Originally Posted By Tiggirl Hayden, I'm sorry to read of the frustrations you're encountering on what should be the exciting trip planing time leading up to the big day. I'm sure your wife needs time to cool off and clear her head and I'm sure she knows this wasn't your idea. ) I hope you'll let us know that everything worked out ok! ~Beth
Originally Posted By amazedncal2 Hayden, don't feel stupid for bringing this up. What better place My husband's parents were divoraced the year we were married. One of the first lessons we learned was not to mention what we might be doing with either parent to their ex. It was no longer their business and unless there was a wedding or birthday there was no reason for them to be in the same room. Even if you "get along" getting along for a couple of hours at a birthday party is one thing, a vacation is another. This is your and your wife's vacation and planning and no one has the right to invite or horn in on your fun. One year we were treating our adult kids to a DLR vacation and one of our son's thought it was fine to invite a couple of college friends to join us for a couple of day. He thought "what was the difference" if the rooms were paid for and they would pay for their own ticket. The difference was that this was a family vacation. Planned for and paid for by us. Adding other people puts a different spin on a vacation no matter who they are. If it were our idea, it would have been part of OUR plan. I hope you all are able to resolve this so everyone is OK. Personally I'd go on the vacation with your wife and her family and have a further bonding time with them
Originally Posted By Tiggirl <<Personally I'd go on the vacation with your wife and her family>> Look... now amazedncal2 is inviting herself on you trip. You just can't catch a break! ;o) LOL! ~Beth
Originally Posted By MOLLYSMOM Hayden...I think we'd all like to give you a big hug. I feel awful that your're voicing concerns about whether you and your wife will be ok. I think I can probably guess how your wife is feeling right now. She's been stashing money away each month to take her family on a great vacation, only to have your son throw a wrench into it. I'm guessing that she feels like she was stabbed in the back. After all these years of being married to you, and knowing your son that long, I'd be crushed at his insensitivity. Bottom line...your wife comes first, and she has every right to be angry. Your son is 30 years old, and while I know you love him, your loyalties regarding this matter have to be with your wife. Cancel his portion of the trip, and take your wife's son and family. Let your son pay for his mom and his family to go to Disneyland if he chooses. His mother is part of his family, and I'm sure a very important one, but she IS NOT part of yours, and she has no place at this vacation. What godalejunior said....send him this thread. Don't ever feel stupid for bringing this topic up...we're here for each other, whether it's to help choose a good hotel, offer wisdom, or kick you in the backside if needed...right now, you need some hugs oooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo
Originally Posted By nemopoppins I always think there are other ways to look at anything, so maybe your son sees it some way different. (Hard as that may be to believe because none of us writing here agree with him in the slightest.) I sometimes see things very differently than most people and then I feel like such an idiot when I realize because their way never even occurred to me to begin with. When he understands your and your wife's feelings on the matter, maybe he'll feel bad and fix it.
Originally Posted By nemopoppins Oh, and don't feel bad for writing! I hope we've helped you feel better.
Originally Posted By MOLLYSMOM Nemopoppins, that is very diplomatic of you, and you may very well have a point there.
Originally Posted By Goofyernmost Question...did I read that right? He is planning on SHARING Disney tickets? I don't think that can be done without getting caught. Maybe it was meant some other way. If not...how does one share Disney tickets.
Originally Posted By funnygarcia I picked up on that as well. It's not possible to "share" a ticket unless the other person is not going to the park that day.
Originally Posted By threeundertwo A lot of good advice here. I just want to add my support. Let us know how it turns out.
Originally Posted By hayden I've cancelled the trip and will let my wife cool down and then we will plan a new trip. My sons plan was take the 1,000. dollars we were going to spend on flying them and use it to drive down in his in-laws van and them . they have a time share thingy two hours from LA and they would take turns staying at the GC and using the tickets and the grandkids would stay with whoever was at the GC as the time share is a studio?? Anyway I havent heard from him since we talked on SAT.. I'm sure we will be at Disneyland soon so thanks for letting me Vent...
Originally Posted By Liberty Belle Yikes, Hayden - I just came across this thread too. I can only echo what's been said here - I'm really surprised that your son would do that when you and your wife were trying to have a nice family trip! I hope it all works out for the best.
Originally Posted By bobiascastle Wait!!! You are still giving your son $1000 to go on vacation? I have been reading this & since everyone has been saying the same thing I just figured why repeat. But I just have to now ... My parent's divorced when I was 3 (I am 27 now), both remarried & are lets just say odd. My mom (I love her with all my heart) just can not be left out. She has to be in on everything & even wants to go to my Aunt's (dad's sister) wedding this summer. It is really hard to tell her "WHAT, NO!" but I do. She has to know that she can't do that. My wedding was the first time they were in the same room together all 4 of them in a very long time & lets just say it was uncomfortable. Then when I had my kids & we started having parties all the time it got a little easier. They make small talk & TRY to be civil. But I would still NEVER NEVER think about bringing one to another's vacation even if I was paying for the whole thing myself. That is just wrong. We have never been to DLR without my mom in the 7 years since we started taking the kids. But my hubby & I have talked about us needing to take my dad. I know it will royally p*ss my mom off but I will be adult enough to tell her to get over it. Wow, ok so I don't really think I shed any new light on the subject but it made me feel better. I guess I needed to get that off my chest. Thanks! I hope you do go soon & get to take your grandkids. I would never keep my kids away from my parents no matter how mad I was at them & hopefully your some wont either. I bet you are great Grandparents & your Grandkids deserve to spend time with you. )
Originally Posted By hayden No I'm not giving anyone any money, He was going to use the airline money to pay for the in-laws and his mom and they were going to drive down.. He added more people .. NO NO I'm not giving anyone any money for a vacation, We have cancelled the May trip and will schedule something else later, WE will plan a new trip but not in May....
Originally Posted By melekalikimaka <<He added more people>> Good Lord! Have you told him that the vacation is cancelled yet?
Originally Posted By Disney Joy oh my -- what nerve. There isn't much more to say but sorry hayden. Time should cool things off and I know what its like to have high hopes and disappointments by kids. Hang in there..... yeah grown kids at that.
Originally Posted By CindyH You and your wife should book a nice suite at the Grand Californian, for all the trouble you've gone through!
