionally getting a wet towel snapped at my naked butt (ouch!), it never really bothered me.
Originally Posted By trailsend <<>> Anyway I head back to where my locker is located and there is a woman there with 2 boys changing, aged around 6 & 8 (there is a note on the door saying boys over 8 must use mens changing room) anyway, my dilemma is this, the individual cubicles were already taken, so I had to change out in the communal area, where this woman had her 2 boys changed ready to go and standing around watching people whilst she got ready. I am not a prude by any means, and have no problem with other women getting naked in the gym, I did however find it rather uncomfortable having to change in front of these 2 young boys? What does this mean about me?!<<>> smedley ~ what this means about you is you understand this was very inappropriate for the other mom to do. If she was in a "dilema" so to speak, she should have arranged a different way to get the boys changed and definitely NOT be looking around. She also should have kept them with her out of site; waiting for an individual cubicle. This was wrong for both the boys, her children, and the others there like you expecting privacy at least from younger boys. Oooo, not at all appropriate. Trippy is too laid back today.
Originally Posted By bloona pennyring, that story of peeping Tina was so so funny, I could picture their faces. It was very well written, thanks for giving us the link. Smedley, I agree it was a difficult situation, I arent sure what i would have done if I had been the Mum either, I wouldnt happily let my 9 year old change alone in the mens room for sure, although I wouldnt have had a choice really I guess. I think I would have put him in a cubicle then told him to wait for me outside. At a swimming party for one of my sons friends, the mums were all in the changing rooms helping them get ready, they were about 7, a couple of mums were going in the pool too. One mum just stripped off and didnt even try to rush to get changed. All the other mums were looking at each other with very raised eyebrows!
Originally Posted By Kimrue <<Wait a minute. Weren't you the one who thought we should all just get over it when a woman is breastfeeding??? LP is so confusing.>> Being completely BUTT NAKED in a bathroom where you assumed you would be alone is completely different than being completely covered up by a nursing baby. Your comparisons aren't accurate. It's like comparing going to the bathroom in a urinal to dancing naked in front of a bathroom mirror and someone walking in. For some reason it's just different.
Originally Posted By jdub I think a person changing in a shower room has a certain expectation that people WILL at some point be naked in their proximity. Sort of like that seat at the mall had been adorned with a li'l brass plaque marked "nursing bench."
Originally Posted By Kar2oonMan >>Your comparisons aren't accurate.<< Your positions are inconsistent and confusing. You find it "gross" that this woman got undressed in a gym locker room. Yet you mock the discomfort others may have by a woman exposing herself suddenly to breastfeed in the other post. "Move and stop your weenie whining," I believe was your quote. Whatever. I can't for the life of me understand why someone would be shocked to find people in various states of undress in a locker room/shower area. And the fact that the woman was 65 years old and overweight, well, good for her for going to a gym and trying to do something to improve her health and well-being. Give her a break.
