Originally Posted By DAR <<Having never set foot in New York myself, maybe I have just enough distance from the subject to be ready now. And since the two guys involved helped with the story, it carries more weight with me.>> See that was the reason why I'm considering seeing the movie. I have no desire yet to see United 93. Yet I had no problem watching the one documentary on National Geographic on the events that led up to that day.
Originally Posted By TheRedhead "Of course, we are not all like The Redhead...had I been in your shoes, I doubt I'd EVER want to see a movie about it ever. How are you, by the way?" I continue to be as healthy and sane as I am capable of being, thank you for asking Ursula. 9-11 has become so weird for me now. I have no trouble dealing with it, since my life is unrecognizable since. If it hadn't been for Osama, I wouldn't have become a teacher, I wouldn't have married my college sweetheart. In short, I wouldn't have grown up. Which of course gave me a new wave of survivor guilt at first, but now it's just a part of me. Like a big scar on the back of my neck that you can't see unless I show you. But again, for as much as I've dealt with it, I have yet to relive specific honest-to-god images that I saw that day. One of the most striking was walking out of the stairwell into the WTC lobby, looking out the windows, and basically seeing a war zone. That's what the movie apparently captured so perfectly, and that is what will be rough on me.
Originally Posted By DAR <<Which of course gave me a new wave of survivor guilt at first, but now it's just a part of me>> Now let me say I've never gone through a direct situation that would lead me to survivor guilt. But I never really understood.why anyone who survives something terrible should feel guilty about it.
Originally Posted By SingleParkPassholder Copy and paste from Wikipedia: Survivor guilt is a type of remorse felt by people who manage to survive a tragic event involving much loss of life, especially the lives of friends and loved ones or other people commonly associated with the survivor. Sufferers often feel guilty that they and their family get to move on with their lives, whereas other people and their families were not as lucky. It is commonly summed up by the phrase "I should have died with them", "I could've done something" or even "I should have died instead of them". The song "Empty Chairs at Empty Tables", from the cast recording of the Broadway production of Les Misérables, is a soliloquy in which Marius feels survivor guilt for being the only survivor of the barricade. Historian Stephen Ambrose (1992) presents a case of how soldiers in World War II dealt with survivor guilt. When exposed to the deaths of their comrades in combat, soldiers felt a sense of immediate relief when surviving a battle, rationalising the feeling as "Lucky it wasn't me". However, over time they become guilty over their survival to the point where they deprecate their own actions to embellish the actions of the fallen.
Originally Posted By TheRedhead A month after 9-11 I just started to feel good again, like I was getting over it. I would then immediately feel a pang of guilt - there are so many still suffering, is it OK for me to feel good? And then god forbid I'd walk past a fire house, which I had to do twice a day on my new commute. All new guilt. It wasn't so much "why couldn't it have been me" as much as it was "what right do I have to feel happy and lucky when so many are unlucky and unhappy." It passes.
Originally Posted By MissCandice I won't see it but at least I am making progress in dealing with 9-11 films. With the commercials for Flight 93 I had to change the channel but with World Trade Center I can just look away. Maybe it helps that the commercial is playing "Fix You", a song that came out after 9/11.
Originally Posted By wahooskipper I have yet to read a bad review of the film and I believe I have only seen an account of one or two family members who are upset it was made.
Originally Posted By nevadarebel ok, something overtook me last night and I had the feeling I just needed to see it. After much debate with myself and husband (who will probably never see it), I went alone. I really thought they did a good job in portraying the personal side of it, not just the horrible images over and over that we have seen. Obviously we know what happened and Oliver Stone did a good job of trying not to remind us of the big picture but focused on the 2 guys and their families. They do show scenes of the wreckage of the buildings but it was very well done. I started crying about 2 minutes into the movie and it lasted the entire time but I am really glad that I went to see it now. It was very quite walking out and everyone had been crying. It is weird seeing the pictures of a building that I had been in many times that is not there anymore and a place that I visited just a month ago that is an empty (almost with a few trailers there) dirt hole in the ground. The scene of the lobby is really effective and it even rattled me a little knowing that I stood right there just a few years ago looking up and the ceiling and the beauty of its size.
Originally Posted By DAR <<It was very quite walking out and everyone had been crying.>> That reminds me of the first time I saw Schindler's List, you could hear a pin drop.
Originally Posted By AladdinAZ I rather have a news story about these two people, rather than see a hollywood version of it.
